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Natural, just is; no fad of thought required…
Definition (existing in or formed by nature, as opposed to artificially created)
We can decorate and adorn our bodies as much or as little as we like, much like a Christmas tree or décor in a room, and we don't need justifications for our choices about how we decorate it.
Who we are Naturally is intrinsic, it comes from within and is not right, wrong, good or bad whether judged by those who are participating in a fad of thought or not.
So, what is a Fad? A temporary fashion, notion, manner of conduct etc, especially one followed enthusiastically by a group!
When we think of time in terms of decades, or even millennia, a fad of thought could last several thousand years. Even this is but a blink of time compared to eternity…ponder that!
Who controls a fad? We do!
When I first landed here in this tiny prairie town with a population of about 100, I wore a big cowboy hat or ball cap, men’s wrangler jeans and western shirts with riding boots. In 1999 I had been participating in crossdressing again after a nasty divorce in Alberta; that’s another story.
I fought the urges to dress, purged closets and drawers again and again, as many of us have. And now, twenty years later, I glance back over my shoulder to the days of closed curtains and freeze mode when the door bell would ring. I've left the anxieties and fears that were immobilizing back then and fast forwarded on to today.
What has become blatantly clear to me today is that this desire to decorate my body in a beautiful feminine fashion has been trying to emerge from within me since I could chew solid food. It’s Natural!
I have wrestled with a million questions from, "Am I gay" to "Am I trans, fluid, or what?" So many labels and each one has a set of rules or constructs that must be followed to fit into that specific box. And then, they call themselves “Normal” and others, outside the box, must therefore be abnormal, (or so we are led to believe.)
Groups of people gather together in belief that the box they are in is the “right” box. Everyone outside that box must therefore be “wrong,” and that is the lie we have been taught through the generations of time. A fad of thought is simply all it is, and we are changing it!
Every day, if we post one thing online, share one story, show up authentically in one situation, we are changing the world. We are changing the fad of thought, and one day, people will walk the streets of our small towns and big cities dressed as they choose, and the only comments will be, “Wow, you have great hair!”
It’s natural to compliment someone. It’s natural to want to express yourself freely. It’s natural to be exactly who you are created to be!
It is Super- Natural, to create change in the world, and that is simply done by showing up in the world, unashamed and confident that you are created exactly as intended. Please repeat this several times each day. “I Am . . .Amazing!”
You are Super-Natural by nature! Because you are here right now, being a part of changing the world, the fads of thought, and even laws, are being affected for the generations to come and the next millennia.
Thank you for reading Your Weekly Reset; this week, remember who you are Naturally. You are an amazing creation full of life, and you are beautiful!
Namaste’
n huggles
Char
Very nice!
Thank you for the interesting thoughts, Char. I too find myself struggling to find which "box" I might fit into, as I don't seem to fit into any of them! Gender Fluid seems to be the best. The big HOWEVER, is what you've said, about us being natural, ourselves, or put another way, "The way God made Us".
What is important is to be true to ourselves, sounds easy, but most of us don't find it so simple and easy, and to be good to others.
Amy
Hey Amy, I hope your day is perfect for you my dear.
Yeah its been an emotional roller coaster until I stopped trying to find the label and instead just started practicing really honoring what has naturally been trying to emerge from within me since I can remember lol
It's so much more peaceful inside since I made that one shift.
Creator didn't make a mistake in creating us exactly as we are and our suffering comes from trying to squeeze our natural "self" into yet another box; it can be crazy making lol
Simple yes, easy, not so much haha but omg soooo worth it
I think it is more important than ever right now for us to be kind with one another 😉
Thanks for saying Amy, I appreciate you my friend
Namaste'
n huggles
Char
Char- as always you hit it out of the park! (I have been blessed to get the hair comment from friends and strangers alike lol). Does EVERYONE accept me for who I am? No of course not- but many more than I ever dreamed of do indeed! And THAT is SO freeing! Each day I care less and less about others seeing the Cyn side of me-instead of hiding it, I try to "own" it. And that is because people like you helped me realize that I'm worth knowing as I am-not as others think I should be.
Cyn
You are such a beautiful soul Cyn; what a pleasure to know you!
One day my friend, we will walk side by side gigging and sharing our "remember when" stories, I reeeeally look forward to that day Cynthia hahaha
I am so grateful to be a part of your incredible expansion; we are "being the change" and that fills my heart...
I love who you are Cynthia, so keep being you dear 🙂
Namaste'
n always warm huggles Sister
Char
HaHaaa decorated Christmas Tree ... that’s great! I’ve been Dressing for about 17 months now. I find there’s far more to this then just the tinsel and Garling. As a Closet Girl I pretty much have a Private Tree. But the attention and care given to each ornament, each decoration is chosen and placed with great care. As I practice my movements and mannerisms, my walking and talking. Yes, I’m growing more and more comfortable in my own skin ... in my own femininity. While I have no intention of transitioning. I do have every intention of developing my feminine persona that I have treated as a silent shadow for so many years. I don’t know what label or what category I fit in. I guess as a Closet Girl it really isn’t an issue unless or until I’m outted then there will be many and more than enough labels freely given to me. But for now your CHRISTMAS TREE has been a blessing to me, Thank You
hahaha how Beautiful is that!! Thaank you Lady Davida!
I am so excited for you dear. Read back through some of my articles, my silver earrings for example, they're fun. This has been an incredible ride and I look forward to seeing as much of your tree decorating skills, and style exploration as you're ready and willing to share with us here hehehe
Remember, the real star, is inside on the tree; glitter me sparkle hahaha
Namaste' n huggles for you Davida
Happy expansion dear 🙂
Char
oh I think it's called "My Silver Earrings dear, sorry, my bad hehe
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/my-silver-earrings/
Hi Char,
"Normal" and "natural" behavior keep getting re-defined as being whatever some influential segment of society say it is. They are wrong. It is instinctive, not learned. As you note, it isn't instinctive to reject an adorned body; we learn to do that - after classifying that body into one of the two major groups of humanity. Not logical, really, but then, our species isn't well-known for logical behavior. Better that we follow our own hearts, not some anonymous, collective mind.
Hugs,
Bettylou
YES!! totally Bettylou. I lived most of my life adhering to a collective set of ideas as if they were truths and laws of humanity; they're just ideas. Normal is a fleeting idea that changes like the weather, while natural comes from within. Together, we can change what is normal and in doing so, create a more kind, accepting and loving life experience across our planet.
My dad, rest his soul, used to say to me son, will you lead or follow? A million flies eat shit and rotting meat saying this is delicious; want a sandwich? or will you choose what YOU really want?
I remember a commercial on tv from when I was a kid; a few thousand acres of burnt forest and smoky the bear saying, this forest fire was started by a cigarette butt tossed out by a human, you know, the ones with the brains hahaha
Thanks for being you Bettylou
Namaste' n huggles dear 😉
Char
