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We all love dressing up as women. Whether it's a modest underdressing, with panties and a bra underneath men's clothing, or more elaborate outfits, with dresses, shoes, wigs, makeup and accessories, it's a very pleasurable experience.
However, it's not cheap. After all, clothes, makeup and shoes are not free, nor do they fall from the sky. In the case of crossdressers, the situation is more expensive: since most of us can't dress as women 24 hours a day, we have to maintain two wardrobes: one for men and one for women.
In addition, women's clothing tends to be more expensive than men's clothing, which complicates things even more. But how do you get around this? How do you transform yourself into a princess without emptying your bank balance?
In the beginning, everything was simpler. Your sisters, or even your mother, would lend you dresses, skirts, socks, shoes, panties and bras - of course, most of the time they didn't even know about it.
Now, you're on your own. You have to pay for all of this.
A first tip, of course, is thrift stores. You can find clothes in good condition for a good price by rummaging around. If you want really new things, sales can also fall from the sky. Prioritize buying good quality pieces (read: durable pieces) at a good price. Outlets are good places for this.
Another idea is to definitively embrace your feminine side in some aspects, such as wearing panties every day or swapping your men's pyjamas for women's ones. No one (or almost no one) will see you wearing them. You can keep one or two pairs of underwear or pyjamas for special situations, such as doctor's appointments or hospital stays, for example. You can swap men's clothes that you no longer wear for women's clothes!
On the other hand, if you don't wear women's clothes often, they will tend to last longer. In any case, you should take good care of your clothes so that they don't get dirty or damaged over time.
Perhaps simpler, more neutral clothes, without too many details, are a good option: fewer things to cause problems. For example: structured bras with cups, underwire and back fastening can, for example, have the cups crushed, the underwire can suddenly poke through the fabric and - then your skin, if you are wearing it.
In addition, neutral pieces offer more combination options, so you won't need to have so many clothes.
You can have a basic makeup set, with the essentials to look beautiful.
Wigs can also be expensive, think about the possibility of letting your hair grow a little or get a short but feminine cut: enrich the style with accessories such as headbands, for example.
Shoes are a problem: large-size women's shoes are not usually cheap: you should do a lot of research to save money!
One way to improve your look without spending a lot is with accessories such as earrings, headbands, necklaces and scarves - some of them you can customize or make yourself, so you save money.
Of course, if you have a supportive wife, you can count on the gifts she might give you... here's a tip: most crossdressers have two personalities: female and male - even with different names. Just remind her that on your birthday it's "one gift for each"... of course, and you'll have to give her two gifts on her birthday to make up for it!
Becoming a princess without having the bank balance of one is difficult, but not impossible. You'll need to do a lot of research, find good places to buy good products at a good price, take good care of your clothes and accessories, learn how to mix and match looks and use your creativity to the fullest. Good luck!
- How do you buy your women's clothes and accessories?
- Do you think women's items are expensive?
- Do you have any other tips on this subject?
Sincerely
Marie Claire
I tend to shop online since the selection and range of sizes is better than in brick and mortar stores. That said, I do always like to go the mall for some good old impulse buying. I don't find women's clothes to be all that more expensive than men's clothing. On the other hand, buying a nice dress for an occasion is probably a lot less than buying a men's suit for the same occasion. The biggest difference between men's and woman's dressing lies in the accessories. Women wear a lot more jewelry than me and that can get expensive at times. Also, women carry a bag which can also get expensive if you get a nice one. The best advice I can provide is to b careful when buying on impulse. I've bought a number of things that looked so cute but when I really thought about it, were impractical for my lifestyle. As an example, I love stiletto heels but considering how often I wear them, how many pair do I need? For reasons like this, a good return policy is important!
I'll admit that I was a huge impulse buyer for anything that had to do with Wendy. I would make up excuses like "oh we need this for the house so I'll add this cute swimsuit to the shopping cart", in reality we didn't need the household item I just wanted an excuse to buy more stuff for Wendy.
Another excuse I'd use is "well it is close to payday so I'll just binge". Before I knew it, I'd spend close to what my paycheque was before it was even issued by work !
And lastly, my wife whom is still ok with Wendy, flew off the handle because she has known for a long time that I was buying alot of stuff and then trying to hide the purchase.
Since Dec 2023, I've had to stop impulse buying cold turkey.
Now, looking back at all the stuff I've thrown out and the stuff that remains, I've learned to enjoy what I have and to stop buying so much stuff. And trust me, what I still have is a gargantuan amount, from clothes to makeup.
Looking back, I did buy from secondhand stores but eventually stopped as the items I bought would eventually just wind up in the donation bag again. To stretch the dollar, I would buy drug store brand makeup (most of them are very good), online I would go to the clearance section and see what is available and if in my size, I'd add to cart. That way the gift cards my wife gave me for christmas would go even further than buying stuff at regular price.
Dressing on a budget and being careful what you buy and still look fab - u - lous is very doable. For example, when I look for swimsuits it has to be a certain size, certain cut, and no bra support. Skirts, I now buy pull on vs. zipper as pull on has the flexibility in case you gain or lose some weight. And instead of buying the latest fashion, try to look for timeless fashion.
Cheap sites like shein or temu also help. Quality isn't great but the prices are very budget friendly.
BTW, my bank account has increased dramatically from not spending so much and me enjoying what I already have.
I don’t compartmentalise between men and women’s clothing as much any more. Women’s pyjamas with a long sleeved t-shirt style top and baggy bottoms with a string I have worn in hospital and the nurses didn’t seem to notice any difference. Aka loungewear. Same applies to some boy short style knickers that female nurses and masseurs have not raised eyebrows for. I often wear women’s t-shirts, tank tops, even shirts and sandals while presenting as a man - no probs. I’ve only got about 2 pairs of men’s shoes now but I do often wear unisex looking women’s ones from the remaining ~30-40 pairs worn for evening exercise too.
I don’t think women’s clothes are necessarily more expensive. I often pick up a few items from clothes dumps in my area - yes, people literally dump clothes in street corners illegally wear I live and I have found 3-5 quality items I can wear free of charge - once including a magnificent satin bra in a large bag of clothing left up my street. But mostly I use M&S (UK) or EBay for second hand clothes. It’s quite fun writing reviews for M&S in a feminine voice; unlike in the past, the sex of the reviewers are now invisible though some make customers to ID themselves.
All my shoes are mostly second hand. Further reading? Try “Shoe sizing in a crossdressing context.”
I prefer to buy clothes, makeup, accessories etc in person and find that I can mostly buy in shops where the staff are not bothered that I am buying for myself. I mostly buy new, but did buy a second-hand dress for an upcoming photoshoot
Makeup, I mostly buy in person, but there is one brand (Alcone) that I can only get online.
Shoes - I have to buy online, shops don't stock my size.
Tights - I mostly wear Snag which I can only find online. Other brands I buy in shops.
Wigs, forms - all online apart from 1 wig that I bought in a shop last time I visited Brighton
The main thing is to overcome want for actual need. Temptation is the foe for the thrifty so make sure it is needed. Look at the item, check and recheck the size, perhaps walk away and browse elsewhere. Another key element to consider is if you get it will it be worn and if so will it be out of fashion before the year is out. Go for classic styles .
Charity stores will of course throw up a bargain but here in the U.K some shops are charging quite a lot. Check out these stores without buying to check out the stock and how often it turns over. Some of these shops can have new clothes from stores that have finished these lines.
Sales and sale rails are a real bonus as they have up to 70% off and again check the stores regularly to see what turnover of stock they have and be switched on to when the sales are on so you can get your size.
The likes of E bay has so much on sale but it is always be buyer aware. Ensure they have made a lot of sales, feedback is good and they give good images and sizing details. The same applies to internet stores as sizing can vary and pictures aren't always as they should be.
Makeup can be bought at cheap prices in stores and named brands do tend to be overpriced.
Look out for bargains all the time.
There is only one thing that I would think to pay as much as you can afford is a wig if you need one. It's no good being dressed as a princess when your crown lets you down.
I tend to use ebay and other online stores and l also use thrift shops, my wife and l share nightys as well.
I only wear ladies underwear too.
I bought forms online as well and my wife and l share make-up
I shop online most of the time but sometimes go into the shops, the thing is that I can't stop buying lingerie and dresses, I have so many clothes I just want to wear them out xxx
Yes I have been buying bra's and knickers from Braforme website and they are expensive but they are really nice and comfortable and the material is very pretty and feels so nice when wearing them
Marie, thank for your great article not only for detail writing but also stimulating interest whereby all the great suggestions from the other ladies here on CDH.
If I may add that my go to store to purchase my feminine wardrobe, accessories, and jewelry is Macy’s… I buy online and in store (not femme yet 😌) my wife who was a partime supervisor taught me never buy retail and wait for all their discounts… I am now a platinum member who takes advantage of notification of early discounts, free shipping, and receive award points which translates to dollars for additional discounts… e.g one of my favorite LBD’s retail was $79 discounts and reward dollars, I paid $29 lol… I will soon take advantage of visiting the store en femme because Macy’s is also cd/tg friendly according to Lucille Sorella “Feminine Secrets”… thank you for listening.
Warmest regards, Leonara
As much as i like really nice dresses, other than the Keystone big night, I really don't go to any dressy events. I still have many nice outfits I just don't get to wear them. With what I'm buying i really don't find women's clothes more expensive than men's. The exception is lingerie. As pretty as these items are, you would think they would almost give these things away. Everyone loves pretty sexy lingerie.
That was a great read. I do a lot of what you mentioned with starting at thrift stores. In the beginning I purchased a lot of great items for a song basically. Now yes heels are another story , I’ve become a bit of a shoe addict. DSW is my favourite shoe store as they have a clearance rack with size 11’s .I do buy most of my “Ashley” things on sale and a few online sites that are very reasonable. I did keep a few pairs of my boring drab male underware for certain times but have moved on to wearing my panties to doctors appointments as I told her about my crossdressing as suggested by my counsellor.
“ here’s a tip: most crossdressers have two personalities: female and male – even with different names'
So Well Said !
The only underwear I wear are women's. Haven't worn men's underwear in 40 years. My wife and I go thrifting all the time we come home with more for me than for her lol.
I started off not buying at thrift stores but at the clearance racks. Add to that some coupons and I was able to build a modest size size wardrobe for relatively little money.
Another thing I did was to salvage clothing my ex was putting in the garbage (usually without her knowledge). Of course this only works if you are both about the same size.
Recently, thrift stores near me have been closing the dressing rooms because there had been a lot of damaged items left behind. So now you better be sure you know your size before getting something from there or you will end up donating it right back.
Recently I have been wearing women's andronogynous (or almost so) clothing. Jeans, tee shirts, low rise socks, flats, and sometimes even cardigans or jeans jackets as men's wear. If someone looked closely they might realize they are women's clothes, but most poeple don't notice and no one has really asked.
I don't necessarily agree that women's clothing costs more than men's. For the price of one suit, which I only wear a couple of hours one day a week, I could buy a weeks worth of women's outfits with some money to spare.