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Recently, Cynthia wrote an article that re-spoke two of my favorite quotes:
Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world.
Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form.
Risk being seen in all of your glory - Jim Carry
I absolutely love that quote and it has supporting me in learning how to live it as best, and as often as I am able to every day.
The second is:
And “I am only one, but still, I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something.
And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.” - Edward Everette Hale
Many of us imagine that our role on this planet is of little to no consequence to anyone. We have decided that to truly “matter” we must accomplish great things and be in the news headlines, or seen the world over on big screens; we imagine, “who am I to think I can make a difference on the world?” Nothing is further from the truth my friends, who you are matters more than you may know. Simply being you, may be saving the lives of people you don’t even know.
You can read more of Cynthia’s work here: https://transgenderheaven.com/members/skippy1965/ under the articles tab; its worth the read I assure you.
Now allow me to introduce Stan, a Walmart greeter at one of our local locations of the big box store.
When I first met Stan I was wearing a cowboy hat, boots, jeans, and a Garth Brooks western shirt. That was a few years ago now obviously. He works two jobs, by choice, is in his 70’s age-wise and just loves being around and people sharing stories.
He has always been friendly, never shied away from me as I entered the store and always has always had kind things to say to me. Never once has he even glanced at me in any way that could be misconstrued. In fact, Stan has introduced me to a few of the other folks who he is chatting with as I pass by.
Stan is being the change he wants to see in the world.
He is modeling acceptance of others, friendship with everyone, kindness and even supportiveness to those who may need it most, like me.
Stan would ask me how I am doing and would listen as I spoke asking further questions; "how is the process going for you? What has it been like?" He shares this information with others I am sure because he shares what others have told him about their adventures with me from time to time.
Having this one 'safe person' in a very public place has helped me immensely to shift from feeling deeply ashamed of being transgender and immobilized with fear to even risk being seen authentically in public, to regaining my self-confidence and esteem. You might be someone's Stan.
I knew Stan would be just inside those big doors and would greet me with a smile and friendly, accepting conversation. This helped me muster the courage and inner strength to be more authentic, overcome decades of deeply rooted fears and imagined horrors of being more, well, me.
I have told Stan how much I appreciate him, and several others who have shown me kindness, acceptance and support as this adventure continues. And I thank each of you who continue to “be the change” and fulfill your role on this planet of being exactly who you are!
Being seen being you, is a role that will change the world dear souls, so in whatever way you are safely able, be seen, be kind and share your stories. The life you save may be closer to you than you know.
You matter, believe it!
Thank you for reading Your Weekly Reset and thank you for being exactly who you are!
Namasté
n huggles
Char
Thank you so much for the wonderful article. It is so true! We don't realize the changes we can make another people's lives. An acquaintance hung himself last week. Not a crossdresser a TG or even gay. Just a sailor I knew. Always wonder if there wasn't something I could have said or done that might've changed the tide. Sometimes it's the little things that helps someone over a hump.
Awe Thank you for sharing Samantha; I believe that if there was something you could have said or done to change the tide, the sailor would still be here hon.
My Dad used to say, you can't save the world, but I refuse to let that stop me from making the difference that I can 😉
I love who you are Samantha, keep on hon.
Namaste' n huggles dear soul
Char
Char, you are too kind! But your point is valid/we influence more people than we know. Some examples I’ve gotten from friends both on-site and in my local pool bar: “ hey, you're not a wierd person, OR old. you're beautiful and amazing and you inspire me to be unapologetically myself. I'm happy to know you. please text me when you want to go shopping or get your nails done ”; “ I caught up on all the stories except the emails. You really need to think about publishing your writings. You have made me look at the whole transgender issue differently. The media made such a dramatic issue with it and it never made sense. I feel like I have a better feel of it now. A respect that I haven't had previously.”;” You really know how to say things. Whether poetry or writing, you are capable of making yourself felt. I cannot begin to express the emotions your thoughts bring out. I've never given a lot of thought to how people in your circumstances might feel, I guess. Shame on me! Be happy, Cyn!!”;” ou know I know just what your talking about. I remember being scared, feeling alone, wondering what my friends and family would think of me. My first time on CDH I signed up and then split. (Yes that must of been before chat) Why because I thought someone in my house saw me on there and I freaked out. But I did come back and I stayed this time. And you want to know why. Because of you Cynthia, you were the one who said something me and you made a impact on me. I don't even remember what that was, but it was important enough for me to keep coming back. I been there on CDH now, let's maybe 4 or 5 years now. You may not see yourself as a mentor, but I know others do. I am one of them. So In thank you and I should have told you sooner”. It’s things like this that keep ya going when times get tough and that hopefully bring about the time when folks won’t give us a second glance except cause we look fabulous LOL!
Cyn
Well Thaaanks, now my mascara is running hahahaha
and sister, if you know how I can get my writings "out there" more, please let me know, that has been my greatest challenge next to changing my mind haha
I love ya Sister, thank you for this reply, you make a huge difference dear and I am so grateful for you Cyn
Namaste' Dear
n big huggles of course hehe
Char
