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A good friend of mine from Crossdresser Heaven named Jennifer Ruby told me about a song that was inspirational to her. The song is Steve Azar's “I Don’t Have To Be Me (‘Til Monday)” released in 2001. The lyrics are:
I got me a brand new car waiting in the driveway
Shinin’ like a bright new star, I’ve be wishin’ on it every day
To take me away from here
So I called in to where I work, told a little white lie
No my back don’t really hurt, but that’s my alibi
My temporary ticket to anywhere but there
Call it an early weekend, call it goin’ off the deep in
Call it what you want, I made up my mind
I don’t have to be me ’til Monday
Friday, Saturday, Sunday
I ain’t gonna face reality
Three days without punching a time clock
Three nights of goin’ non-stop
No work and all play
I don’t have to be ’til Monday
Yeah
I can do what I want to do, be who I want to be
I got no one to answer to, soon as I turn the key
A cash machine, gasoline and we’re outta here
Call it an early weekend, call it goin’ off the deep end
Baby, you and me, we can leave it all behind
Now those lyrics can be taken several different ways-but what Jenn told me (and I agree with her) is that the “me” that we “don’t have to be ‘til Monday” is the ME that the world expects us to be. For many in our community, this is the ‘socially acceptable/expected’ person that we present publicly due to our fear that if people saw our true selves, they might reject us or ridicule us. But like so many of us, the person we really are-the part of us that we hide- is only given free rein when we are on our own. We take off the outer shell-our armor if you will- and allow ourselves the freedom to express what many of us wish we could all the time if not for society’s approbation. This can take the form of the clothes we wear, the emotions we feel and express, or even the ability to love whoever we want. Anything that doesn’t meet the “norms” prescribed by self-appointed arbiters of what is “right’ or “natural”.
And that is where this site does a great service-allowing us a place to “be who we want to be” –in a loving supportive environment. There are those who get out of the house often and are unafraid of what others think; but there are also many who for various reasons may not now-or in some cases even EVER- be able to share their inner core with the world outside their home. I have seen many folks (including myself) who NEVER thought they would be able to overcome their fears, but gradually found the courage to do so, because of the kind words and encouragement found on both Crossdresser Heaven and Transgender Heaven. And even if that time never comes, just being able to talk to others who understand and to realize that you are NOT alone can make the difference between fulfillment and total abject despair and loneliness.
So, whether you are attending a conference, going to a Girls Night Out, reading and writing in the forums, or talking in the chat room—don’t let society tell you that you have to be the ‘me’ that they expect. Instead embrace the moments whenever you can and show the world just how special you are!
Cyn
Thanks Cyn! Your insights are always right on the money, my friend!
As Human beings we are genetically predisposed to be herd animals and that is hammered in stone and very hard to break out of. Life is easier and not subject to as much abuse as a rebel would be. But,,,you must adhere to the herd rules and desires. As a human, you are expected to adhere to the 9 - 5 syndrome. Heads down, nose to the grind stone. Suburban 2 cars and 3 kids. Go to work to earn money to pay for the house werein you sleep to get ready to go back to work the next day to pay for the car to take you to your job to earn the money to pay for the home your rest up in to be awake for that job tomorrow.
Not many people experience true freedom to be and do what they want. Rich people.....they don't have it easy.....all the money in the world, yet they fear for their safety and kids health because others are always at the door to demand money, hand-outs donations and what not.
I have no job, I have no money, I have no family, I have no grandiost dreams. I AM FREE to do what I want as long as it doesn't impact others desires.....they are many....I am one. It is Easter and as we all know....time for Charlton Heston as Moses and Ben Hur! My favorite line from Ben Hur is when the Roman Admiral tells him (he is chained in a galley as a slave).......we feed you so that you will remain healthy enough to Row for the Empire!! Such fun huh!
Good old monday,,,,,,,,,,I Owe, I Owe, it's off to work I go!
Happy Easter everyone....do what you wish for Monday is only 3 days away. For free old me......it is dishes, cooking, laundry, trot the garbage, sweep the floors. Is there really such a state as free???
Hugs and kisses to all.....and lots of chocolate.
Dame Veronica
I love it, you always put it down like it is sister and I love you for keeping it real!
Cynthia, thank you for sharing your thoughts! So helpful.
Thank you, Cynthia, for these words of encouragement. CDH continues to be my “safe house” because, unfortunately, I may be one of those who may not “EVER- be able to share their inner core with the world outside their home.”
However, thanks to CDH, I can now dare to DREAM that one day I’ll rustle up the courage to venture out to be with other CDs, such as “attending a conference” or “going to a Girls Night Out.” I visualized how wonderful it would be to head up to the Keystone Conference this year and meet in person some of the wonderful people I know only from their Forum topic comments and articles. That notion gnawed at me for weeks.
But until that time, if it ever occurs, there’ll continue to be a “little bit of Monday” in every day of my week.
another great article Cyn
I have heard that song and to put it to what we do especially when we first start and so true cuz we are someone else until you know whatever time or day so ends up being just like the song says.
Very nice article I liked it a lot
Sometimes I think the courage to be yourself has to win over fear. That can be a pretty hard fought battle internally, but I agree that once you overcome those fears - it feels amazing to just be yourself everywhere.
Thank you so much for the post,
Vanessa
Hello Girlfriend, as always you are spot on with your insight. I always love the words you post.
It's been way too long, since The conference. I absolutely enjoyed meeting you and the rest of the ladies, as always stay lovely, because you are. Miss you ❤️ much.
Hugs JoniLyn
Skippy,
Of course you are a Richmond Girl. I went to D.S. Freeman, myself! *I am an old Henrico county girl myself!
I adore those lyrics. You are so right! I love being Roxanne, and so want to continue to be her. It just feels so "right", for me. I want a close friend, someone I can feel warm with, and close to. I would even accept a ring! I feel that strongly about it. It is the closeness that I want, need, in my life. I could be a really good Girl. I would adore to try, for someone special and close. I have so much love to give!
Keep those beautiful words, those meaningful verses, coming, Dear Lady. You are, have, won a place in my heart.
Roxanne Lanyon
Again I bow before you in respect my friend; there's a favorite quote I will share:
"If I wanna be free, I gotta be me,
now the me you think I should be,
or the me my kids think I should be,
or even the me my wife thinks I should be,
no, if I want to be free, i gotta be Me!."
Anything worth having, such as the courage to stay the course toward freedom, is worth the growing pains we are experiencing right now on this planet.
I Choose Freeedom!
Namaste'
and lovin huggles
Char
Hey Doll; Right On Target! I’m confident your putting on Blast ... what many of us feel but have been unable to put into words. Cheers to our Wonderful Ambassador!
It does take many forms of courage to be the real you, Thank you Cyn for demonstrating the service we provide to those that want to be their true selves..Like this site and my home at TGH ..Its heart warming to know we are not alone and can find inspiration in your words and the bond our community has..Thank you for continuing to be an inspiration..Hugs Cami xx
It is surprising to me just how many of us are there. And in other countries as well. Not just CD's but TG's as well.
We're about 2% of humanity. Currently, that's at least 154 million Transgender folx (using Transgender as the umbrella term)
Just pulled up Steve Azar's Music Video on YouTube for this song... he uses the imagery of a door frame for everyone to walk through to become something other than their normal day to day self... Well put together - love the imagery.
Thanks Cyn (and Jennifer) for bringing this song / lyrics to our attention... I am definitely tagging this one 🙂
Ashley
