Hello ladies,
This is the first time I’ve written an article for CDH, and I’d like to share my recent experience. It’s about something that may be, at first sight, simple to deal with, but for me and others of us, it might wake up fears and thoughts about the reactions from people who live close to us. I’m talking about body shaving.
After procrastinating for a looooong time, I finally managed to get my torso and legs shaved. Indeed, it was a multiple day task (due to the amount of body hair I have,) and carried out the day before I was to wear a full motorcycle race suit. I did so that the tight apparel would make a good excuse for a full shaving.
Among the reasons to procrastinate such feminine activity was my fear of what my parents would say or do. They are far from what I’d label as open-minded, and often their statements (especially against LGBT people) have made me feel angry. My mother used to say how proud she was of my hairy legs, due the fact they resemble the legs of her father!
However, I’ve been building my inner courage to do so, because after all, I should have the final say about what stays or doesn’t on my body, what bothers me, what I like, what I don’t like, etc. That’s advice I’d give to anyone who is having the same kind of fearful thoughts I used to have.
On the first day, I started by shaving my torso, which could be hidden more easily, and I’ve had some previous experience. Nothing far from expected happened. The next day, I decided to go with the blades down to the thighs. Beyond the amount of hair, in order to reach the back of my thighs, I had to try some awkward positions; therefore, the result was not top-notch after the first attempt (some extra hair was removed in another attempt, during the bath). Nevertheless, I had gone far than the usual with blades……
On the last Sunday, the day I was about to test sport motorcycles, I surprisingly got up much earlier than normal and there was enough time to build up the last chunk of courage needed to get rid of the remaining hair below my knees. Anticipating how fast I should ride those bikes, I managed to remove a lot of hair in 20-25 minutes. Again, the back of calves added some extra difficulty, but most of the hair had gone! Finally, I had reached something that I had been wondering and fearful about during the last couple of months!
The day was great! It was my first experience with sports bikes, and people only noticed the shaving two days later. The whole night, my mother kept staring at my legs without say a word (my inner feelings weren’t so nice.) The next morning, she asked me why I had shaved, and I exposed both my long time wanting to do so and the race suit excuse. She didn’t complain; rather, she said if that was my wish, it was ok!
Obviously, not everything has been flowers; many red points appeared on my thighs and the itching on the first few days was considerable. My skin is most likely sensitive and became irritated due to shaving. I’ve been using a moisturizer, which is now possible to be used over the whole body, and the itching has subsided.
The biggest lesson I took from this experience is that most of our fears are not a 100% real. Instead, many of them are mad creations of our doing, based on the environmental factors we’ve been exposed throughout our lives.
So bye bye Chewbacca!!!
*The public domain picture of Chewbacca was provided by the author and used to exemplify a point for editorial comment only.
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Thank you for sharing that with us, and your point is so well taken.
Amy
Thank you Amy!
I liked you appreciated my point. This makes me happy to keep writing.
xoxo
Daisy
Love your article. It is so relatable. I just went through the same thing so it’s good to hear it from another point of view.
Thank you Yanira!
Regardless where we live, the same worries may affect every crossdresser throughout this world.
It’s incredible how it happens….same thoughts, same fears, same insecurities.
As I managed to jump over this mind hurdle, I decided to share the milestone and, at the same time, help out other people who are feeling the same as I felt.
xoxo
Daisy
I’m always scared when I shave, but you are right that the fears are mostly in our own minds. I shave my legs, torso and nether regions. But I have not yet been able to get the courage to shave my arms. Maybe someday.
Thank you for sharing how you feel towards shaving, Althea!
Sometimes this kind of activity resembles a 100m run with hurdles….we jump over one hurdle, after we jump over other one and so on.
The most important point is to understand who actually is creating the hurdles and who are making things look like too hard. When we realise that our mind is actually denying us to be happy, we can swerve the hurdles and go faster towards what we want.
xoxo
Daisy
Spot on observations! I’ve only shaved entirely for Halloween, and even then I was always worried about what my wife would say. I typically only remove the parts that cant’ be easily covered up, but I fantasize about being hairless on torso and legs regularly. Someday…
Thank you for sharing your ideas about shaving, Lexi!
Indeed, it takes time for both full hair removal and psychological preparation for reactions. However, when “the border is crossed", the feeling of satisfaction and power over our “internal affairs" is great!
xoxo
Daisy
Thank you for sharing your story, Daisy. For me, my concern was what my wife and other family members might think about me if they suddenly noticed an abrupt transition from hairy arms and legs to smooth shaven. So I started out by using a hair trimmer to shorten the hairs, just not a totally smooth look. Over several weeks, I went shorter and shorter and the transition was subtle enough that noone really noticed (if anyone did notice, they never said anything to me). Finally, I got to the point of shaving my arms, legs…my body…smooth. After several months… Read more »
Thank you Anne!
It’s an intersting approach….going step by step, without a huge impact for the people that live close to you.
I haven’t considered yet laser treatments due to its cost, but if skin irritation gets worse for me, I may consider doing some sessions. The next milestone for me in my silky smooth road has been hair removal cream (that one we apply, wait and remove with the hair).
xoxo
Daisy
@Daisy Marie hi Daisey, I am currently helping my daughtrr remove unwanted hair from hrr arms and under nose so she won’t get teesed at school.
We bought a laser hair removal tool off wish.com. very inexpensive and it is working.
I spent thousands on my back many years ago and it has gone very soft snd fine but it becsme too expensive so i stopped. Now you can by your own stuff online.
I do reccomend you try it. The younger the hair the quicker you will be rid of it
Goodluck from New Zealand
Daisy, I very much appreciated your article, and helpful suggestions. As one who is trying to keep the hair at bay, I certainly relate to the struggles you describe. I usually use a combination of shaving and cutting it off with a manscaping hair trimmer. I also find cutting the hairs short before shaving help reduce the razor clogging. Also have a lot of razors available, shave while you can, clean razors afterward, I think. Another advice I would have is to continue to shave small areas at a time, with a follow-up the next day for stray hairs. I… Read more »
Thank you for the suggestions, Lili!
Indeed, when we shave a lot of hair, we tend to rush and let the skin irritated. That’s a lesson I learned after that first experience.
My recent experiences with hair removal creams have brought, so far, mixed results….in some areas, things didn’t worked as expected, however, skin irritation didn’t happened.
xoxo
Daisy
Daisy-you are fat from alone! While I was not nearly as hairy as some folks are, it took me until just ten years ago to even dip my toe in the water as far as shaving anything other than my face. It was around winter of 2010 when I first shaved my legs-waiting until December so they wouldn’t show and stopping in January so the hair would grow back before I’d be in shorts again. I did that every other year for a couple times-then I took the next step and shaved the UNDERSIDE only of my forearms (figuring that… Read more »
Thank you for sharing your story, Cyn!
Our minds have a massive power to jeopardise us. When we learn to control such power, we can achieve incredible results.
xoxo
Daisy
Very interesting to hear all the stories and suggestions about shaving. I started shaving my body smooth about 2 months ago. I started HT 3 months ago. My first try found me lathering up and using a new blade, after an hour or so i completed the task. So I thought. Upon further scutiny i realized that I was not silky smooth as i thought. Next attempt, soaked in the tub after trimming everything down as close as possible with an electric trimmer, soaked for 30 minutes in my hot bath with some body oils. After that a nice hydrating… Read more »
Wow Traci! That shows us how determination can take us toward our goals.
I faced some trouble while shaving the back of my thighs (should you find a good way, feel free to recommend). Also, some parts between the legs are tricky to shave.
The main lesson here is: each step at once but never stop walking!
xoxo
Daisy
Thanks Daisy! The first few times I shaved I would do what many of us do, shave in the winter and stop in spring so by summer time I would have enough hair on my legs again. I was so afraid of someone finding out, in some cases still am, though at this point not as much. And yeah, still trying to find the best way for my skin, though exfoliating and moisturizing has helped tremendously.
Thank you for sharing your personal experience, Michelle!
I’m gonna try with a facial exfoliating cream I bought some time ago. Soon I share the results I could get.
xoxo
Daisy
It took me awhile to shave my legs. It’s kinda funny when I first did it. I had done it in the summer time after I started my new life in a new place. Anyways, not long after I shaved, I got set up with a blind date. Things hit it off between us and she noticed that my legs had no hair. She was puzzled at first because she had not been with a guy who did that but she went along with it and started rubbing my legs! I got scared at first but it turned out that… Read more »
Hey Stacey,
Thank you for sharing your story!
Seems that it was both funny and exciting for both of you.
The most important, in the end, is that now your mind is free of fear and you’re able to shave whenever you want.
xoxo
Daisy