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I’ve been dressing since I was around seven. I remember thinking, why can’t I dress like my sister? Now over 50 years later, why am I still asking that same question regarding womenswear? Why can’t I wear them?
It’s an everyday occurrence now. Whenever I see a woman beautifully dressed, I’m usually asking, “Why didn’t I get to dress like that?” It causes me to think back on all the wonderful outfits that I missed out on while growing up. All the cute little dresses and all the pictures my mother would’ve taken of me. All the special events we went to required a beautiful gown, and all the dolls I missed out on.
I could have been raised to be more girly and feminine, as I really wanted to be. I’ve missed not having a Barbie doll collection complete with a Ken doll. The fun in giving Barbie different outfits to wear for all those special occasions. I’ve missed having my first vanity (Makeup table) where I would have learned the proper makeup techniques. The many ways my hair could have been done in cute ways. Getting to learn it all from my mom, mostly, and then my girlfriends at pajama parties. That’s all part of learning to be a woman. How to act and dress properly.
On a different level, I now look at women and wish I had their features. I know I could have them with surgery, but I really wish I could have it all naturally. At least lived my teen years with a beautiful feminine body. Be that beautiful girl. I can imagine all the gorgeous outfits that I could’ve worn. I wish I could’ve had that experience. Good or bad I want it. All I can do now is to grow out my hair. You won’t believe it; I even get comments from older guys about the length of my hair. Good and bad. It’s all I have girls.
When I’m noticed checking out other women by the women I’m with, they might get jealous but I’m usually thinking, “Look how she’s dressed and how she carries herself.” I look to see how she pairs things together. I want to be her. I’m sure we’ve all done that at some level.
There are so many things a woman can have. Pretty things and useful things. All sorts of clothing styles. Purses to match any outfit. Jewelry in endless combinations. When women go shopping they can buy anything. They’re not scared to have an item in their possession ready to purchase or when a friend sees them. They’re free to buy whatever they want. I have to be sneaky. I’m so jealous.
When a woman has extra big features, I usually ask, “Why couldn’t you have given me some of hers.” That sounds silly, I know. It’s just my desire to be a woman. The perfect woman I picture in my head; She’s elegant, poised, and proper. Not with her nose up in the air towards others, but she is truly accepting of others and caring. I am basically that person, but I’m in the wrong form.
People see guys as being more tough. When they see a guy who’s a little “Too caring,” they are labeled soft or some other derogatory name. It’s literally hard every day to be a guy when you see women living the life that you want for yourself. Believe me, I don’t hold that against them at all. On the contrary, it’s who I want to be.
I’m just so jealous that I wasn’t raised as such. I don’t mind being my male self, but if I could switch, I honestly would. Therefore I’m jealous. I could be the perfect housewife if that’s what it takes. I could be a wonderful mother and Dr. Mom, too.
One day, they will be able to swap our gender in a better way. Maybe through brain surgery. Put my brain in a woman’s body. Hey, it could happen. If it does, it’ll be way after I’m gone. Therefore, I’m so jealous and maybe a little silly too.
I know there’s much more to add. Believe me, I’ve thought of it all. I want to know, does anyone ever have these thoughts? To what degree? And finally, what would you add or not do?
Baily Marie Lovejoy
Like most others here, yes I have those feelings. I also have grown my hair out. I have also pierced my ears and I try to take care of my eyebrows. At this time, many things stop me, not only from transitioning but other things in life. I am in therapy discussing these topics. One day I may step out into the world as myself. That will be a very interesting day!
Hi Karyn,
I too have grown my hair out. Every since I left home at 17. My hair grew down to my butt. However, I got a different job that a certain safety officer suggested I put all that hair under my hat. We went back n forth and I finally cut it. Well, that was 9 years ago and I haven’t cut it since. He’s no longer working there and I’m no longer new. They hired me with long hair and that’s who the get. Girl power!
Pardon my rant. 😂
Karyn, your journey is a long one and I certainly wish you all the success and support. I so want to take that journey. Alas all the things we have in our way. My present family. All
My family members, well I’ll say, I don’t care what they think but my SO and her kids plus the one we had together. You know the drill. Regardless, if you need an ear, I’m hear for you sis. Always ready to talk.
Hugs hun. Have a beautiful day.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
@baily While considering the past has the ability to inform us for the future, it is not a place that we should dwell. Our strength is in the ability to move forward.
We cannot change what happened in the past. It is set, so let that information continue as data points.
Hi DeeAnn,
I agree wholeheartedly that we shouldn’t dwell. If I did that, it’d just drive me crazy. 😁 No I just think “If.” That’s probably the biggest word out there. And I dream. Dreams build desire. Desire builds courage. Courage builds drive. See where I’m going with this?
All in all, a girl came dream. Don’t you agree? That’s why we dress and be our better versions of ourselves. My opinion of course.
Thank you so much for your reply. I love diversity. That builds conversation and change.
Hugs sweetie. 🤗 Enjoy the rest of your day
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
@baily That all sounds very familiar. I spend so much time, probably far too much time really 😆 thinking why isn't that me? I get to dress as much as I want & have all the padding & forms that I require but it's not the same is it. I would so love to have real curves rather than silicone ones, sadly I have the figure of a stick, which, I know many would be jealous of so I suppose I shouldn't complain but I would love to put a bit of weight on (in the right places of course) As it happens I am currently watching the sports presenter on telly who has the most amazing figure & I am so jealous.
She gets it y’all.
Sasha, I’m with you girlfriend. I can’t even go shopping. Just yesterday I saw a girl with, pardon my words, too much butt. I’m sure she’d like less and I’d like more. Can’t we work something out? 😂
Thank you Sasha for that wonderful comment.
BTW, I just love your name.
Tell others of this story. I’d love to hear all the different responses that the girls have.
Have a lovely day sweetheart.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
@baily What you say and feel is so true for many of us. For me I feel like I am being told to go stand in the corner. What they don't understand is......I am standing in a round room.....Billie D
😂 I definitely get the round room analogy, Billie. That’s funny yet all so true.
Have a fun and eventful day sweetheart.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
@baily My journey has been long and winding, from being attracted to and admiring beautiful and well-groomed girls and women to wanting to be able to become a beautiful and well-dressed female myself.
I was fascinated by the accoutrements of femininity and sought to possess them, eventually wanting to appear fully feminine - at least, only sometimes and only privately.
As I dress more frequently (and also more with attention to the practical and tasteful than merely the "pretty"), I find myself appraising women in public spaces with a "woman's gaze".
Increasingly now I find that on seeing an attractive woman in a tasteful and well-fitting outfit, what used to be the occasional twinge of envy has now often become raging jealousy.
Love,
Katherine
Exactly Kathrine. That’s it in a nutshell. Do you know, I went to the mall yesterday. (I had to buy school clothes for the grandkids.) Can you just imagine the time I had there. It’s like the place is a showcase of how I’m supposed to look. So many beautiful outfits on girls from, probably teens to be honest, all the way up to these two women about my age. All dressed so pretty. In just the most adorable outfits. Of course there were some that I was like, “why is she wearing that,” sorry, I think we all have a little of that in us. But mostly, my mind was blitzed. The pink fog had to be seen by everyone. I saw so many shoes I’d like to have. I was looking for my size. From a distance of course. Couldn’t let the kids see me checking out women’s shoes. In my size none the less. Walking by all the gorgeous, beautiful, wonderful, the prettiest dresses, skirts, outfits. It’s so hard to stay focused on anyone else. Girls, the mall is made for us. My gosh. I could start another story here. Lol. Let me just say that I made it through it. It wasn’t easy but I made it. You can bet I’m going back by myself though. I saw some scrunchies and bows that I just can’t let go.
Kathrine, thank you so much for that spot on response. And you other girls? It’s Kathrines fault that I went off on a rant. Lol 😂😂
Sister, you have a wonderful, wonderful weekend. Hugs 🤗
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
why am I still asking that same question regarding womenswear? Why can’t I wear them?
Recently, I finished reading The Naked Neanderthal and I didn't find the answer to my question (What made Neanderthals go extinct? *) which made me read it in the first place, until the last chapter.
Also in the last chapter, I found this:
"There were many distinct Neanderthal cultures. We Homo Sapiens Citadensis are absolutely normalized by our society. You just have to walk down any street to see that our expression of diversity is more or less limited to the case that we put on our smartphones or the colour of car that we choose. Our societies do not tolerate any real expression of plurality. In western society women can wear their hair long or short, trousers or skirt, make-up or no make-up, but the same is more problematic for men. We belong to an over-normative society, and that is basically true of all sapiens societies, at all times: difference is frowned upon and only superficially tolerated at the periphery. This is probably a matter of ethology, a phenomenon deeply embedded in our genes and not simply a cultural feature. We live lives restricted by our norms. We all confine ourselves to specific categories."
Since we are talking about expression here, Neanderthals were very creative whereas Homo Sapiens made things precisely, almost mechanically, identical, based on things like flint artifacts. My guess is that that means Neanderthals might have been more able to approve of crossdressing, if there was such a thing in their era.
* Answer: after decades of research, the author's conclusion is that Homo Sapiens wiped them out ~42,000 years ago.
Hi Harriette,
now that is an analogy I never thought I’d here. One that’s probably true to the times back then. Crossdressing may not even have been noticed back then. However, they might have all worn the very same outfit. They definitely didn’t have heels like we gave. Thus begins OUR time in history I suppose.
I do kind of believe that crossdressing is, in part, brought on by the sight of a beautifully dressed woman or women, as it were. I couldn’t say for sure. I dressed the first time in my sisters nightgown. As I try to remember it, I saw it, not her in it, so it might be that the design of clothes, in its art form, is designed to attract. Those of us who are more inclined, choose to try this design for ourselves. Once bitten twice shy. And the story begins.
Just another analogy in a different perspective.
Wow, I sure hope all you other girls enjoyed this look at our perspectives on how this crossdressing thing may have began.
I look, and believe that we are all gods creatures and he loves us no matter how we’re dressed. I’m not real spiritual but I know my boundaries. 😁
Thank you so much for that wonderful and yet educational response, Harriette.
have a marvelous day sweetie.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
@baily I wished that the author had included clothes as a form of expression in our society because at least women have that medium to do that. Women's clothes are so varied around most of the world.
So true, Harriette, so true. And loved by all. Wouldn’t we all want at least just one outfit from each? 😁
You sure get a persons mind going girl. Lol. Love your responses. Have a beautiful day sweetie.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
That could be, Harriette. Does it explain my jealousy for not being brought up in the feminine manner? I’m not sure.
thank you so much for your lovely comment.
Enjoy the rest of your evening, dear.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
Jealousy is defined as "feeling or showing envy".
I have the feeling that a lot of CDs gave in to that envy and did something about it.
Harriette, I so appreciate the direction that you would like to take this story. Perhaps I could’ve mentioned something about it. The fact is that this story is only based on the feelings that I feel from time to time or even day to day. It’s basically therapeutical that I even tell the story.
I’d love to hear more of your version of you wouldn’t mind.
Thank you so much for your input. Have a wonderful day, sweetie.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
My story may not be relevant to you. Your original question was, "Why can’t I wear them?"
I >do< wear women's clothing almost all of the time and I am trying to go further and be bolder every day.
On my recent trip looking for a new bra, for example, I brought a pair of low-heeled open-top, pointed-toe black pumps and put them on before going into two very large stores and then wore them everywhere else that I went to, even on public transit, until I opened my front door at home. (While a bit on the bold side for me, this was mid-day on a school day, so I wasn't too concerned and I was definitely lucky.)
Those shoes are not typical men's style shoes and, for that matter, not even typical for modern women. It went well. One woman turned her head when we passed each other on stairs when she couldn't miss seeing these shoes. (What did I just see?)
Do what you can whenever you can.
Correction: I wore those pumps when I wasn't beside my wife. I am not sure that she would accept them yet.
I guess that I crossdress so much that I can confuse my adventures, plus it is 4AM. 🎉
I guess I do bold things every day, if I think about it. My hair is long. Down past my bra strap. I’d say, mid back. Every day I wear scrunchies and tie my hair up in a ponytail. Sometimes those scrunchies are the real fluffy ones. I have over 100 scrunchies of all different colors and designs. Even with long ribbons tied to it to make pretty bows from. Or they just hang down, flipping with the wind. Plus I have the big bows with the long tails on them that I clip on the top of my ponytail if I’m not wearing a scrunchy but just a rubber band. I’ll even wear my pretty smelling body sprays out, sometimes.
I guess there’s little things like that, I do. It’s not really the same as just getting all dolled up and doing normal everyday things.
Thank you for sharing that, Harriette. Have a lovely day sweetie.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
It’s not really the same as just getting all dolled up and doing normal everyday things.
There you go! Change your world starting with hairbows.
I don't get "all dolled up" any day, either, but I get away with, if you want to call it that, wearing 100% women's clothes almost 100% of the time in public. No make-up, short hair, moustache, no dresses, no high heels, and few observers can even tell.
If I can do that in the wild outdoors, read some of my recent posts to see how you can go on adventures, too.
I’ll be happy to read some of your posts. maybe we can share stories and tips. I too have that mustache but also a beard, yuck 🤢. I only wear it because my SO loves it. I wear it very short though and the kids here are used to seeing it on me. When I shaved it, they all demanded I grow it back. 🥺 I guess I had to, for them.
id like to find out just what you wear. It sounds intriguing. Like something I want to do. Do tell, girl. 🤓😁
@baily Facial hair sure complicates things, eh?
Partly because of that, I choose my women's fashions very carefully, so I can wear whatever I want without drawing any more attention than necessary. If they look as if they might also pass as male clothes, I investigate further. This style I call androgynous because, well, it is. Remember, though, I still want to look good.
I also use magician tricks of illusion and obfuscation, mainly to hide breasts.
You can't hide shoes, though, but you don't have to highlight them, either. Black shoes, black stockings below dark pants don't pull the eyes down there (e.g. obfuscation). Pointed toe shoes are a bit iffy, if they do look. Short block heels have been very practical, if you can find something that fits. Just don't go overboard with them.
100% women's clothes nearly 100% of the time! What more do normal women wear normally? The same as I do. 😄
@harriette I suppose I could dress like that. I’d sure miss my dresses and skirts and my pretty blouses. Blouses? Not sure it’s said like that in multiples. 😜
I love that you’re able to dress 100% en fem.
Enjoy the rest of your evening, sweetie.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
it might be that the design of clothes, in its art form, is designed to attract. Those of us who are more inclined, choose to try this design for ourselves.
I would say that this is a big part of why crossdressers dress the way that we do in the first place. It certainly is why I do it.
@harriette Thank you for sharing this interesting insight.
I had not given it very much thought before, but will now examine this view in greater depth.
Love,
Katherine
Thank you, Katherine. Please let me know your perspective of what you found.
Have a lovely evening, Katherine
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
@baily Like many others, I get it and feel that way. The past I need to let go of is that in my teens, I could have been a lovely woman. With a baby face, slender figure, gorgeous curly hair, and very little body hair, I was sometimes mistaken for a girl. Maybe they were not mistaken 🙂
Decades later, I sometimes like to present as a woman but the curls aren't as nice, the baby face has wrinkles, and age spots mar my once lovely legs. I am doing what I can - staying in the present! I know what feels good and who I am. I posted a photo today on here. It made me nervous but sometimes I think I'm cuter en femme!
@kristacrawford1967
Cuter? I’m not sure but you sure are cutter en femme sweetie.
You said it best honey. The past would be great but it’s gone. Listen girls, I may not have the pictures now but dang it, I was a looked dressed up. 😂. Same thing as most us most likely. Slender. Not much hair. I’m Indian so some places have slim to no hair, (Underarms, Chest and Back,) and back then, absolutely no facial hair until I was about 27. (Miss those days 😔) Tge here and now is what needs to be the most important. Besides, makeup has changed a lot since then. Let’s hike up our longer skirts, tighten our bras and woman up.
great response, Krista. Thank you so much. Have a lovely day sweetheart.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
I had to read twice to get past you calling me cute! LOL! I love the validation we receive in here. Thank you for your thoughtful response, Baily.
@kristacrawford1967
😂Ahh, all those looks and humorous too? I see, a triple threat girl. 😁
You’re very welcome honey.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
LOL! I'll own the humor part at least, though my teenaged kids deny it! I also can't count...humor..."looks"...and...?
@kristacrawford1967
Ok, you’re gonna make me admit my sources. I got the last part from Jim Carrey in Liar, Liar. 😂
I’m sorry. Just to clarify. I’m American Indian. I’m not blessed with the beautiful eyes of those beauties. 😢😁
Interesting that two continents of people lay claim to that word. Where I work we do significant work with American Indians and at one time I lived near the Lakota. Also, such lovely dark eyes!
@kristacrawford1967
Yes I agree, Krista. Perhaps they should have the name Indian because of Indonesia. That’s just one place though. I’m confused on why they called us Indians now. Lol. That’s what I grew up with though.
😁
I was told that Columbus (or some other white dude) thought he had reached India. History back then though....who knows?
@kristacrawford1967
Oh yes. That’s right. I think I remember something like that. Lol. 😁
@baily I first dressed age about 10 found one of mams bras in bathroom and just had to try it on took me few attempts to fasten it as mam wore longline ones and for a while could only fasten couple of hooks and eyes after a while I learnt the knack and loved how they looked padded on me from there I progressed to panties as well which I loved still wear them now in my retirement years
I hope you enjoyed my story. Unfortunately, I still live it every day.
Thank you so much for your comment, Debbie. Have a lovely day sweetie.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
I have feelings like this everyday. I often see women doing things, acting in a certain way and wearing things and wishing that could have been me. I particularly feel this way lately when I see a woman with nice physique. In a way, I hate myself for it but I do see the feelings as reasonable since I am trans. I definitely have missed out on a lot in life since I have only allowed myself to feel this was and act on it recently. Regardless of these feelings, I am where I am now and absolutely plan to live the rest of my life to the feminine fullest!
Hi Lauren,
First of all, congratulations on your transition. 🏳️⚧️ YAY! 🏳️⚧️
Secondly, thank you so much for replying to this. It feels better to know I’m not the only one who feels this way.
Enjoy the rest of your day sweetheart.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
Hi, Bailey, thanks for posting this, it really resonates with me.
I was a nervous teenager with zero confidence with girls, terrified to ask a girl out, heck even to ask for a dance!
By my mid twenties and married, I got a job in a spirits bottling plant, where 95% of the workforce were women and many liked to have a laugh at the guys' expense. That soon made me toughen up! But, it also gave me confidence to give as good as I got, this brought me some respect and, from that, I learned to talk to women freely and without an agenda.
Ever since, I've gravitated much more to women than men in social and work situations. If I've had an agenda at all, it's to feel like them. And to be accepted by them for who I am.
Another thing I've always been envious of is when girls are getting ready for an evening out, I have two daughters and they always had their friends in our house before going out for the evening. Lots of laughter and fun, helping each other with hair and makeup. I so wanted to be part of that.
But we are where we are so I'll enjoy every minute I spend as Allie 😊.
Allie x
Hi Allie,
I went through a similar phase where I couldn’t talk to girls. I later worked with a guy that just had the gift of gab. We were close. He didn’t know but I was learning from him on just how to be more confident in speaking to women. As a child I always thought that girls might see through me and know I wanted to be a girl. Maybe that’s why it was so hard for me back then? No problem now though. I don’t care if they know. 😂
have a lovely day sweetie.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
The only one stopping you is you. You can dress and look as girly as you want. Many here do. Yes, society my look at yoi and not agree, but that is societies problem, not your's. It may bot be easy, but it can ne done.
So true JJ. Actually if you look, I have another story that speaks of this in a little more detail. As an experiment I did online. The title is “Girls, You Are Good Enough.” If you have time, you might enjoy the read.
have a super day and thank you for your reply.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
Thank you so much for sharing that link sweetie. Have a Beautiful weekend. Hugs 🤗
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
I'm with you there Baily! I often notice women with particularly stereotypical feminine features and find myself jealous, be it the curvy hips, the defined waist, the narrow shoulders, the eyebrow angle & shape. And to top it off, it usually coincides with them wearing a lovely outfit that looks great and is pulled off with ease, but would never look as good on me due to the lack of the "right" features. The miracle of oestrogen I guess
I often wonder how much I'd be able to fix that if I were to take hormones, in terms of how much affect they'd have one getting those wonderful feminine features but of course that's just more of a thought experiment since taking hormones for aesthetics alone would be a poor decision for me.
Amy x
Oh my gosh girl. Exactly, the eyebrows are a thing for me right now. It seems that I now notice the eyebrows on every single female. Do I like them? Can she do them better? Can I make mine look so good? It’s all I can do to not look like I’m starting. You know, like that creepy type staring. 😂
I love your input and I so much appreciate it. Thank you Amy.
here’s to a beautiful weekend snd much better weather🥂. Hugs gf
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
Hi Baily and thanks for this interesting post. My first take on it was "the grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence" but I do recognize a longing for things not had. I have had an interesting both sides now life and have had the opportunity to have close women friends. Sometimes I would hear remarks about another woman and other times I would see a personal dialogue. In a group someone may say "oh her dress is beautiful" and the others may then chime in talking about it. Conversely, a woman may walk right up to another and say "I think your dress is beautiful" and then they may exchange pleasantries. It was rare for me to hear something nasty like "she's too old to wear that" but more likely to hear "I would love to wear that bodycon dress or heels but I just don't have the body for it anymore" or "she has a daring style". There is somewhat of a pecking order but the majority of what I was exposed to was not especially nasty. When speaking of breasts, I'd hear about someone being a "large girl" and then the talk may evolve to "OMG they can be sooo heavy by the end of the day but they would work well in an evening gown if I ever went out to a fancy event" ..or.."my boobs are small but it would be fun to have them for a night" Women admire other women that take care of themselves and do the best to look good and healthy with what they have just as men rate themselves comparing height, muscle, cars and money etc. So from my perspective, I do what I can with what I've got and try to have as much fun as possible without hurting somebody. I'll never be a fighter pilot but I did manage to fly a P51 Mustang once. So like the Stones say "you can't always get what you want but if you try real hard sometimes you get what you need" and if something bothers you a lot, perhaps you also need to find a way to get it. I'm 5ft 5in and 120 lbs and while I'll never be a professional basketball player, I can rock a slinky bodycon dress. So if I really longed to be a ball player perhaps I could find a game that would be possible with the equipment I've got (like ping pong or pool) or perhaps become a sports spokesperson. I'm not trying to discount a desire to experience other things but just looking at it through my own life experience lens. BTW, I'm retired but do work each winter as a woman's costumer (think Dancing With The Stars and Lido De Paris). Perhaps you might enjoy taking a sewing class, getting a machine an learning to become a designer. That might satisfy some of your womanly longings. Safe Journey, Marg
Hi Marg,
Thank you so much for your view on this story. It’s truly insightful.
Through my years I’ve seen a lot of grass that seems greener on the other side. Some of that grass was not so green once on it however, other types of grass was actually greener and wonderfully soft. It’s kind of like a try it and see if it works for you type of situation. If you’re willing to take the chance you might, at the very least, learn something. You might even change you life for the better. It’s an individual decision of a person at an integral point in their lives.
I have been wanting to learn how to sew. Perhaps you’re on to something.
thank you and have a wonderful weekend sweetheart.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
@baily Hey Baily, Sounds wonderful. You might check for local sewing clubs, Senior Center or theater groups to get started. Safe Journey, Marg
I find that women who have the opportunity to dress in anything they desire but choose to wear the most boring bland ripped jeans and baggy T shirts and Doc martin boots annoying. I know its unfair that I think that but I dream of wearing anything but jeans and a T shirt and to see girls who can do this just wearing the same clothes Im wearing as unfair. If they can wear my clothes why cant I wear the ones she 'could' wear. Silly but thats my view
Not silly at all Ellie. I think the exact same thing. I get that there might be sometimes when a pair of jeans might be necessary. I just don’t understand why they would want to wear things that don’t flatter them. If I could, I’d be in a dress or skirt in some little cute outfit. I’d always look my best. It’s actually why I shop more at Publix than Walmart. Women who go in there seem to take much better care of themselves. Wearing cute outfits too. I see much more dresses and skirts there then I ever see at Walmart. Just my observation mind you. Jokingly I’ve always said, if I were president, I’d make a law that women must wear dresses or skirts. Lol. Don’t get me wrong. So many women look so pretty in a pair of nice fitting shorts or pants. It’s just my silly perspective. 😁
Thank you for your wonderful response Ellie. Have a lovely day sweetheart.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
Yep...we've had some hot weather here and I was out driving in trousers, top, work attire basically. I got to look at the women casually dressed in free-flowing summer dresses, the colours were bright and inviting, the casual elegance and bare legs and I wished that were me.
Oh Jayde, the ongoing struggles of us girls trapped in societies norm. Let’s pray for a quick change snd be that girl with the wind blowing our dresses up and messing up our hair.
So true sweetie, so true. Thank you for your comment on this. It’s truly refreshing to see so many of you girls along side me with this.
Have a lovely day honey. Be you and be beautiful.
Baily 🎀💁♀️🎀
Same. After years of discreetly wearing lingerie and pantyhose under all male cloths so that only I know, I have finally screwed up the courage to wear pantyhose with shorts and some of my costume jewelry out and about. And you know what: no one seems to notice and no one says a word. Well that’s not entirely true, a lady at the next self checkout complimented my jewelry the other day in the grocery store. I was taken aback: I didn’t know what to say other than to thank her. Perhaps the world is slowly changing to accept that I may have been amab but I choose to wear what I want and present as I want. Will I ever be mistaken as a genetic female? Absolutely not, and honestly I do t want to. I do want to present as I wish and that I am learning to do. One baby step in heals at a time!
@evebell I love that story. You should read my other story. I did a small research online. Look above. The link was given by Miss Ellie Davis. The story is entitled “Girls, You Are Good Enough.”
I have natural long hair. With this I’ve started about a year ago to wear pretty scrunchies to tie up my ponytail. Oh my gosh girl. I’ve went nuts with scrunchies. I’ve got nearly 100 now. A few of which have the long ribbons hanging down. I think their so pretty and feminine. I wore one of those out just the other day. My SO and I went shopping for food at a neighborhood store. People seemed to not even look. I was dressed in drab so it might have thrown some people off a bit but it sure felt nice.
I do agree. Maybe the world is changing. The internet and the fact that people don’t want to appear prejudice. Then be blasted online and labeled afterwards so everyone can see. Thank you internet.
She’s right girls. “Baby Steps.”
have a wonderful day sweetheart.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
Your words really resonate. Just if right? I always say in 'another lifetime' and I truly hope that. I would like to think I was a queen or a gorgeous dame in a previous life. I think why else do I have the feelings and I am pretty decent at some of my feminine decisions and choices. Maybe if I had been born in a different environment. Would I have transitioned? When would I have transitioned? If I was just a bit more petite I could pull it off. But alas as Popeye said, I am what I am and that is all that I am and we all have to work within those boundaries and break through the obstacles be it mental or physical!
Your words really resonate. Just if right? I always say in 'another lifetime' and I truly hope that. I would like to think I was a queen or a gorgeous dame in a previous life. I think why else do I have the feelings and I am pretty decent at some of my feminine decisions and choices. Maybe if I had been born in a different environment. Would I have transitioned? When would I have transitioned? If I was just a bit more petite I could pull it off. But alas as Popeye said, I am what I am and that is all that I am and we all have to work within those boundaries and break through the obstacles be it mental or physical!
Thank you for your wonderful response. Now, I do know of who you are speaking of. The fact that we both know who Popeye is truly dates us girlfriend. 🤣 yeah, we’re the older, wiser women, right. Lol.
have a great day sweetie.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
I sort of experience the same thing. I'm not really attracted to women anymore, so when I see a woman, I'm more often than not thinking "How would HER outfit look on me, or that hairstyle, or shoes. I use an old joke "When I tell a woman I want to get into her panties, I mean it literally! I'm not sure of the psychology behind my thoughts, but it seems to me I'm thinking more like a woman than a man.
Hi Barbara Ann,
It sounds like you have evolved. I saw two girls today in their bikinis. I have to say, I definitely appreciate their bodies. There again, I’m wishing I had those beautiful bodies. I use the word had because I’ll be 60 on Friday. It’s not possible for me to have that now. 😂
thank you so much for the wonderful response sweetie. Have a beautiful evening.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
Great article I share your thoughts
Thank you so much Jenifer and thank you for taking the time to read it. Just writing what I feel.
have a lovely day sweetie.
Baily🎀💁♀️🎀
Thanks for posting this. I can certainly identify with alot of your feelings.
Thank you for responding and letting me know I’m not alone in my thinking, Patches. Have a wonderful Friday sweetie.
Bsily🎀💁♀️🎀
