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Who are we? Labels continue to be invented, revised & thrown at us — labels based on who we should be that correspond to various paradigms-- tangible or not-- that may lie outside the confines of who we already are.
I came across an article about author Ursula K. Le Guin & I just wanted to read your thoughts. She fuses sociology, group think and utter erudite virtuosity to analyze convoluted, often challenging issues like who we are and what gender actually implies as we — male, female, non-binary individuals — attempt to navigate our continual battle between internal and external, personal and collective, in the closet and flamboyant.
Le Guin writes:
I am a man. Now you may think I’ve made some kind of silly mistake about gender, or maybe that I’m trying to fool you, because my first name ends in a, and I own three bras, and I’ve been pregnant five times, and other little details like that that you might have noticed. But details don’t matter… I predate the invention of women by decades. Well, if you insist on pedantic accuracy, women have been invented several times in widely varying localities, but the inventors just didn’t know how to sell the product. Their distribution techniques were rudimentary and their market research was nil, and so of course the concept just didn’t get off the ground. Even with a genius behind it, an invention has to find its market and it seemed like, for a long time, the idea of women just didn’t make it to the bottom line. Models like the Austen and the Brontë were too complicated, and people just laughed at the Suffragette, and the Woolf was way too far ahead of its time.
I am the generic he, as in, “If anybody needs an abortion he will have to go to another state,” or “A writer knows which side his bread is buttered on.” That’s me, the writer, him. I am a man. Not maybe a first-rate man. I’m perfectly willing to admit that I may be in fact a kind of second-rate or imitation man, a Pretend-a-Him. As a him, I am to a genuine male him as a microwaved fish stick is to a whole grilled Chinook salmon.
Le Guin suggests Ernest Hemingway as an exemplification of Man. He with “the beard and the guns and the wives and the short sentences,” and retreats to her own inadequate "Man-ness".
I don’t have a gun and I don’t have even one wife and my sentences tend to go on and on and on, with all this syntax in them. Ernest Hemingway would have died rather than have syntax.
He would have died rather than get old. And he did. He shot himself. A short sentence. Anything rather than a long sentence, a life sentence. Death sentences are short and very, very manly. Life sentences aren’t. They go on and on, all full of syntax and qualifying clauses and confusing references and getting old. And that brings up the real proof of what a mess I have made of being a man: I am not even young. Just about the time they finally started inventing women, I started getting old. And I went right on doing it. Shamelessly. I have allowed myself to get old and haven’t done one single thing about it, with a gun or anything.
Here I am, old, when I wrote this I was sixty years old, “a sixty-year-old smiling public man,” as Yeats said, but then, he was a man. And now I am over seventy. And it’s all my own fault. I get born before they invent women, and I live all these decades trying so hard to be a good man that I forget all about staying young, and so I didn’t. And my tenses get all mixed up. I just am young and then all of a sudden I was sixty and maybe eighty, and what next?
Not a whole lot.
I keep thinking there must have been something that a real man could have done about it. Something short of guns, but more effective than Oil of Olay. But I failed. I did nothing. I absolutely failed to stay young. And then I look back on all my strenuous efforts, because I really did try, I tried hard to be a man, to be a good man, and I see how I failed at that. And I wonder what was the use. Sometimes I think I might just as well give the whole thing up. If I’m no good at pretending to be a man and no good at being young, I might just as well start pretending that I am an old woman. I am not sure that anybody has invented old women yet; but it might be worth trying.
Hi Dawn everyone tries to put you in a box and make you wear a label, shoes go in a box and labels are for clothes not people, the only label you should wear is the label that says my name is? We live in the 21st century and we can be what we want to be x
I looked up the quote and saw that it was written around 1980. She was one of the first successful women writers in the field of speculative fiction (Anne McCaffrey was the other and I've read stories by both - Weyr Search being my favorite and which gave me impetus to write fiction with female protagonists.
In that era, the Steinbecks and Hemingways were the authors that every aspiring author was supposed to emulate. (Tolkien was still just achieving some success but the more supposed erudite critics still were dismissive of his fantasy works even though they were hugely popular). I can imagine how she felt having to compete in a so-called man's world and in an endeavor that was still mostly masculine.
Today, we are in the early stages of beginning to be able to choose who we are and will be without having to measure up to expected norms or stereotypes, but societal expectations still exist in many areas.
As I pointed out in one of my responses to a another Forum topic, the idea of males wanting to be females - in any form - is still antithetical to many of our standard expectations. Why would anyone want to be female when being a male is by far the higher calling. It's better for females to want be males as males are considered the superior form of the species. (we'll just ignore other species like preying mantis's for example), although many in society still look askance at 'butch' females, but they seem to more accepted than sissy males.
Oh well, it is nice to be in the vanguard of changing how society views its members.
Dawn, thank you for sharing that! Le Guin is a genius. I’m tempted to rewrite that for myself, my I am a Woman story. Glorious and funny. Love 💞
Tj