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Maybe the title should be, “Why Do You Do it?” We spend more time than most anyone would imagine on that question, as do those who try to understand us. What I want to do instead is start a conversation on the “How” to see where it goes… shall we… Oh, and in the comment strings, I’ll be happy to go into more detail as I’m sure others will, too.

Each of us that has been doing this for years has developed “Our” little routines that through trial and error or simple necessity allow us to become the outer version of our inner longings. Sometimes, it borders on obsessive, extreme, unrealistic as well as self-torture, cost prohibitive, and uncontrollable. I will simply state this before I go into my how; what would you say to your wife if she collected and coveted her female belongings the way you do? “You need help,” I bet would be a common phrase in our thoughts.

I don’t believe there is anything else that compares to an obsessed crossdresser; I raise my hand—both of them as I am most certainly one of them. I know that some can only have those one or two (if lucky) complete outfits that are squirreled away safely from prying eyes to be reverently taken out when the opportunity presents itself. But for some of us... well… the closets we stack would make most women outside of the very wealthy or celebrity status envious. We have an “Eye” so to speak when it comes to fashion and accessories, even with makeup application and hygiene that many women and most men aren’t privy to. Why? Because knowing and having those things are life-sustaining blood to our femininity, and wearing and partaking in them is our heartbeat.

There are so many “How” topics I could write about, many of them have been done so by me in the past and by others, tucked away in our article archives. How to shave, apply makeup, eat right, diet, exercise, walk in heels, fit a bra, buy online, go out in public, match accessories, buy the right wig, and so many more. I want to focus on “How to be  you, the woman.” Not the unrealistic, fantasy want-to-be that excites our imaginations. Each of us, the same with women, has great attributes and some not so great. The more refined vision has learned to accentuate the positives, manipulate the negatives, and put their best foot forward. I understand there are two perspectives here; what looks good versus what excites us; our want-to-be fantasy look. I can wear those exotic heels and manage to take a picture. I can’t, however, walk gracefully in public wearing them without looking foolish. I can blur my image or use a filter (Faceapp too) to create a more positive illusion when I post, but I'm already doing my best to exhibit myself when I dress, and that's what I want to be commented on and complimented on. So this is me offering my insights into finding and empowering you.

Just as it is in many things, it is easier to add than it is to remove. If you are thin, shapewear adds curves (unless you go overboard and make it unproportionate). Shapewear also helps to smooth. Let’s start at an area that we all covet; the breast.

You can manipulate what you have with padded bras or use some cleavage tape to create the illusion and add in some inserts. I’m lucky that I have decent man breasts that I can pull up and to the center which gives me that desired cleavage appearance. Personally, I like the triangle silicone breast inserts (with a concave back) and an underwire bra with a thick back band. The inserts are more to my side with my breasts pulled up and to my center. The size is up to you. I have B-size to EE-size. Depending on the dress or top (or my feeling of the day) I decide which to wear. I also have one G-size breastplate (non-silicone) just for fun. I had the neck one and hated it and now have the rounded neck. They serve my fantasy, but I wouldn’t go out in public in them as they are hard to match to skin tone, and at 63, big and perky would garner much attention. I like to add the wear your own bra shapewear top. It helps on the tummy and to keep the bra (my inserts) more centralized.

Here is something to remember, and I suggest you study pictures of other crossdressers so you can compare your look to theirs. I have spent countless hours on other sites and in our section of picture postings to study (and compliment) those who excel at their presentations. I’m not just talking about those who are the 5% example who can flip a switch and look better than most females, but those who know how to wear their clothes, makeup, hair, and accessories to become stunning versions of femininity. Some are makeup geniuses, others are clothing or accessory aficionados, while some are master illusionists. If you love big breasts then wearing those loose hanging tops or dresses will overly accentuate largeness. You might have a flatter stomach, but it will make you look bigger overall. Fitted attire shows off the chest and stomach, hips too if they are padded proportionately. I have no rear end or hips, so I wear pads to help. I also have the adolescent love handles that no amount of exercise will ever take away, so shapewear helps with that. One important reminder… eventually, you will need to go to the bathroom, the more layers or type of outfit and shapewear you have on, the more difficult it becomes, especially when you have on your long coffin nails…

The one thing you will notice about the girls who post pictures from studio visits is the hairstyles that are used. Soft and flowing around the face, shoulder-length. They are magicians at making the older look younger and pretty, no matter what canvas they started with. I will also note that they tend to make all their clients look similar; sisterly. They know what the end game is to our presentation, and something few of us can accomplish on our own. I’m not going to go deep into makeup how to. Just remember a couple of things. Try to match your foundation to your neck color. Whiteface on tan sticks out. Dark on white equally. The less you use the better, but… few of us can get by because of our beard shadow. I’m lucky now that most of mine is white. I’d love laser treatments, so tired of the nicks of trying to shave so close. Contrasting along the cheeks and nose is a must. Look at the pictures and videos online. As much as I love the extra-large eyelash look, at my age it only draws attention. Like a color book, don’t draw outside the lines. Try to refine your look to what you see other women your age wearing. If you are 30 and sexy, have the body… go for it girl! If you want to try it for experimentation… sure, going out in public… that’s for you, not me. I want to be noticed… no not in a negative way, but hopefully, in the “Wow, she looks put together” way. That’s the look I strive for. I want my look to say that it matters how I present myself. I’ve taken the time to look my best because it makes me feel good to do so.

Such a debate rages on whether you can wear hosiery with open-toed shoes or sandals. The world is changing, but… sandals only with light hosiery not black is ok. Mostly closed shoes, peep toes, you can get by as long as the shoes and hose match the outfit. No black hose with pink platforms if the dress is blue. I guarantee that women will judge and dissect you more on your choices than on how well you applied your makeup. Dress for the occasion that you are attending. At home… for personal photo sessions… the choice is yours. Taking lots of photos is key to learning and understanding what looks best on you. Sharing them and getting feedback helps too. Like a loving family member, be aware that many of us here will only give great feedback, so find that trusted person who will tell you the good and the bad.

This is only a start. If you like this type of article, let me know and I’ll get to work on another, more specific one that helps with coordination and buying options. So you know… I have 40 pairs of shoes from flats to thigh-high black boots ;), close to 60 dresses, 25 wigs, skirts, tops, workout clothing, hosiery, underwear, and assorted jewelry boxes full of accessories. I’m not saying I could wear a different pair of clip-on earrings each day for a year… but…

I have my likes, my go-to options, my wishful (if I lose 20 pounds and shrink 3 size outfits that I can currently zip but won’t give up… yet) and I still don’t have enough, never will. It’s why each winter I usually go through a selective purge and sell a third of what I have on eBay so I can buy more because it’s the shopping and buying that feeds my femininity as much as it is wearing it.

Until next time…

 

May the dress fit exquisitely, the makeup be perfect, and the moment exhilarating…

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Baroness
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@bmactavish Thank you, a great read and plenty of good ideas and advice

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Thanks! I appreciate the compliment 🙂

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@bmactavish Great article, love all the info. I don't always dress my age, love heels, short dresses,and skirts sheer black top with pink or red bra,  my booty shorts  for walks or shorts shorts. I wear what I love and be damned age appropriate.

Lynda 

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That's great! Do what you like and like the way in which you do it! Lots of confidence in that. 🙂

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@bmactavish The "why do you do it" answer is for me to wear nicer looking, more interesting, more fun clothes, so there is no great anguish, need, or dysphoria going on in the background. I don't need to be a woman and I know that I will never be one, but I will also certainly pad or squeeze places to look more like one. The illusion works well enough for me. Basically, I just want to look better than how I dressed most of my drab life. Go out with a bang?

The "how do you do it" answer is androgynously, in public. I don't hide what I do from my wife and I try not to embarrass her, either. I dress just oddly enough to get a few stink-eyes or curious looks (what did I just see?). Through trial and error, experimentation, I am slowly gathering clothes that allow me to dress like this every day as much of the day as possible. I just got a new fall / winter coat that should be more wearable than what I got a couple of years ago. Not all experiments are successful. It was shaped oddly, but it still looks cool.

Would I like to do more? Wear dresses and skirts and nicer tops in public? Of course. I can wear heels and walk in them with the best of women and my legs look better than many women's legs (not that I am bragging, but it is what I am told, and I have a mirror, too, so why not put them to good use?). Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of opportunity to do that as much as I would like, even at home.

Over time, I will try to do more and learn more, to improve. That's why I am on CDH. There is a lot to admire here.

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A lot here, yes there is, over 50,000 participants who have walked in those heels, wore that shapewear, dresses, wigs and makeup, who have shared their secrets with all of us. There is only you, and what it is that you need to do to find your balance (not just in strutting around on those heels) but in being the best and happiest given the circumstances that you can! Great to hear how you are working on yours 🙂 Thanks for commenting.

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Posted by: @bmactavish

few of us can get by because of our beard shadow. I’m lucky now that most of mine is white. I’d love laser treatments, so tired of the nicks of trying to shave so close.

Has anyone used the new type of battery powered shaver that has one, flat blade? The ads that I have seen show a very impressive job, so I am wondering just how good they really are.

 

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This year, I bought a foil shaver after much research. I had one with the 3 rotating heads but it never did great. I use the foil shaver everywhere and it does good with less irritation. On my face, good enough if I'm not wanting it to be super close, because that it can't do. If I want to go full makeup for photos, I'll still shave (and endure the nicks as I try desperately to erase those whiskers...) The foil shaver doesn't work well on longer hair, even going a day in between will miss some. I make it part of my daily routine now, followed by a age spot face cream and complete body lotion regime. I only use the Hempz body lotion products. Thanks for the comments!

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@bmactavish I can relate to everything you wrote, but you are wayyy better at thinning out the wardrobe. Even though I do, it's in bits and pieces lol. Over 150 pairs of shoes, boots and heels, a $75K wardrobe, nylons and tights in every imaginable color (not to mention slips). Nice jewelry with great makeup. I loveeeeee to shop 2 to 3 times a week, it's like my drug of choice, lol. There is nothing like shopping, window shopping, eating out, theaters looking sharp and feeling pretty. I really love your point about dressing is the key (and proper movements), it is a huge high when I get complimented how I look whether it be church, out on the town, gas station and mmmmmm shopping!! lol Keep up the great articles.

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I so agree... the shopping and buying is as much the feeling as it is wearing it. Yes, (we) both have way too much but still never enough. I used to give away the items bought that didn't fit (kept some in hope... LOL, never going to fit into a small size unless they break and reconstruct my bones.) Now, I put together some complete CD collections and sell them on eBay each winter. It also gives me another reason to shop as I'm thinking about what my CD sisters may want, too. Thanks for the comments 🙂

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Hi Brina, lots of great advice to help out the newer girls, I am pretty much stuck in a comfortable routine with regards to my wardrobe. Guess it comes from years of practice, LOL

Thank you for sharing your experiences.

Hugs,
Lauren

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And... thanks for commenting. You should consider sharing that comfortable routine 🙂 I'm betting others will find it helpful.

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Amen. Great perspective on the choices we make. I work hard at getting better on getting to a place that women would admire for its taste and appropriateness. It has taken a lot of learning through expensive errors and observation of what works and doesn't on women I admire. Keep sharing your wisdom, it is appreciated!💋

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I appreciate you saying so! Thanks 🙂

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I've bought a lot of stuff over the years, but often just a little at a time. A lot has been bought from clearance racks and/or with coupons or sales.

I have enough items to be able to wear things in any season. I have many skirts and tops that I can mix and match for different looks, and can coordinate colors or patterns without looking out of place.

Going out consistantly in my own neighborhood, I stick to a single wig. If my hair style and color changed every day it just becomes obvious. I probably dress up more than most women I see, but can still keep a casual look in a skirt and top, and save the formal wear for formal occasions. If I dressed like most women around me, I would just put a bra and forms under my shirt and otherwise dress as I do as a guy, which defeats the purpose for me for crossdressing.

Other than forms, I don't usually use padding. On occasion (mostly for evening events) I will wear a corset to narrow my waist making my bottom look larger, and otherwise hide it with a wider skirt. Sometimes I'll wear a tutu petticoat to widen it too. But I often use the Carol Burnett approach. She would play a bimbo secretary, Mrs. Wiggins, and would walk around bent over to make her back side stick out. When asked why she did that, she said it was because she had no hips. If it's OK for her to not have particularly wide hips (other than her Mrs. Wiggins character), then I don't feel the need to pad mine.

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Nice comments and perspectives. I like the comment about dressing better than a womanly normal because of our needs. I agree. Thanks for commenting 🙂

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Posted by: @alison-anderson

Going out consistently in my own neighborhood, I stick to a single wig. If my hair style and color changed every day it just becomes obvious.

Good plan. I didn't think about that, but it makes total sense when trying to blend in. Something that is familiar disappears into the background.

However, I will pad. I don't always pad my hips depending on how tight my clothes are there. A flat bum is a flat bum, though, in drag or en femme. My wife chides me about padding mine, but hers is wider but just as flat. 🫣

 

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Thanks, Brina. There is a lot of valuable information in this article.For both newbies and veterans.This year, apart from traveling, I have made great investments in my crossdressing.In all types of items to look better and more feminine.I'm not going to go into details because it would be too long.
I'll just say that obsession has been a constant in my personality throughout my life.Until the end of the year I had a couple of outfits. Now I have more than a dozen and I want more. But I don't have much space, so my closet and, therefore, my room are chaotic.
By the way, I have a large collection of photographs of crossdressers, transgender and cisgender women to study the outfits and combinations that stand out. I think I mentioned that the women I hang out with, friends and family, often ask me for advice on dresses and accessories they are going to wear; although I have never quite understood the reason.So that's very practical advice.
And I better stop here. I love this type of article. So I'll be more than happy if you write and publish more of them.

Gisela Claudine

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Don't hesitate to pen your own article. A keen eye is something to be proud of. I have 3 plastic shoe tubs (hold 4-5 pairs of heels) under my bed. I did have to buy post-raises (2-inches) so they would slide under, I also slimmed down all those icky manly clothes as I now only wear them when I have to... added space for the important items. Thanks for commenting 🙂

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@bmactavish Sure. I will write about it. Thanks.

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Brina -

Thank you for an informative article that will be useful to many. I have quite a wardrobe amassed, some donated by my wife, some online purchases, some in person purchases and thrift store purchases. I wish I had more time to wear what I have but alas as I only dress at home and have limited time for that it is hard to wear all of it. As I don't go out I don't worry much about extra padding. I do have some moobs and have padded bras to help there as well as breast enhancers that I wear sometimes (there is something about the skin contact with the material inside my bra that I like - maybe makes me feel more feminine). 

XOXO
Suzanne

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I like the silicone inserts to make me more proportionate, but I also have a couple of (add a cup push-up bras) that I like to wear for more casual times. I'm living more in that Woman stage where I'm trying to be complete and comfortable and happy in all aspects of dressing, not just in fancy, glamorous, or sophisticated. In other words, "trying to let my hair down!" Thanks for the comments!

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Excellent article. Keep them coming. Lots of good tips.

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Thanks! 🙂

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Hi Sabrina, though I am not strictly a crossdresser, every once in a while I slip over here from TGH to catch a bit more action. Glad I did. Good article.
I am at the early stages of the clothes crescendo, but I do understand how it could grow. However, being transgender and without doubt a woman who was AMAB & now a senior chronologically I seem to be past the fantasy stage.
Just recently my wife bought me the most exquisite lace top and pleated pink maxi skirt. Femininity par excellent. To be sure, I was happy with the outfit and even more elated with her acceptance of me as reflected in her purchasing it for me. But I hung it away, because it is so beautiful that I need a special occasion (a wedding - not mine) at which I could wear it appropriately.
At home just give me a nice denim skirt, pretty T, a pair of flats and a bob cut wig I will be happy. If I can simply be the nice old(er) lady next door and nothing more.
"Nothing more" would make me the richest woman in the world.
Kindly,
Charlene

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Yeah, I'm getting to be more like that... but all those clothes and shoes still beacon me with hammer-like hits to my brain. Still, I've begun to settle into my existence... for lack of better phrasing. My road seems to be clearer of jungle vines and quicksand but still have a few traps left to work around. Glad you stopped by to comment! 🙂

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Active Member     Barcelona, Catalunya, Spain
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Thanks for another great article, 'Brina!! Always inspiring!
Push has come to shove in my life and I have made the huge jump into my feminine lifestyle - 24/7! Alícia is free!!!!
I have girlfriends from my male life who have been fantàstic, constructive crítics, and shopping with the girls, as a woman is outrageous fun!!! Just sharing face to face is amazing too.
And its never too late to let ourselves bé the complete woman we strive to be in our private time.
Thanks again ,'Brina!

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Thanks for the comments, Alicia (lovely name by the way!) I only put on those ugly male clothes when I have to go out and pretend to be who the world sees, but behind my door I am me. It gets me by for now as I continue to move my personal needle to be more female. I hope to be like you and live publicly as well... shortly down my road...

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Thank you Brina. You once again hit it out of the park. Thank you for your advice and your sharing. You are an inspiration to many of us.
Keep it up please. 💜

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Thanks for saying so, Dani! Have a great week 🙂

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I'm expanding my wardrobe to summer time dressing. For years I only dressed in the winter, to take advantage of coverage. Now at age 63, I can blend in pretty good. Most of all it's fun !

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My only negatives with summer are the ungodly golf tan lines and not being able to shave my legs (currently... I hope to rectify that in a couple of years.) It does limit me to what types of outfits I can wear. I'm not one to sit outside and tan... this year especially with the mosquitos and gnats... worst I've seen in years. Thanks for the comments 🙂

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Well done Brian, fantastic, it’s one of those article's that I read again and again, so much inspiration thanks
Wendy

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I appreciate you saying that! Thanks 🙂

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Love your, ways of understanding ours. need what we girls  need

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Thank you! 🙂

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I thoroughly enjoyed your article from start to finish, Sabrina! I'll definitely be looking forward to you expanding further, as you mentioned. Your tips are so helpful to me. I have yet to post photos of myself, but I'm currently working out a system by which I should be able to capture a few creative photos of myself in the very near future.Being single is wonderful, but photo shoots are a bit of a challenge for me.
I've had a good number of fun undergarments for years, but your many tips are so timely as I've recently purchased a few wigs,(smaller B C) breast forms, blouses & even a few skirts!
I've yet to buy "practical" footwear for a photo shoot, and an eventual venture out! I'd love a few tips re: sizing, style, color, etc.! I do look forward to your next edition Sabrina! And by the way, your bio states that you reside in Iowa and I sincerely hope that the flooding has not impacted you, your friends, and loved ones!
Genie

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Here's a first tip. Sizes don't always match up. One manufacturers large is another's medium or XL. Depending on your body makeup will determine what might work best. Also, what you like to wear will determine the type of shapewear you might need. As much as I love off-shoulder or low necklines, I also don't want to get by without my inserts (strapless bras don't give me great help) You can use sticky inserts or try cleavage tape to create cleavage if you want or go happily as is. The best advice is to buy many styles, colors, and sizes cheaply to learn what your style works the best. Mostly, you pair darker shoes than color of the outfit if you can't match the main color. If red is the dominate color, go for red... brings up another issue: pumps, flats, heels, sandals, etc. The fancier, the more the heel.

As a buying tip... thrift stores are loaded with bargains and they really don't care if you are a guy buying dresses or skirts. If you have a 36 inch waist (below the belly button) you are likely going to need a size 14 or 16 skirt. If it has no give, go 16 same when buying a dress. I'm 6ft, 180lb, 38 inch chest, 35 inch waist and hips (no butt...). I wear a size 16 dress comfortably and many size 14. I'd rather it be snug than hang on me. I buy a buy a 40 or 42 band size bra to hold my D size silicone inserts with a C or D cup. I like the push up bras, underwire. (I'm likely a B cup on my own). I wear large or XL tops, again, depending on style and make, some fit, some don't.

For shoes, sandals can be bought a size smaller than closed shoes. Check out a measuring guide online and that helps. However... it states me as being a size 14 because my right foot is longer than my left. If I buy a 14, my left foot won't stay in the shoe. If I buy a size 12 the left fits and the right toe is crunched slightly. I wear a size 11 1/2 to 12 in Mens. I buy size 13 for closed or those with out much room and size 12 for sandals, mostly because my feet are narrow and I need the smaller size.

eBay is a wonderful place to buy in lots if you take the time to search (Jewelry, clothes, intimates), I'll be expanding on that in the next issue... Thanks for the comments and feel free (all of you) to PM for specifics.

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Lady
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Great article Sabrina ! Very informative about clothing coordination and very well written .

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Thank you! The compliment is much appreciated 🙂

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