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Many crossdressers choose to keep their thrilling feminine hobby or lifestyle a secret. Why? The LGBT community have their rights, and cross dressers are under the "transgender umbrella" so why are some of us afraid of admitting that we’re a cross dresser? It can be for different reasons. We choose to keep it secret because cross dressers are misunderstood people, or perhaps we have kept it secret for so long, that we have a feeling of “guilt” and are afraid to reveal that we cross dress to family and friends. In any case, if we decide to reveal that we cross dress to family and friends, it can be a great risk because if it goes bad, it can make your relationship with them worse instead of better. However, based upon my experience, there is a way to make it work. Here is my true story and advice…
My elderly father lives with me, and I’m his family caregiver. I kept being a cross dresser secret from my “Daddy” for over two years! This was not easy. I could only dress up as a woman and walk around freely in the comfort of my own home when he either went to town, or he went to sleep at night. How I finally decided to reveal “Revel” and that I’m a cross dresser was clever. There’s only one day (or night) of the year that you can dress up as anything you want, and not be judged - Halloween! So on Halloween night this year, I strongly felt it was “now or never” and I dressed up as sexy “Revel the Devil Girl” and made him close his eyes before I walked out in front of him. Then when I said out loud in my feminine voice “open your eyes for a surprise” he opened them and he was amazed! At first, he was a little shocked, but then he finally spoke and explained to me that I looked great! I thanked him, and gave him a big smile. Then he took a picture of me posing. When I felt comfortable enough, I explained to him that I’ve been cross dressing for quite some time - over two years since July 2018. He told me that he was “all for it” and was 100% supportive! I also modeled two more outfits for him as well. One was an orange dress, and the other was a shirt and a dark pink pleated skirt. My Daddy not only helped give me life, but he gave me the greatest gift of all…acceptance. So I gave him a kiss on his cheek and thanked him for being so kind. Halloween 2020 was the BEST Halloween I ever had! It will be a cherished memory forever!
We now have total respect for one another. He used to be a photographer at weddings. Now that he’s retired, he sometimes enjoys taking pictures of his daughter Revel (me) posing and modeling. Then after looking at the pictures together, we share some ideas back and forth. He taught me that "variety is the spice of life" and he once told me the best thing he likes about my place is Revel! Our bond is inseparable. This has made my life easier for me to be a cross dresser freely in the comfort of my own home. We have good clean fun together. I realize I’m in a distinct minority of crossdressers, but based upon my experience, it’s all about the right timing to make acceptance work.
So remember my cross dressing sisters, if you ever want to reveal to your family or friends that you’re a cross dresser, I strongly advise to wait until Halloween. It’s the safest time to dress up as a woman and not be judged. It may be worth the wait! I hope that you take my advice into consideration and if you decide to take the risk on Halloween, I wish you the best of luck! My Daddy and I both feel that crossdressers are very kind and beautiful people, and we hope that our true story is helpful to the cross dressing community. If you enjoyed my article, please leave a kind comment below or send me a private message. Or take the time to answer one or more of the questions I’ve posed to you below:
- Who was the first member of your immediate family did you disclose the fact you were a cross dresser and how did they react and what did they say?
- If it wasn’t a family member you first told about your thrill of cross dressing, who was it and were they accepting and supportive or just the opposite?
- How many of you cross dressers have a supportive wife or SO and what are their limits placed on your ability to cross dress, if any?
Thanks for taking the time to read my article girls!
Sincerely, Revel
Scarlett's edited version:
Revel, I couldn't wait. It was very informative and well written. You were quite creative to use Halloween as an opportunity. I'm sooo happy for you that your Daddy was so accepting! Now that you have revealed he is a photographer, I expect to see more photos in your profile, especially the one of you in your Halloween costume! By looking at the formatting of your article, I would expect Scarlett was your editor, yes? She's excellent! (To hedge my bet, if not her, the editing was excellent too). Now that you are an accomplished author, are planning future articles? Again, great job girlfriend! -Hugs, Marian xoxoxo
That was a good way to show yourself Revel. So far I have told 2 of my 4 brothers. With the covid as an excuse I let my hair grow out and in Sept. and had it colored to cover the gray. In Oct I went to one brothers house, when I got there I pulled a hood over my head and after we said hi I uncovered my hair and showed him my pierced ears. Then I told him the whole thing , that I CD. He was ok with it. I told him I couldn't stop him from telling everyone but he said he wouldn't tell anyone except maybe for his son. He would let me break the news myself.
A couple weeks later I told my 39 yo niece with the same reaction. Then in early Nov I told my 2nd brother only this time I dressed in fem. I wore black flats with ankle high nylons, distressed jeans with flowers embroidered on the pockets, a flowery top ( breast forms included ) and a little make up including lipstick. When I got there I pulled up my hooded sweatshirt and my covid mask and did pretty much the same thing. But first I opened this conversation by asking how he dealt with his son who came out as trans about 3 years ago. After he said she has to be who she is I took off my mask and the hood on my sweat shirt and asked him what he thought. He said that I have to do what I need to do. He then called upstairs and called his now daughter and we had a nice conversation for almost half an hour.
So now I have 2 brothers to go and I hope all goes as well as the others.
Sandy
