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This piece was first published on the NHS choices website to help support TG’s by sharing other aspects of the TG community and showing alternatives to transitioning. This article is reposted by Author permission.
Meeting my partner, Jules
"My two sisters know that I'm trans. My parents don't know, or if they do know they haven't said anything about it. Jules' parents know. She told them when we first started dating, and I've been out with them dressed in women's clothes.
Being found out at work
Dawn,
Thank you for your well thought out autobiography... You are very fortunate that you have an understanding partner.
I am still part time CD who expresses my feminity when the opportunity presents itself. My wife knows but prefers not to participate in my alter ego.. She has outings with friends to give me the opportunity at home. However , I have managed to have two makeovers which have given me the realization that I loved to express my feminine side and express who I really am...
To express my femine feelings were somewhat derailed when I was diagnosed with spinal stenosis, spinal cord compression surgery which was life threatening...however, the side effects were losing strength in my arms & legs..after 9 weeks of hospital physical therapy, I can walk with an aid of a walker and I can manage to feed my self.....
When I got home from the hospital, I realized my feelings to express my self as a woman were not altered by the operation because that is me . Thank you for giving the opportunity to express my story and my journey wherever that may lead. Leonara
Hi Dawn.
Thank you so much for your wonderful story, I am so f2f you have wonderful
Supportive partner and works mate's.
Love and hugs to you both
Tammy xx
Many thanks for your lovely comments Leonara.
I hope that you are able to be your fem self when ever possible - its not how you look but how you feel that is important.
Life is always throwing up issues that we are having to deal with on the way, and it seems to me that you have more than your fair share just now !
I know that you are able to use the group here to keep your humour and fem side amused.
hugs
Dawn
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Hi Tammy
thanks for your kind words and hope that you have some support in your life when you need it too
hugs
Dawn
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Thank You Dawn, Im in a similar dilema trying to figure out where to now and maybe I dont need to choose one way or the other and like you just be at peace being me.
Hi Sarah,
There is no need to comply with other peoples needs when it is better to be yourself.
There is a lot of peer pressure to Transition .. but what is right for one is not always right for others. I have seen a lot of people who feel that they have been encouraged to go down a road that they don’t need to.
Dont feel that you are a ‘2nd class TG’ because you are not on hormones or have gone full time. We are all unique and have no need to justify ourselves to people who dont know our lifestyles or have any influence on our daily lives.
Some need to transition.. others don’t.
As the song goes ... ‘ I am what I am, I am my own special creation ... ‘
hugs
Dawn
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Love your article Dawn-and great advice.It s up to each of us to discover our own path and destination(I'm still figuring mine out) but it is crucial that we don't let anyone push us faster or farther than we want or need to go NOR to let anyone slow us down or prevent us from following the path we discover is ours!
Cyn
Dawn,
I'm glad that you shared your story with us. Thank you.
I guess acceptance and support can come when you least expect them, as it happened with you at work. And I'm happy for you!
Gaby ♥
Many thanks for your kind comments Gaby! as you say, you never know who your friends are till you need them, and they they come from an unexpected source.
hugs
Dawn
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Love the article Dawn, and love how you have woven all parts of your life and your persona together. It is good when we can be who we are with a partner who supports us.
Much love hon.
April
Thank you April ..
I am truly blessed by having a wonderful partner !
hugs
Dawn
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Thanks for the article Dawn. I, like many of us can relate to so much of what you have written. I think as we get older we realise that time not spent being ourselves is wasted so the constraints get stretched. I thought going to the local TG group was coming out of the closet but it was just moving to a bigger one, now I need to spread my wings a bit further and see what the future brings.
thank you for your kind comments Helene ..
we are all different and have different goals in life ... Life is too short not to do some nice things from time to time.
Just be the best ‘you’ you can be
hugs
Dawn
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Dawn, I really enjoyed reading this. Besides having the same name, we have other things in common. I was also in the Air Force-- as an aircraft mechanic. But we have some big differences, too. My wife has little tolerance for me, as Dawn, & she's the only one who knows both of my personas. I wish I could come out.
Hi Dawn
many thanks for your kind comments and nice to have a sister with the same name and who has some military connections too !
As you say, I am truly lucky in my partners acceptance, but I was very out when we met so I had nothing to hide or any explaining to do.
Be the best ‘you’ you can be is all you can do. You are never alone and feel free to yell my why if you need some one to talk to
hugs
Dawn xx
