Hey ladies!  It’s Christmas time again (where did the year go??!!) and for many this is a great time of year to spend with family, friends and loved ones.  For others, all the joy around them is merely a reminder of the lack of joy they feel in their own life.  I, like many others, have been on both sides of that fence over the years.  There were times growing up when Christmas morning was a magical time of gifts and giddiness, but others where I lamented that none of the presents were for Cyn. (I wrote an article a year or two back about that).  There were years when my own kids were young and seeing their joy on Christmas morning along with that of my then-wife warmed my heart, but others after the divorce where I felt alone and despondent.  In some years, I had the hope of maybe being in a relationship with someone but as the year went by, it fell through.  And now-as I have gotten older and more and more relatives and even some friends are passing on, I wonder at times about whether I’ve lost the Christmas spirit.


But then I stop and reflect on all the POSITIVE things in life.  I am “generally” healthy if slightly overweight and out of shape.  I have a nice home and a decent job that I‘ve been at for 25 years.  After discovering this site three years ago and moving along the road of exploring my gender feelings, I’ve come to accept who I am-a CD with at least SOME TG feelings, and a bunch of other eccentricities to boot, but someone who I like as a person.  And even if I never find another life partner, I will have lived a good life, with the knowledge that I treated others as I would want them to treat me, not always as they themselves treated me.


And that brings me to the point of writing this.  This site has been where I found a HOME- after many years of feeling like I was the only one in the world who felt like I did.  The younger members here may not have even been alive in the times before the internet-when isolation was even worse than it still is sometimes today.  The friends I have made here are a lifeline whenever I have times I feel like I am drowning in despair. And it is their love and support and kind words that sustain me.  And more important than what I receive from the folks here is what I am able to GIVE-for it is only in giving of ourselves that we can find true happiness.  I’m certainly NOT a trained counselor, nor an expert in relationships, nor a leader; but I DO have two ears that can listen, a voice that can share my own thoughts and support, and a shoulder to lean on for others when they are having their own struggles.  And in doing those things, I am the one who is truly blessed.  I say that not to toot my horn, but to implore each and every one of our members here to do the same-reach out to others; be a friend to someone who needs one, and just be here-whether in chat or the forums or commenting on articles. Make a difference with your PRESENCE not your PRESENTS-for THAT is the greatest gift of all.

I’ll be in chat more around the holidays especially Christmas Eve and Christmas Day so stop in if you aren’t too busy-or even if you are-and join all of us in making this truly Crossdresser Heaven!




PS –a HUGE shout out and thank you to Vanessa who made this site possible with her vision and extraordinary effort to support those who follow in her footsteps!


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skippy1965 Cynthia

The Original Cyn, or OC for short. Cynthia is from Richmond Virginia, she crossdresses every day (lucky gal!) and has a knack for tracking down niggling technical issues so we can fix them. She is also on a journey of self-examination to figure out where her feminine journey will lead her, and is always willing to talk with others about their feelings and questions or her own. Update January 2023- the above was written by Vanessa on my behalf back when I joined in 2015. So much has happened on my journey since then. From a shy CD who had hardly been outside as herself to being pretty much full time Cyn 24/7 now. I told work about me and started HRT last year. Everyone knows about me in my life now too. I've socially transitioned for the most part but not sure if I will do anything regarding legal name or any surgeries at all. It's taken mea long time to accept myself for who I am but the site has helped me reach that level of self-awareness. I say dating below but that's just the best status I can say. I have a friend who is very special to me that I HOPE will be more a life companion as time goes forward.

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Anna Smith
Anna Smith
5 years ago

That was awesome Cynthia! Thank you so much for sharing. Merry Christmas to you and yours. I’m new here,but very excited of the things to c ok me. I started crossdressing a few years ago, but had to stop. Just recently the urges to come out have gotten so strong that I’ve semi dressed a couple times over the last couple weeks. I cant take it anymore. Things have to change so that I can be the beautiful woman that’s inside of me. My SO isn’t supportive and I dont know what to do. I need some support, advice, and… Read more »

April (Pacific Princess)
Active Member

Awesome Cyn! I am FINALLY back from Vietnam, and reading your story was a great welcome home. I missed the gals here at CDH, and most of all I missed you! Hope your Christmas was wonderful and your new years turns out great.


Dame Veronica Graunwolf
Active Member

Hi April………hope you enjoyed your trip to Nam. I spent 3 years there a long time ago under totally different circumstances. Would I go back to visit??? I do, almost every night.
Welcome home……

5 years ago

Cyn – Wow what lovely words
– have a fabulous 2019

Andrea Adlerberg
5 years ago

Just plain thanks Cyn.

Regan Newman
5 years ago

Cyn, sorry about being late with my response. As usual after getting back from holidays I’m just catching up. Your artical was spot on! And we all are very lucky for CDH, it is my one place I can go to each week and know I’m not alone and can expect true honest feedback! Kisses. Regan

5 years ago

Hi Cynthia. I am so late to this; but better late than never. Love your article and fully endorse your lovely sentiments. Happy 2019 to all.

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