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I believe the best of thrills of crossdressing are the moments before and after you step out in the world dressed as woman. But each time you do it, it becomes more normal, causing us to push ourselves more and more to achieve that thrill.
Eventually, you end up going out wearing a cocktail dress. I remember my first time:
I went for a strappy look with a strappy black dress and strappy black high heel sandals. I wore a push-up bra to accentuate a bit of side-boob in this dress. Wearing a bra with a strappy dress gives you that “double strap bra look,” that I personally like so much in women. It can look so sexy when one of the straps gingerly falls off your shoulder. I like to adjust my bra strap in public also. My legs were in barely black tights; my dress was too short for hold up stockings. My red painted toenails were clearly on display in those sandals. Red acrylic fingernails finished the look. You have your make-up and wig on. For me it was brown, shoulder-length with wavy hair.
Oh my god, I feel so exposed. I cross my arms and touch my bare shoulders. I look in the mirror at this sexy woman. She has a lot of exposed skin, her feet, legs, chest, shoulders, arm and back all available for everyone to see and touch. It is a good job she went to spa for the full skin treatment including wax and exfoliates the week before. Her skin feels so soft and smooth.
I uncross my arms and tidy my hair. I feel the chill under in my freshly shaved arm pits. Take a deep breath, open that door, and walk out. It is like walking around naked, all exposed, soft and delicate. You can’t walk fast in the heels; you must take small steps, and therefore are unable to escape danger.
Having bare shoulders makes me feel vulnerable, soft, and fragile. I have never overcome it. I like to wear a little top to cover my shoulders; maybe lace or chiffon.
The question is always, "Why?" Why do I do it? Why dress in this sexy way to get noticed? I like it when women give me that dirty look. I assume it's because they don’t have the confidence to dress like me. I also like it when I meet nice women, who see something in me and what to chat.
I usually dress like this to go to a night club. I prefer to sit outside in the smoker's area so I can talk to people. I sit on a bench, and then attractive, young women in their equally skimpy dresses come and sit next to me. They cuddle up to me for warmth, leg to leg, bare shoulder to bare shoulder. I was just one of the girls. We complement each other on our choice in clothes.
I can say that sometimes the thrill is in dressing and getting ready. Sometimes, it's in going out and being seen as the woman I present. And sometimes, it's in the interaction that happens when other's only see me in the moment, the woman I am.
Amazing❤
So well put Sophie and completely understand your feelings. I also do the same and hang out with the smokers on the porch enjoying the chat like we have in here and made such great friends over time
Sophie,
First off, you look absolutely gorgeous, honey! I love that floral dress. You have expressed very well many of the identical feelings and thrills that we all have as CDs. You have a close resemblance to the Japanese-American girl from Hawaii that played one of the nurses on MASH. I always thought she was cute, same as you. And oh yes, bare those pretty shoulders! In the summer, I often wear one of my many pretty ankle-length summer dress, and they all have bare shoulders.
Hugs,
Peggy Sue
Hi Peggy
Floral dresses are my favourite too, perfect for casual occasions, the flowers are so girly, especially in pink. I like walking around in the summer sun in my flowery dress with strappy high heel sandals. I have wanted to dress up as a nurse, they are so sexy and cute.
I enjoyed reading your article and you look very nice and feminine in the picture. You present very well as a woman and the article indicates you arevery comfortable doing it.
Alice Black
Hi Alice,
Thanks for the comments, the credit goes to the makeup artist who created that confident feminine woman in the photo. Before these set of photos, I did not have the confidence to fully show my face in photos. I had second thoughts about posting that photo, as I am not wearing much above my waist. It is that thrill again of being exposed.
Hi Sophie,
Very nicely written article, and I wish I had your same experience! Unfortunately I have not ventured out and can only dream of the experiences you have had!
Hugs,
Lisa
Hi Lisa
Thanks, when I started dressing, I never thought that I would venture out semi naked in a cocktail dress. I was and still am very conscious of my body image, for example I never wear shorts. I started small by posting photos with a peek of leg and over a long time it slowly grew.
Sophie
It made me happy to see this. I think there is never enough about the simple physical sensations that women can experience with their wardrobe we are deprived of as our male selves. Shoulders are a big part of that. I know some guys can feel comfortable in a tank top, but it never worked for me. All kind of levels of shoulder exposure - especially off the shoulder tops has really appealed to me and always made me envious of how women could dress.
I am glad that you found my article interesting. I did not realise the sensations women can experience with their wardrobe. Until I went out dressed in a skimpy cocktail dress myself.
I appreciated what the authors said about" bare shoulders...I have always covered mine.
Thanks for sharing!
This summer was my experiment with bare shoulders. I had purchased several long sleeveless summer dresses on sale, that I dearly love, but the when the weather was right for wearing them my confidence was lacking. I am fortunate to be blessed with almost zero body hair, aside from pubes and underarms. So that was not an issue, but having somewhat broader shoulders, made me feel very exposed. My accepting and supportive wife, is helpful, but basically she expects me to be my own woman, when it comes to fashion and style. We go out regularly together, and I am usually comfortable, but going bare-shoulder, was a bit intimidating. After seeing me take them out of the closet several times, only to put them back, prompted the question..
Are you ever going to wear those things? My response, "I would love to, but they are too much for being out during the day and I need a cover up. Are you sure?"
I go out frequently, both day and night to a variety of places, and feel confident, but bare shoulders in the daytime seemed felt like a boundary I could not cross. With some positive comments, I found myself in a lovely long dress with shoulder straps wide enough to cover my bra straps, but still doubting myself. It was a very warm day, and the light airy feeling of the long skirt felt nice and I was convinced I could pull it off (not literally) if only I would try. Fast forward a couple of hours and we are in big box store, shopping and I was surprised to find many women in similar dresses. To add to my confidence, my wife was kind to mention that I was in the top percentage of fit and style, and I felt such a feeling of comfort wearing what I wanted and enjoying it.
C
