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My story is probably like many of you that have gone before me. I have been cross dressing off and on since I was 12. I got married and had a son doing what is normal for a guy, but even though I suppressed my feelings for dressing, they were always there. I would dress when I was out of town for work and I have gone out mainly at night in the car driving around. Yes, I mainly dressed for myself in the closet. My feelings when I dressed were becoming stronger that I really love being Cheryl and my personality both dressed as Cheryl and when I couldn't dress definitely shows my feminine side. Cheryl is definitely taking over my thoughts. My desire to go out as Cheryl has been brewing for years and I finally worked up to where I needed to get out.
My story is probably like many of you that have gone before me. I have been cross-dressing off and on since I was 12.
I got married and had a son, doing what is normal for a guy, but even though I suppressed my feelings for dressing, they were always there. I would dress when I was out of town for work and would go out driving the car, mainly at night. Yes, I mostly dressed for myself in the closet. The feeling that I really loved being Cheryl when dressed was becoming stronger, and my personality, both dressed as Cheryl and when I couldn't dress, definitely showed my feminine side.
Cheryl is taking over my thoughts. My desire to go out as Cheryl has been brewing for years and I finally worked up to the point where I needed to get out.
We have a local store in the Chicago area called Transformations by Rori, that hosts a TG party at a local bar. I have thought about going to that party for years but I have chickened out more times than I care to mention: Last Thursday, I finally worked up my courage to go there.
I got a hotel room nearby so I could dress since my wife does not outwardly acknowledge my dressing (I think she knows since she suggested that I pierce my ears). I selected my blue dress, to wear with nude hose and black heels. I wore my blue dangle earrings and matching necklace. I even changed the band on my Fitbit to light blue for the occasion!
I was really nervous, but when the time came to leave, I put on my puffer coat and out of the room I went.
It was a cool night at about 38 degrees with a slight breeze. The feeling of the night air on my legs was amazing as I left the hotel, hearing my heels click on the pavement.
I drove to the parking garage and took the elevator down. When the door opened, a woman was getting on as I left; she said 'hi'. I returned the hi in my best Cheryl voice; it was a nice interaction.
As I walked down the street to the bar, I passed several people who did not really seem to care. I walked into the bar, found the group and was welcomed immediately. I introduced myself to everyone.
It was a wonderful evening talking with the other girls and to think that I was so nervous about going. There were several girls that got up to dance to the music being played on the piano, with everyone enjoying themselves. I didn't dance this time, but I definitely plan to go there again, to dance and let myself go. My fun this time was just meeting everyone and talking.
Now, I need to plan my next outing. Something I have always wanted to do is go shopping dressed as Cheryl as, so far, shopping in drab and Amazon has been the norm. I think this is going to be my next adventure which I will try to share. I have started getting leggings and flats for the shopping trip; I am hoping that I can do this soon.
I hope this article will help someone realize that going out may be scary, but it is well worth it. It took me way too long!
Hi Cheryl and thankyou for sharing this with us. What a lovely story you have written about you going outside your comfort zone to do something that you always wanted to do. Good on you. I sincerely hope you continue on your journey of being the lady who you want to be.
May God bless
Gwen (Aus)
Thank you for sharing your story, Cheryl!! Congratulations on taking this momentous step. It took courage and commitment to step outside of your comfort zone...and how good it felt when you did! I look forward to hearing about your next adventure...and that dancing from another girl who loves to dance!
I love hearing stories like this. It shows that we can all move to the next step when we are ready to take that step. Everyone has their own time line for their journey.
Going to Rori's T party is a goal of mine, too! I love hearing about the evenings and seeing the pictures. Some day I hope my schedule will allow me to make it! Rori is truly a treasure to all of us. Think of the difference she has made in so many people's lives. Thanks for sharing this wonderful experience!
Ben nieuw hier....heb al heel lang gezocht naar wat ik eigenlijk wil en zou willlen zijn...ik hou ervan om mij te kleden als vrouw (ben tegen mijn vrouw heel eerlijk geweest)maar het kan en mag niet van haar ze lacht mij zelfs uit....ik weet niet of ik hier terecht kan om er even over te praten
Cheryl...ik vind hier bij die bericht mijn weg nog niet..heb per ongeluk uw bericht gewist
Yes! I know everyone's circumstances are different, but I've been trying to give girls in and near Chicago the lowest threshold possible for making that first appearance in public. SO glad you mustered up the courage to defeat the "scary monster" and found success! 😍 P.S.-that's me, modeling my "deer in the headlights" look 🤪 , next to Cheryl
Hi Cheryl, congratulations on your joining a CD/TG Friendly party at a local bar.. I can commiserate with you that I too overcame nerves and insecurities, however like you, I entered. The experience with acceptance by sisters, in kind, was so inviting. Like you “why did it take so long”! 💁♀️. Thank you for sharing and looking forward to your next party and enjoy that dance!
Leonara 🌹
Good for you Cheryl! You are sitting next to my "big sister" Kendra. I just went out first time last weekend.
after reading Cheryl's write up it dawned on me that it would be great if CDH developed some kind of resource directory to allow those wanting to venture OUT for the 1st time an awareness of places in the USA where they would be comfortable and accepted