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(@Rachael C)
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Inspired by the many great stories posted on CDH, I recently spent my first weekend out en femme.

This included a visit to the local Goodwill store.  Previous visits, dressed as a man and browsing women’s clothing, always felt a little weird and I was very conscious of anybody near me that may be judgmental, or worse.  Now dressed in a long, black pleated skirt, white blouse, full make up, wig and accessories, it felt so natural and liberating to be doing the same thing!  I enjoyed looking at all the racks of clothing and even tried on a pair of pink leggings, but did not see anything I wanted, until I found a black faux leather biker jacket.

It was perhaps a little small and had a rough zipper action, but I was determined to try it on.  So I put on the jacket, zipping it up in front of the full length mirror in the middle of the store, watching my long skirt twirl as I spun around, not caring who was nearby, or who was watching me.  This felt so good!  So imagine my horror when I realized couldn’t undo the zipper after deciding to buy it!

Initially, I tried to be discreet and not draw attention to myself, but this sucker was not moving.

I think that normally from a distance, I could probably pass as female, but closer inspection would probably reveal the truth, and definitely so if I spoke.  So prior to entering the store, I was focused on minimal verbal communication, however given my current situation, I knew that this would not work.

Eventually I summoned up the courage, went over to the young lady cashier and, in my best female voice impression, described my problem and asked for help.  She did not show any surprising reactions and was super nice, but immediately called over two male employees who were working close by.  They initially tried to coach me on “How to unzip a jacket”, since the zipper was stuck right at my breast level, and they obviously felt uncomfortable touching the jacket.  But eventually they realized their well intentioned advice was not working, and I had to assure them it was OK to touch the jacket.

After what felt like an eternity and lots of jiggling and jerking around, I was finally free - and so thankful that my breast forms did not move out of place or my wig fall off.  I thanked the staff profusely and made some feeble excuse of not wanting the jacket, then scurried out of the store as fast as my heels would carry me.  Once back to my car, I burst out laughing for several minutes trying to process what just happened, and imagining what the other people in the store must have seen and thought!

I’m not sure if there is a moral to this story, but that trip and experience will stay with me for a very long time.  It’s something to tell any future grandkids, but that is a topic for another discussion!

Hugs,

Rachael

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2212

Well done you! In that situation, I might well have just bought the jacket, saying, "I'll just wear it to go " and left the shop as quickly as heels would allow! Either that or regained consciousness lying on the floor.

Thanks for sharing this, Rachael.

Allie x

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(@juliarey)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     East central, Wisconsin, United States of America
Posts: 43

Thanks for the story, I've been to Goodwill quite a few times, both in drab and en femme.  Never had anyone question my appearance.

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

@juliarey thank you Julia. My trip to Goodwill would have been uneventful apart from the wardrobe malfunction..

hugs,

Rachael

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Lady
(@gardie62)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Chestertown, Maryland, United States of America
Posts: 55

What a funny story, i would of been so embarrassed, i've been to Goodwill stores and consignment shops with my wife, and she sends me to the Mens sections 

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

@gardie62 going to thrift stores is always fun but especially so en femme.
Hugs,
Rachael

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 1 month ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 814

Super story. Lmfao, sorry! 💚

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

@valentina16. Thank you and don’t be sorry!
Hugs
Rachael

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(@katherineboesemann)
Joined: 5 years ago

Reputable Member     Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa
Posts: 192

Gosh, that sounds like one of my most dreaded nightmares. I would certainly have died of fright.

Katherine x

 

 

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@katherineboesemann thank you. I certainly hope it doesn’t happen to you or anyone here!
Hugs,
Rachael

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(@gafran)
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Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1142

 

Your story is a good example of thinking on your feet! It's part of everyday life. The would if. Is what keeps a lot of us girls in the closet. To afraid 😱 of a potential embarrassing situation or in your case. A wardrobe malfunction. 

Bravo for doing what any damsel in distress would do. Get help! Ask directions if lost. Etc.

 Fran 🥰 

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@gafran thank you. Yes, I didn’t really have much option but to request help from someone.
Hugs,
Rachael

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(@gafran)
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Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
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A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do! 🥰

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(@stella1952)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Eminent Member     Hertfordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 6

Oh the memory, I had a very similar event when the zip on a dress I took into the changing room of a busy store became totally unmovable. I was at first also against calling for assistance but in the end I did.

i departed the store with much relief.

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

@stella1952 thank you for sharing your story and being able to relate. I’m glad your situation turned out fine also.
Hugs,
Rachael

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(@Rachael C)
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This gives me flashbacks, I was very close to getting caught in the dressing room at Ross. I had to leave everything in a panic, I walked out in shame and when I returned the employees stared at me until I left 

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

Oh no. Sometimes when they say nothing but give you the evil eye, it’s worse than speaking out since you at least know what they think.
Hopefully, time has lessened your trauma.
Hugs,
Rachael

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(@Rachael C)
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and no one really cared if you passed or not. they were just there to help. you were just a regular customer with a problem. at least you got a story out of this trip and a good laugh. i call that a double win. things are going to go wrong sometime. just play it cool and don't panic. keep going out. it gets easier every time you do.

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66
  • @prettytoes thank you. It was a challenge to play it cool and not panic when a tall, young man was trying to “unzip me” in a public place!!
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Duchess
(@mkat3874)
Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
Joined: 4 months ago

Thanks for sharing this. You're right it will be a good one to tell the future grandkids. Sounds like you handled it perfectly well. If it had been me I probably would have reacted much the same or at least I hope I would have.

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

Thanks Michelle. The experience has given me more confidence to handle other en femme situations!
Hugs,
Rachael

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

The moral of the story is "S#$t happens" regardless of gender or dress. Most people really don't care, and to hell with the few that do. We just all need to live our own life

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Lady
(@gardie62)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Chestertown, Maryland, United States of America
Posts: 55

@jjandme what a funny story, i would of been so embarrassed, i've been in a Goodwill or a consignment  shop with my wife and she sends me to the men's section.

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@jjandme thank you. Yes, I agree that the problem is bigger inside my head than for those around us.
Hugs,
Rachael

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Lady
(@raven188)
Prominent Member     Idaho, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Well, one moral is that you can dress how you want, and even when things go a bit crazy, most people are going to be nice and act pretty normal when you interact for them. Sometimes, the things that go wrong, make for the best memories later on. This is true in cross dressing, just like in anything else.

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@raven188 thank you for putting things in perspective.
Hugs,
Rachael

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(@cathryn)
Estimable Member     Houston, Texas, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

These are the things that scare me in going out. I go out dressed often but can never get past the nerves of something like this happening.

My anxiety is elevated just reading this…

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Lady
(@clt)
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Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@cathryn thank you. For me, getting out the front door was a far bigger challenge. You got this girl!
Hugs,
Rachael

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

At least it had a good ending instead of the fire service being called to help...

I was in a charity store with a friend and saw a dress I liked so went into the small cubicle to try it on. I thought it looked nice and needed my friends opinion so pulled the curtain across and twirled out saying, 'What do you think'. I heard 'It looks lovely on you' but not in my friend voice! The assistant was looking at me smiling, my friend had wandered off to the other end of the store!

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@ab123 yes, getting rescued by the emergency services would have kicked things up a notch. I like your story too and can see myself doing something similar 😀
Hugs,
Rachael

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Lady
(@harriette)
Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 2 years ago

Comical, but we can survive these situations. 

P.S. rub hard bar soap on a sticky zipper and it will lubricate it for quite a while.

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@harriette thank you for the tip. Something else to throw into my handbag!
Hugs,
Rachael

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4023

@clt I am not sure that I would want to weigh a handbag down with a bar of soap on the off chance of needing it for a sticky zipper, but hand lotion, lip balm, anything that could act as a lubricant should help. Some of these may need washing off, later.

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Duchess
(@jjorgenson)
Estimable Member     Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

Thanks for sharing this! What started out blissful and transitioned to a nightmare sounds like it ended as good as possible! So happy for you to get out and shop. What a wonderful experience overall!

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Lady
(@clt)
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Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@jjorgenson thank you. Definitely an experience not to forget.
Hugs,
Rachael

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Duchess
(@joannat)
Reputable Member     Gwynedd, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 months ago

Notwithstanding the wardrobe malfunction, you’ve done it and gone out shopping en-femme! It’ll get easier from here on in.

Joanna 💕

 

 

 

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Lady
(@clt)
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Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@joannat yes thank you!
Hugs,
Rachael

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Lady
(@lea-jhene)
Noble Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

That is a really crazy first time out! But it ended well. To more adventures!!

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@lea-jhene thank you. Yes, I’m looking forward to more adventures!
Hugs,
Rachael

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Lady
(@celestecd)
Reputable Member     Colorado, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Thanks for sharing that story. That is one of my hestitations with going shopping in real life. Your attitude and ability to laugh it off is inspirational

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

@celestecd thank you. My experience, along with all the positive comments like yours, has helped me to become less intimidated about going out. Before the wardrobe mishap, I would freaked out at the thought of having to be helped in such a way. But ultimately, it’s a problem that could have happened to me in guy mode too and I would have shrugged it off.
Hugs,
Rachael

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Lady
(@celestecd)
Joined: 4 years ago

Reputable Member     Colorado, United States of America
Posts: 210

Rachael, I keep reminding myself that every situation I encounter...after I survive/make my way through it - I realize that any nervousness I had is normal because it is the first time I'm experiencing en femme. Its like riding a bike...that first time you are nervous about falling off but once you pedal away, you realize it wasnt bad at all. It just becomes a life experience that gives me confidence to keep stretching, growing, and trying new things. I hope that makes sense - perhaps you can relate?

Celeste

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@celestecd yes I can relate!
Hugs
Rachael

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Lady
(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

I once tried a dress on in a charity shop. It was a little snug but I managed to pull it down over my breasts so I could see what it looked like. I liked it, but thought it a little too tight. Time to take it off.... Nope wouldn't budge. Whilst it had a zip, it was at the back and I couldn't reach it. Try as I might, it would not budge.  I then thought the best action was to buy the dress..... I went into the shop in man mode, and left it in Cerys mode.... I wore the dress to the counter, the volunteer scanned the tag, I paid, removed the tag (The volunteer did) and walked to the car.... This was a few years back, I've lost weight since then and the dress now fits properly.... It was only £4, so worth it.... Main problem was that this was longe before I was out in the open.  The walk from the car to my house was scary 🙂

Cerys

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

@dazzler wow that’s so brave of you!
I did think about not unzipping the jacket and buying it as is but then I would still need help unzipping eventually.
Hugs,
Rachael

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(@nannycd)
Trusted Member     São Paulo, São Paulo, Brazil
Joined: 6 months ago

I wish i had the guts to go out! You're Soo brave, girl! Good for you!

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 66

@nannycd thank you.
You have such a pretty profile pic that I’m sure you could totally pass in public without any fear.
Hugs
Rachael

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(@nannycd)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     São Paulo, São Paulo, Brazil
Posts: 23

Thank you, hun! But im guilty for using a little bit of a faceapp on this picture, currently working on my femme appearance and with some lucky I'll get there!

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Lady
(@kendra2024)
Estimable Member     Chicago, Illinois, United States of America
Joined: 1 month ago

See? You were brave enough to go out, and, when the "zips" WEREN'T down, you were brave enough to do whatever the situation called for! You rock! And imagine how you'll feel next time after clearing this hurdle! 😍

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Lady
(@clt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
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@kendra2024 thank you. It does now give me more confidence for my next adventure!

hugs,

Rachael

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