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It's so wonderful that you've found the right people at the right time. It's such a treasure to have people in our lives who can just allow us to be as we are, that can hold the tension with us without trying to fix it. I envy you the tribe you've found. I have positive people in my life who love and accept me for who I am, and I'm beyond grateful for that, but I don't have "my people", the people who understand what it's like to be so wildly different, so far from the norm, and who maybe only finally accepted that about themselves late in life. I lament that I may never have that, but it's encouraging to read of your journey in finding it, and that gives me hope yet, too. Much love!
Hey Nikki, it's good to hear from you.
In writing this article, I hadn't considered the difficulties some girls have in finding 'their tribe'. That is a very good point. Seeking help from people you don't really know can be an unnerving task. I'm sure some girls struggle with this.
However, I would offer that the trusted friendships one can make on CDH go a long way toward fulfilling that gap.
I met many of my dearest girlfriends on CDH. With some, we've never met in person or on a video call. Chances are I will never meet some of them because of distance or circumstance. Still, I trust them because we've shared so much. And I would go so far as to say a few of them are chosen family.
That is one of the greatest things about CDH. We have the opportunity to build true friendships with girls we may never meet. And it's entirely possible to build a close-knit network of dear friends that you see with some regularity.
I hope you someday find your tribe, Nikki. I know there is a thriving trans community where you live. That should make your task a little easier.
Feel free to DM me anytime. It's been a while.
Lots of love,
Liz
Liz, I’ve been here for 2 years now. When I first got here, you were one of the first girls that I heard from. I’ve got to tell you that just since I’ve been here, I’ve noticed a kinder gentler Liz. I can’t pinpoint when it started, but it was actually before you got to the UK. I’m so glad you found what I’ve had for so long, everyone, and I mean everyone in this world deserves to know true happiness is and it’s so great that you have it. I can see it in your photos, you look so different and just at peace with everything in your life. Thank you for sharing such a personal story, I’m sure it was difficult to write, but like I’ve found out on here, there is always someone that’s feeling like or going through the same things that we are.
Thank you, Jennifer. I've noticed it in myself too. I'm just a lot happier and more at peace.
Transition is the biggest reason without a doubt. Things started falling into place in 2021. There's been some challenges along the way. But things keep getting better all the time.
The other difference maker is the connection I have with this community. CDH primarily but also the greater trans community. I've found so much love and support in the last three years. I know I will never be alone. It's changed my life.
Honestly, what I have today didn't seem possible 10 years ago. I have lots of reasons to smile. That inner joy is what you are seeing in my recent photos.
Hugs, Liz
Liz.
Thank you for sharing this with us and I am glad you found such solace in Norfolk.
I have made quite a few friends in the short time since I joined CDH and it is indeed a wonderful place to come and just “be with” so many lovely people.
Love and Hugs, Wendy x
Thank you Wendy. Yes I am fortunate to have such an amazing group of girlfriends. It's one of the greatest things about CDH. How many sites are there where you can meet someone that lives thousands of miles away and have a real friendship? I know of two. CDH and TGH.
Liz xx
Thank you for sharing this story Liz. It is very moving. I hope you are OK.
Thanks Catherine!
Yes I'm doing much better now. It was actually a very fun trip in spite of the dark clouds that preceded it. I'm glad you read my story. It's my hope that nobody goes thru what I experienced.
Liz
Thank you Liz for writing that article which I read with tears obscuring my vision to the point I needed windscreen wipers on my glasses and a huge lump in my throat,I can empathize with all the feeling you had and the battle you've had.
your article struck a cord deep within me and the loneliness I feel as Diane in my little corner of the Antipodes, it seems there are so few if any girls down here that are open or at least only one transgirl I have come across,
but enough about my woes moans it's a sunny day and at my age lucky to still be here to enjoy
Love and hugs to all XXX
Hi Diane,
Yes, I had a rough time earlier this year. There have been other times when I felt the same or worse. The difference this time was the support of my dearest sisters and knowing I needed help.
I understand the loneliness you feel from being isolated. I was there too before I joined CDH. I've discovered that long distances matter less when you develop a deep and lasting friendship with someone. CDH makes that possible. I would encourage you to start making connections. Chat is a good place to start.
Liz xx
