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“Hooked on a Feeling.”
I can't stop this feelin'
Deep inside of me
Girl, you just don't realize
What you do to me
[Verse 4]
I got it bad for you, girl
But I don't need a cure
I'll just stay addicted
And hope I can endure
Saweetie “Fast (Motion)” Official Lyrics & Meaning | Verified
[Chorus]
I
I'm hooked on a feelin'
High on believin'
That you're in love with me
Key the intro…I know that many of you are singing along…
Feelings, those things that men supposedly don’t have, and women wish we did until we do, and then many of us have been scolded for them. This love that I have for femininity is like an addiction, a drug that I can’t get enough of. I can spend hours on eBay or Amazon browsing wigs, dresses, shoes, jewelry…and buying 30 times more than I need and could ever wear…at home…not even out in the real world. My feminine wardrobe far exceeds that of my male’s.
Why? I’m hooked on a feelin’ Deep inside of me. Maybe it’s the fact that I don’t go out in public (I could go into all the reasons, but I’m going to let that just sit for another day) and I feel this intense need to placate my inner-woman. How many shoes are too many? If I counted all the purges in my life…my God, the money that I’ve spent to support my addiction… But is it an addiction? Or is it a need? Or is it simply just an out-of-control want.
I have examined this from every angle conceivable and have come to the conclusion that I don’t know. I feel I’m more than a crossdresser and I’m probably standing thigh-deep in the transgender pool, but I still don’t have a suitable answer. I’ve promised myself multiple times that I’m going to talk it out with a professional, and I haven’t…always a good (in my mind) excuse not to. I’ve never been a member of procrastinators anonymous, but in this one area, I could be their president.
I’m high on believin’ that the answer will someday just present itself and I won’t have to make a decision—it will be made or forced upon me. That’s not a great way to live! I’ve endured anxieties because of this issue my entire life. Could I be happier if I just found out and made a plan to deal with it? Maybe. Who’s to say that it wouldn’t be worse. Me of course. I am my own worst enemy and maybe that’s why I buy all the things I do. It’s like buying flowers for your significant other when you know that you’ve been impossible to live with and you need to make amends.
I don’t need any more clothes or shoes, but I want them and even though I can say no for a period of time, my willpower will always falter, sometimes in a flurry of purchases. I do my best these days to make peace within myself. It isn’t going to last as I feel the water rising, and eventually I’m going to have to swim or get out of the pool.
Do I have a point in here? Kind of… We are harder on ourselves than we should be. Being who we are is the toughest thing I can think of to go through. Thankfully, we don’t have to do it alone, and some of us even have support from our families as we try to work through this. There is always support here at CDH, and for that blessing, I am extremely grateful. Buy the dress or the shoes if you want. Dream of what might be and do what you can to live in the moment. The road ahead may take a sharp turn—for better or worse, but not if you don’t put the heels on and sashay on down the road. Standing still isn’t an option.
Girl, you don’t realize what you do to me…
Until next time…
Be safe, be content, and always be kind, especially to yourself...
Brina
Sadly BJ has passed but obviously the "feeling" lives on... wonderful post.
Hi Brina. As good as you look in every picture I've seen I can't hardly believe you've never been out. Having meet 2 of the girls from CDH and gone shopping in fem myself.
Getting more into my own CD over the last 2 years, it seems the more I get out the more I want to do. There is fear in me of being looked at and being pointed out as that guy in a dress. So far if people have noticed all they have done is look for a moment and then gone back to there own business.
. .Because I too am HOOKED ON A FEELING!!!!!
. . . Sandy
Thank you Sandy, you continue to inspire me for Leonara to get out n about… as we quote Brina… HOOKED ON A FEELING
Leonara
Sandy,
I've been out, just not in a while. I used to belong to a Sorority group and went out with them. I've done all the usual driving around and walk-a-bouts. I just don't find the opportunity based on my current realities--taking care of two aging parents who don't know. I'm thinking of taking a girl's vacation this late fall...so who knows...
As always thank you Sabrina for another inspiring article… yes I was singing along too
warmest regards, Leonara
It is ironic that you chose that BJ Thomas song as he just passed away. I thought Raindrops keep fallin on my head was great as well..
I am with you. I have the continual urge that is hard to suppress to buy more fem stuff. I had not bought anything fem since early April but then I saw some design pantyhose on Amazon that I just wanted to have and ordered them this morning especially since pair I am wearing right now have runs in them.
So, I too AM HOOKED ON A FEELING as well.
Alice Black
P.S. I had a question that I wanted to ask an Ambassador this morning and I sent it to Billie Jay who I have talked to in chatroom. Saw your name on list but had not contacted you for anything. Now Ironically I am talking to you for first time as well.
Thanks, Billie for the comments...I used to sing Raindrops all the time. Feel free to contact me anytime. I've been going at eBay recently as if there will never be another deal to come along...
Hi Brina,
I enjoyed reading your article and understand everything you mention.
As someone who was in that place once, I offer a few words in the hope it may help you in some way.
When we exist in that room we have created for ourselves, we can never be sure when we may find the right door or time to leave and discover our true selves.
I believe that we can encourage that opening to appear by consciously changing the way we are able to accept ourselves for who and what we are, without feeling guilt or shame, without hurting others that we love and care for.
We predict outcomes of future scenarios that we create in our minds and lock those doors firmly by doing so. Yet, nobody can predict the next few minutes of their own life, let alone the lives of others. We answer questions that we imagine would arise in others and predict their replies. Why do we even need to talk to anyone else when we believe we can do that? So, we can avoid talking about difficult situations and issues too easily. Why take the hard road?
Deciding upon a life-changing choice is not easy for anyone, especially if we have a family that we have created, a huge part of our lives being placed in jeopardy by our choices. Are we being selfish? It's enough to make anyone step away from such decisions. I know it did that for many years in my life.
It wasn't until three long-term relationships of mine had crumbled into dust, when I realized how much I had hurt, not just myself, but those I believed and said that I loved.
No one other can tell you if or when you should or should not make a choice of how to live the rest of your life. Be happy and content in who and what you are, life can always be so much worse! If that is not possible, then you really must find a way to resolve your own inner struggle, as living in a way that is not harmonious withyour beliefs, is and can be self-harming.
I feel sure that you have considered already, much of what I have written here. However, I try not to make assumptions and offer my comments with the very best of intentions to you and your family.
We must all support each other with love and compassion here, or why else are we all here in this community?
Love and Hugs
Sophie
Sophie,
Thank you for taking the time to comment. I'm sure your thoughts and wisdom will resonate with many of our members.
Brina
What a nice story. I Loved that song when it came out back in the 70's.
My feminine wardrobe is larger then my male wardrobe. I don't know how many shoes are to many. I myself have about 30 pairs of shoes.
My real love though is Wedding Dresses. I have 19 Wedding Dresses. I Love dressing up in them and wearing them around my house. Such a warm feminine feeling it brings over me. 3 of my Wedding Dresses I have purchased at a local store. It is nice I can walk into the store and be treated with respect like any female customer. Yes the ladies know I am a male shopper. My consultants are always just as sweet as can be and very professional.
I really have to say my addiction is panties, bra's and Wedding Dresses.
Love and (((HUGS))) Dorothy
Thanks for the comments, Dorothy. I've never tried a wedding dress, but it is on my list someday. I love all those bride pictures, what a wonderful experience. It's great that you can shop in person. I raise my glass of wine to you 🙂
Thank you, Brina. A lot of what you are describing is what I feel too. Like you, I don't need more shoes, another dress, skirt, lingerie, but oh my, do I want them? You want to believe it!
Also, like you I have often felt like I don't know where I'm going with this, or where I might end up, which is a scary feeling. At least now I am more at peace with my femme side than I ever have been in the past and in large to part to the friendship and support I have found here.
Amy
BJ Thomas recorded that in the 1970's long before any "Saweetie" was ever born. He just passed last week at 84. I think Mac Davis wrote it.
Thanks Gretchen for the tidbits! From our great friends at Wiki:
"Hooked on a Feeling" is a 1968 pop song about unrequited love, written by Mark James and originally performed by B.J. Thomas. Thomas's version featured the sound of the electric sitar (played by Reggie Young) and reached No. 5 in 1969 on the Billboard Hot 100.[1] It has been recorded by many other artists, including Blue Swede, whose version reached No. 1 in the United States in 1974.[2] The Blue Swede version made singer Björn Skifs' "Ooga-Chaka-Ooga-Ooga" intro well known (and famous in Sweden at the time), although it had been used originally by British musician Jonathan King in his 1971 version of the song.
Hi Brina,, You are a very lovely talented woman in every way possible. Now is the time show your self to the outside world.You know who Brina Is what she is all about.I have read your Articles and you have taken the time to help me putting my thoughts to something that is at least readable. There is no point in waiting for what you know is inevitable. There is no going back now You have looked at it from every angle and have come up with the same result
Luv Stephanie .
Thanks, Stephanie!
I'm all for going forward and don't want to go backward. Only time will tell at how fast it happens... take care 🙂
Thankyou for this Brina.
After several purges myself, numbing with drugs and attempts to simply leave earth and avoid dealing with this "issue" I have given in Brina lol.
No longer do I resist and fight this feeling; I no longer search for the "right" label either. I am Char and I will decorate this body, "My body, how ever I choose.
Those that matter, don't mind, those that mind, don't matter 😉 because I am hooked on that feeling too; Purse first girls hehe
Namaste'
n huggles
Char
As always, Char, thank you for your comments and all that you do for both sites. You are most certainly an inspiration to me and others 🙂
Awe, thank you so much for that Hon, and ditto...
This has been an incredible ride to do consciously haha. From being sooo deeply ashamed of me, carrying beliefs that I needed to be punished for being so wrong, sick and bad bla bla bla to now.
I walk through the world, or this little part of it I am in, as naturally as Char, as I did as a cowboy drummer/singer Charley, haha and to my amazement, I love being dressed and expressing it.
My dad used to say, "if you conquer your fear, you'll conquer theirs" powerful words hey?
I wish you everything wonderful you can imagine sweet soul. Its a pleasure to know you and call you friend Brina.
Namaste' n huggles dear
Char
