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It’s wonderful to share another crossdressing success story with you dear readers. This story is shared by Mita, who comes all the way from Bangladesh. I had given a thought to helping her with her English grammar, but in the end felt it was more appropriate to leave the story in her words. I know that I would not be as adept sharing my story in a second or third language. There is also something amazing to me, that we share a bond even though our language is so uncommon.
I also want you to know that you don’t need to be Shakespeare to share your crossdressing success story. It only takes a few moments of your time to share a sincere story to uplift your sisters. Please take a moment to write down your real life crossdressing success story (in under 750 words) and send it to me at vanessalaw@crossdresserheaven.com. Include your femme name, a brief introduction and a photo (optional). I’ll share your story with readers of Crossdresser Heaven.
Meet Mita – A Bangladesh Crossdresser
My feminine name is mita. I m 32 from bangladesh. possesses a job.
i like share my story to every body.
Mita’s Bangladesh Crossdresser Experience
I cross dress from 11. I start it with my sisters clothes. On my age 6 or 7 I found a piece of cloth having tape and 2 cup in my elder sisters cloth staff. I asked her what is it. She laughed and said it is Bra & it is for girls only. I become curious on that. On a good morning when my sister out of home to his college just then i took a bra from her wardrobe and tried with it front of mirror. I find me good looking.
Then I become crazy about Bra as well as panties. I regularly used to use Bra and panties under my dress. I used to make me feminine with sari and petticoat and blouse (these three are Bangladeshi women's dress) which gave me sexy look. But all in secret in my all relations. I think i have to tell some body about my CD story but finding no way.
I start to buy bra, panties, lipsticks, mascara. eyeliner, and other girly dress staff. I used to bought these from shopping mall and of course from sales girls. They ask me for whom i buying these. I answered in a halted breath that for me. They laughed and say can man dress him by women's clothes.
I answered if you dressed your self with men's dress then why man could not use ladies dress, she agree. [Ed: Very perceptive. Woman have the luxury of wearing anything that men wear, but the same luxury is not extended to us] But asked me one question - why bra? I told her it is basic part of women dress. so i take it if i dress in women cloth.
When i walk I found women walking keeping their bra's out line is clear. I think it will be thrilling if I could walk in open keeping my bra's out line clear to all. but what could I do. on a morning as i alone in home I took a pink bra put it then I took a tight T-shirt and go out of home. Out line of bra's are clear. I felt it thrilling and think it sexy job one. people on the way stared me and laughed. Then I started to go out with bra and panties. Some times I take pushup bra so my breast line is clearly visible from my front which astonished other who see me.when I put them I become very happy and crazy.
I started with girly dress of my neighbor, cousin, etc. On day i caught by sister. she told that she suspect this but not asked me. however she helped me a lot with all her ladies staff. then i become very very crazy with CD.
I married at 29. But i still keeping it secret to my wife. I adopted a trick which i telling you. All married CD may use this trick with your wife if you find no way to disclose it to her. On a crazy night we are about to indulge sex. I offered her that this day we may change our role. she asked how? I told her take it that I am your wife and you are my husband. She laughed and agree, And asked me how we can change our role? I told her you take my dress and dressed your self as man and I am taking your dress for my self. Then I helped her to made her a husband in my dress. She Also helped me to dress me as woman as his(her) wife.
She dressed me with her bra, panties, lingerie's, scarf, lipsticks, rose, mascara, eye liner, etc. After made me a woman she laughed and told me that Wow, you look like a beautiful sexy woman. I laughed and though my trick is successful. she took it as a pleasure and game. after that day we play this game many times. so now i am not worried about what my wife think with my CDing. When i become crazy to be CD, i offer her and with her help I making me a woman as i like when and were. One day we go out as two sister's. she dressed me all the way she know. we traveled many places, no body found it that a man is travelling and passing in the sexy dress of woman.
However, I like to tell that, my ass is some bigger than that of general man and my breast is also. A 36 bra is easy fitting with this. Now when i typing this i am in a bra and panties.
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Mita, thank you for sharing your story. For anyone who is contemplating telling your wife, I don’t recommend Mita’s approach. It might work for a few people, but things can go disastrously wrong. If she finds out the truth she’ll feel betrayed because you lied to her. Be very careful. I wrote some thoughts on how to tell your wife you crossdress.
For a long time, I have always felt out of sorts with myself, even as a young child not feeling like I should and being totally and socially inept.
I even started dressing up at a very young age also.
Even when I was in my teens I was dressing up very privately, going out when no one was around in a pair of heels and a dress.
Then I joined the military, the one place that is even more difficult to get dressed up in.
I got married, first wife had a child by me (I think he's mine), and I let her know that I was a crossdresser.
Later in life, after my wife and I broke up, it was then I realized what it was I was. I'm not into the full blown SRS, but I do want to look feminine. I feel at home and much more comfortable. I've even had jobs as a woman. Sheesh, guys can stare a hole through ya though! I politely tell them I'm not interested and I'm involved.
This is an aspect that is rarely looked at. People tend to see us as "homosexuals" when in fact some of us are "lesbians" (heterosexual for the sexually impaired).
My current wife and I moved in together 5 years ago. She knew the deal when we were just roommates. Then along came dating, and now as you can see I'm married, and very happily. Although, everything else about me seems to have gone to the side. It's very difficult somewhat and somewhat not being me. I don't get angry about it, but I do get a little depressed about the situation of somewhat/somewhat not being me. I just need a good girls night out. Dressed to the 9's!
Anyway, my wife's family and my wife and I are Christians, which makes the whole thing that much harder. Her family flipped a wig when they found out about me. So, when I'm around them, I have to be solidly "MALE". I just don't feel comfortable with it. Never have! Then they tell me "Be A Man", when I have no clue what it even means to be one. I may have the anatomy of a "MAN", but I don't have the heart and mind of one, never have.
I believe my wife tolerates me crossdressing. Although she doesn't buy me anything feminine, but I sure do buy her very feminine things. At least I get to enjoy shopping. She hates it!
As I am sitting here now, in ladies jeans, top, panties and a bra with my toe nails painted.
It is a difficult life and position we're in. No one understands it but us. They either tolerate it or are intolerant to it completely. There is not middle ground for "THEM". We're seen as freaks because we are misunderstood.
I once explained it this way...
"Ever seen a really cute dress? Tried it on? And no matter how cute it looks, how nice the material is, it just doesn't fit. That's how I feel in my body."
When Mita talks about how she brought it up to her spouse, that's what I did originally to my first wife, and sadly didn't workout for many reasons, not just because of the crossdressing.
I have been down that road. Even the road in which my own family has stated that they don't want me around.
I've only found solace in being alone and being me. Fortunately, my wife is tolerant, but occasionally she brings up the fact that her mom/dad and the church.
They say God can fix this, and trust me I have prayed and prayed about this many times. I know that God loves me no matter what I look like on the outside. He knows what's in my heart and in my mind.
God is about acceptance and love. No if's, and's or but's about it.
Being transgendered/crossdresser and Christian is an even more difficult road. A road where pastors, family and friends who are Christian jump down your throat at every opportunity they get.
I believe in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit, and have even given my life over to God. But I know that I am an imperfect being and have sinned. God forgives me.
I wish I could put it into terms more about how Christianity affects me.
The feeling that one has down inside them about who and what they are is very deep.
God can change a person to their very core, and though I have prayed about this many times, even had people praying for me, I just don't feel the need to change from any outside force nor a force within me wanting to change what it is I am. From God or anyone.
I know what I am, like who I am and I'm happy with it. Many are angry about what they are, and that's why transsexuals have the highest suicide rate before the age of 30 in comparison.
Thankfully Mita has come to terms with who she is and her wife enjoys who she is also.
Though, I sometimes wish my wife would say to me "Put your heels on, a cute dress, do up your hair, paint your nails and do you makeup... WE ARE HEADED OUT TONIGHT!"
I've ranted on long enough...
God Bless you all in whatever shape or form you feel comfortable in!
Patti Beth
Vancouver, Washington
Patti,
Thank you so much for sharing dear. Your analogy of a 'really cute dress' not fitting is a great one. I know from personal experience how hard it is to reconcile religion and crossdressing. Ask yourself, what would Jesus say to a crossdresser? If I know my Bible, Jesus would eat at the crossdressers house. He would bless them, and pour out His love. He would admonish the crossdresser to show similar love for others.
It makes me EXTREMELY angry when the church tries to take the moral high ground and ignore Jesus' message of love. You are so right in what you say - 'God is about love'.
On of the hardest things to do in this life is to love yourself. To truly accept yourself, warts and all. Not to love yourself if you're 10lbs thinner, or if you get the next promotion, or if you have the perfect family. But to love yourself as God loves you.
I pray that all of us would know such abundant love for ourselves.
Thank you for writing Patti. You have a beautiful spirit.
Vanessa
Hello Mita,
I am a crossdresser from Dhaka .
can we contact eachother?
Thanks,
Zoya
> wearing crocs
To be fair, that is just wrong; a halter + short skirt is just questionable 🙂
Iffy jokes aside: it is a difficult one. I've not seen the photos, so I can't judge the outfit personally; I can only go on what others have said.
By the sounds of it, the outfit was 'too much' for the occasion and if a (genetic) woman had worn it, again, no doubt she'd have drawn flack for it too.
But... he's his own man... no joke intended, and if he wants to dress like that, that's up to him.
hi joya. This is mou. Remember me?
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hi to all. i wana meet u all Zoya jona mou and leona. i m a crossdresser too.
hI! leona , zoya and laboni i like to meet u my email is mitahoq@yahoo.com. pls mail me
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