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We have all heard the stories about the lottery winner who finds themselves right back where they started financially, often only months after the big win. They blew the wad and didn’t think of how to use the gift they were given to create something even greater and longer lasting with it; maybe something so great that it could last for millennia.
Well, I have learned that money comes into our life, and money goes, but then it comes again and continues this cyclical flow throughout our lifetime. I have earned over 10k a month consistently for years and also as little as 6k for a whole year. I’ve snorted cocaine through $100 bills. Blah, blah, blah.
I have made a lot of money and I have circulated a lot of money. Here’s a truth; Money is not spent, it is circulated. We circulate money by giving it in trade for goods and services, and we receive money for goods and services we give to others.
I have found that the greater the outgoing, giving with gratitude and joy, the greater the incoming, which of course I also really enjoy. So that’s money. If we pay our bills in gratitude for the service or goods we received, we have a good relationship with money it is said, and we are in the flow.
Time on the other hand is spent. There is no ROI on time. We can not make time, grow time, extend time, stretch, manipulate or change time; it just is, and once we spend a minute, it’s gone from our “lifetime” forever. We have a wad of time; we just don’t know how big the wad is.
We generally don’t know exactly how much of this “lifetime” we have been given, to do with what ever we choose, but we do know that it is finite and temporary. How are you spending your wad of time these days?
People often talk about time management, but the truth is we cannot manage time, we manage activities. So, ask yourself, what are the activities I regularly partake in?
I listen to people complain, blame, make excuses and procrastinate and time still doesn’t notice, it keeps on ticking. One day, we might look up from our busy-ness and realize that we have very little time left with which to create what we will.
Time is the one thing we can never get back or make more of, so choosing what to spend our precious time on can change our world from one of drama to one of really, happy.
I choose to spend my time, focusing on and sharing happy stories and uplifting the hearts and minds of everyone who finds these words. I choose to spend my time Being to the best of my ability that day, the Change I want to see in the world.
Don’t blow your wad of time on anything that does not expand you, bring you and the world you live on a little more happiness in some way. We are all here together on one tiny ball of water and dirt with one job, create something cool! Tag, you’re it!
Thanks for reading Your Weekly Reset and thank you for being exactly who you are!
Namaste’
n huggles
Char
Your absolutely Right-- Your life sounds a little (actually a lot) like mine---
Confidence & Fear come into play a lot in life-
Last summer my support system (emotionally & somewhat financially ) died unexpectedly-
My wife was more than supportive of my dressing-- She thought it was the Greatest thing sine sliced bread & besides being Helpful--she encouraged & helped every step of the way--
Then comes the Money part--she had some income--
Now it's just me without an emotional support system & less money--
I have no way of making up the lost income & am afraid of doing anything that might interrupt the income I need to keep the house (before I could & did take risks that people at work would find out because I would have time to find another job- )
Now money is too tight to risk that- & without Her encouragement--not much is happening with jane-
I've gone Backwards-- I don't want to be going backwards but I can't see any other way--
How do I stop Regressing & move ahead NOW??
@janedon Jane, I hear your concerns and anxiety. I hope that you can protect your income. I've been through a similar financial situation myself. My solution has been to dress privately while waiting for the clouds to clear. I hope your storm clouds clear soon. Meanwhile, I hope that the supportive relationship with your number one fan created a support network among a few close friends/confidants on which you can lean. Why don't you and I be friends? Warmest wishes to finding creative ways to be your authentic self. Joan
Thank you Joan-Too bad so far away--I certainly apricate the positive thoughts & concern--
I thought I had "Friends" however Now (a little late) I realize that it was Alice that maintained Friendships, not myself--I get along with most folks very well, but it's more like acquaintances rather than Real friendships. I seem to be well liked & respected (I'm told) but mabe I never learned about deep friendships (except for my wife)-- Alice died & I find myself alone-have reached out but to no avail-- It's strange to think that I've got this far in life without Totally understanding Friendship---(or so it seems) -- Not to be morbid but if I didn't have the dogs to take care of--I'm not sure what I'd do- Because the dogs Need me I have to outlive them-- I would love to try & be your friend --it sounds odd to be someones friend without ever meeting them in person though- Thank you from the bottom of my heart- Jane
So damn cool Joan!!! So awsome to see real people that care about real people! Good luck Jane Do, I know you'll find good friends whether far near that would be willin to help you through some things! (:
I have been in that spot sooo many times dear, I can tell you what I did that has helped me get upright again; and thank you for asking and seeking a way up and out.
I believe in that saying of Einstein "imagination is the preview of life's coming events" when I take that seriously, I do a 20 minute meditation each day just "imagining" how I want the next chapter of my life to look, especially FEEL, and i create an experience of "having it now" in my mind, so it feels like I really do....when I do this i have always some weird way landed in that imagined reality...as I am now 😉
You are not a victim dear, feeling like one got you there, now feel like the amazing person you know you are and keep that feeling in you mmmk 😉
Namaste' Jane,
thanks for being you!
Char
"Don't Blow Your Wad"
One of the most amazing, well written and applicable post I have ever read. For many years with different levels of success I have tried to apply this principle in my life. Ironically my wife and I in our early 60's are going to retire within the next 2 months. Everything about the aging process has made us much more attentive to time decisions we are making and what really is a priority in our lives.
Char, I have never read anything that articulated so well the importance, value and treasure of time and how we spend it. I have forwarded your entire post to my closest friends and my family members. I also added a message to them how important they are to my wife and I and how much we love each of them. The response has been wonderful. Thank you for setting that in motion with your wonderful post.
I am Honored and so grateful, thank you Michelle
Namaste' and the warmest hugs dear
Char
Very apt as we are into this terrible pandemic which is claiming the lives of many. As I have no passed 65, still hale and healthy, and at a birthday party someone said to me about how fast the last 20 years went by. My reply, its' the next 20 I'm worried about!
Thank you Char for a well written and timely article!
Amy
Thank you so much Amy, I am just loving this experience more and more; I was put here in 61 😉 haha life really is like a roll of toilet paper, the closer we get to the end the faster it goes haha
Thanks for spending these minutes with me Amy
Namaste'
my friend
n huggles dear
Char
I liked the article.Now I am 65 and newly retired, am worried about making money last and probably needing to find part time work. Also am worried about how wife and I spend remaining time. At moment,just trying to stay safe and alive.
Alice Black
Awe I understand that feeling and thank you so much for sharing Alice; When I have found myself in that mind space, whether perceived or real, because I have experienced both and it can be crazy making; here's what I have come to understand...I think lol
Worry, is just our "imagination of possibilities", used in a negative context...what we focus on expands...sooo...however you have to do it, I do 20 minutes a day of creative imagining meditation, until I really feel as if I was really there in my imagined experience" then I follow my gut feelings and nudges as opportunities arise, and my life has, and is becoming what I imagined intentionally; does that make sense Alice?
Thank you so much for staying safe and alive, One way to spend some time is making a vision board. I made one 20 years ago and I have experienced almost everything I put on it to date, lol
I've got my new office space completely renovated in my mind and last week, I was gifted a set of studio lights out of the blue. I'm pondering a you tube channel haha
Spend your time doing things that make you feel at ease and light, that always works for me dear.
Now, is the time to dream and imagine, we have the time to really do it seriously with intention. We get to choose if we live in fear or love; I choose love 😉
You got this girl!
Namaste'
n huggles
Char
Char- you always get to the point succinctly and well. Don't waste time worrying about how you could have done things in the past. Focus instead on how you will do things in the present and future BUT don't wait 'cause-the future isn't guaranteed. Only the "now" is. It is a trite expression but true-no one on their deathbed says "wow,I wish 'd spent more time at the office and less time with my family and friends".
I do disagree on one thing you said. While time is not circulated you DO get a ROI on time IF you spend your time wisely and on the truly important things. Rather than hiding oneself behind a mask of societal expectations and isolating oneself, step out and let the world see how wonderful you really are and share the love that is in your heart and you'll find more friends than you can count.Clearly you do this every day now, Char and thank you for sharing yourself with us here and giving freely of your time and wisdom!
Cyn
Damn you haha tears again hahaha Awe Cyn, thank you so much my friend; Yeaaaaaaah,,, (spoken with a, mmmmmmyummy sound) the rewards of time well spend and shared, to have understood this concept when I was 21 hahaha.
I heard a good one not long ago Cyn; we people are like bicycles, we're best balanced when we are moving forward, but it is when we are standing still or going backwards, that we crash.
I'm peddling Baby hahaha
Thanks for being you Cyn
Namaste'
n always arm huggles dear
Char
Thank you for your insight.daffodil xx
