Hey ladies! It’s Christmas time again (where did the year go??!!) and for many this is a great time of year to spend with family, friends and loved ones. For others, all the joy around them is merely a reminder of the lack of joy they feel in their own life. I, like many others, have been on both sides of that fence over the years. There were times growing up when Christmas morning was a magical time of gifts and giddiness, but others where I lamented that none of the presents were for Cyn. (I wrote an article a year or two back about that). There were years when my own kids were young and seeing their joy on Christmas morning along with that of my then-wife warmed my heart, but others after the divorce where I felt alone and despondent. In some years, I had the hope of maybe being in a relationship with someone but as the year went by, it fell through. And now-as I have gotten older and more and more relatives and even some friends are passing on, I wonder at times about whether I’ve lost the Christmas spirit.
But then I stop and reflect on all the POSITIVE things in life. I am “generally” healthy if slightly overweight and out of shape. I have a nice home and a decent job that I‘ve been at for 25 years. After discovering this site three years ago and moving along the road of exploring my gender feelings, I’ve come to accept who I am-a CD with at least SOME TG feelings, and a bunch of other eccentricities to boot, but someone who I like as a person. And even if I never find another life partner, I will have lived a good life, with the knowledge that I treated others as I would want them to treat me, not always as they themselves treated me.
And that brings me to the point of writing this. This site has been where I found a HOME- after many years of feeling like I was the only one in the world who felt like I did. The younger members here may not have even been alive in the times before the internet-when isolation was even worse than it still is sometimes today. The friends I have made here are a lifeline whenever I have times I feel like I am drowning in despair. And it is their love and support and kind words that sustain me. And more important than what I receive from the folks here is what I am able to GIVE-for it is only in giving of ourselves that we can find true happiness. I’m certainly NOT a trained counselor, nor an expert in relationships, nor a leader; but I DO have two ears that can listen, a voice that can share my own thoughts and support, and a shoulder to lean on for others when they are having their own struggles. And in doing those things, I am the one who is truly blessed. I say that not to toot my horn, but to implore each and every one of our members here to do the same-reach out to others; be a friend to someone who needs one, and just be here-whether in chat or the forums or commenting on articles. Make a difference with your PRESENCE not your PRESENTS-for THAT is the greatest gift of all.
I’ll be in chat more around the holidays especially Christmas Eve and Christmas Day so stop in if you aren’t too busy-or even if you are-and join all of us in making this truly Crossdresser Heaven!
PS –a HUGE shout out and thank you to Vanessa who made this site possible with her vision and extraordinary effort to support those who follow in her footsteps!