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When you look into the mirror what do you see. In drab, for many of us, we see the person the world expects us to be, while under that image is something very different and filled with the most amazing feelings and love for ourselves. Which leads me to a conclusion I discovered recently. In accepting me and talking about what I am increases the ability to embrace all those good feelings while I am expressing myself as a women and a feminine being in the world.
As most of us have done, if not all of us, putting that person aside has led to guilt, shame, wonderment of how we got here and confusion on what to about it. Short times of acceptance, long periods of denial, and hopes of changing something and despair of having to let the feminine you go forever are regular occurrences. Acceptance in the world seems impossible when it comes to family, friends, work, and even you yourself at times. The awareness and honesty of being you feels like falling off a cliff. However, this the first step in taking that women, girl, special person and loving and caring being in to your heart and treating her like as though you cannot live without her. As I write these words, I feel so empowered to express myself even more than I can today.
Capturing these feelings and living them out in the ways your circumstances allow you to do is what you should do and let yourself feel good about it. Setting a goal to increase your time as you is a good thing. There are only degrees of success in this.
I am not an expert on much and have always said the only thing you can be an expert on is your own experiences. I have spent over 40 years coaching people, giving them advice on how to handle life’s events and drawing on my education, research, experiences and living with the girl in me. So I say at this point in my life:
The image you have of yourself is the real you. By imagining yourself you open a window into what is possible in your life and what is to come. Your life is a manifestation of your dreams; it is an art.
Become the dream and create a masterpiece.
This you have the power to do. Look inside and know the choices you have for they will come to you if you look for them. Love the place you are in and take care of those you love.
The tears will turn into new roses and the images turn into butterflies.
Thank you for taking the time to read my article and I look forward to reading your responses!
Sincerely, Mickie
Mickie, so very true! Thanks for sharing this with us.
Thank you Mickie for this very thoughtful insight into who we really are.
Very good article Mickie. You've expressed much of my personal feelings about my CD experience! Love, Aurora,Borealis
Aurora, thank you for your comment and taking the time to read my article. Take care and enjoy your Aurora time.
Aurora, thank you for your comment and taking the time to read my article. Take care and enjoy your Aurora time.
Very good article Mickie. You've expressed much of my personal feelings about my CD experience! Love, Aurora,Borealis
Your words remind me of a dear, departed friend that I still keep tacked to my wall: "Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself."
I love the opening sentence because it is almost word for word a lyric in my song "Inner Psyche" - "When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?" Obviously, these sort of thoughts and feelings are nearly universal here.
If you don't like what you see, it's up to you to change it! No one else can tell you what is right for you. I agree 100% that if you own it, then the confidence and good feelings will follow. Speaking from experience, nobody else can make you feel good about who you are, except for you!
Thanks for the article!
Thank you Alexis for reading and commenting on the article. Love thoughts to you and your departed friend.
Thank you Alexis for reading and commenting on the article. Love thoughts to you and your departed friend.
Your words remind me of a dear, departed friend that I still keep tacked to my wall: "Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself."
I love the opening sentence because it is almost word for word a lyric in my song "Inner Psyche" - "When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?" Obviously, these sort of thoughts and feelings are nearly universal here.
If you don't like what you see, it's up to you to change it! No one else can tell you what is right for you. I agree 100% that if you own it, then the confidence and good feelings will follow. Speaking from experience, nobody else can make you feel good about who you are, except for you!
Thanks for the article!
Nickie beautifully written, thank you
Nickie beautifully written, thank you
Thanks, Mickie. You are so right . But for me the shame and guilt is very small. At my age I may not have much more time. I am dressed as Cassie almost all the time in my own house and go out usually once a week. Family all know and most have seen Cassie. I just need to be me.
Cassie
Hi, Cassie, I am glad you have been able to be you inside and out.
take care and continue to enjoy being Cassie, love the name
Hi, Cassie, I am glad you have been able to be you inside and out.
take care and continue to enjoy being Cassie, love the name
Thanks, Mickie. You are so right . But for me the shame and guilt is very small. At my age I may not have much more time. I am dressed as Cassie almost all the time in my own house and go out usually once a week. Family all know and most have seen Cassie. I just need to be me.
Cassie
These words touched me: ‘’the image you have of yourself is the real you’’. So often, over far too many years, I have had two battling self images…one that felt right and good. The other that felt embarrassment and shame.
These words touched me: ‘’the image you have of yourself is the real you’’. So often, over far too many years, I have had two battling self images…one that felt right and good. The other that felt embarrassment and shame.
I totally understand. I struggle still today. I know others do as well. I am finding the more time I talk about the Mickie in me the more I feel better about her and all that she does for me.
I totally understand. I struggle still today. I know others do as well. I am finding the more time I talk about the Mickie in me the more I feel better about her and all that she does for me.
I know just what you are feeling. Keep the positive image in your mind as much as you can. I need to bring her up several times a day. It helps me
I totally get that. I have a few female friends that are deeply supportive and encouraging. I will tap into their positive vibes periodically. It reminds me that they see Kimberly as a genuinely positive person…equally or better than the male version.
OH, so lovely, it is nice to get the good feed back. Even though my SO is supportive, the positive feed back seems to only come in the form of "nice outfit and good job on the make up". I love getting that but I long for some feed back on Mickie's feelings and approach to life.
OH, so lovely, it is nice to get the good feed back. Even though my SO is supportive, the positive feed back seems to only come in the form of "nice outfit and good job on the make up". I love getting that but I long for some feed back on Mickie's feelings and approach to life.
I totally get that. I have a few female friends that are deeply supportive and encouraging. I will tap into their positive vibes periodically. It reminds me that they see Kimberly as a genuinely positive person…equally or better than the male version.
I know just what you are feeling. Keep the positive image in your mind as much as you can. I need to bring her up several times a day. It helps me
I loved your article,
I loved your article,
