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It's been a revelatory weekend in trying to find a way to express the femininity that lives inside me. With the courage I gained from the advice and touching stories on Crossdresser Heaven, I decided to tell my wife that I was feeling very strongly about exploring my female side and becoming more active with my dressing up.
The first time I broached the subject of wanting to wear women's clothing was 39 years ago after one year of marriage. She was surprised by my admission and took a while to process it. Eventually, she agreed to go shopping with me and we bought panties, a bra, some other clothing items and a wig. We even went to a couple of Halloween celebrations at some local bars with me dressed as a sexy cowgirl. After the initial foray into cross dressing, the whole process came to a halt as kids, careers, and life in general took precedence. Off and on over the years, I dabbled in exploring my feminine side but always in private because I could tell my wife really didn't want to deal with a part of me she didn't understand.
So, on Friday night feeling empowered by my newly found girl power and three glasses of a tasty Cabernet wine, I made my move. I explained how it was very important for me to do this and after a lifetime of denial I was ready to get more serious about dressing. We talked for a couple of hours about all aspects of me wanting to wear women's clothing and explore my femininity. She agreed that I should go ahead with it and asked me if I had a female name. At that moment Jill was introduced to my wife.
We decided we would go shopping for clothes and she told me about the bargains to be had at the thrift store. The feeling that came over me realizing she was accepting this part of me was empowering.
I now feel closer to my wife than ever and believe that this will only make our relationship stronger. She's still not sure about seeing me dressed but I'm ok with that limitation she’s imposed on me. Hopefully down the road that will change - well a girl can only hope.
As I sit here writing this, dressed as Jill of course, I am reflecting on this past weekend and feeling very hopeful for the future. I hope more people find that being tolerant of everyone who is seeking to find their true self can only make this world a better place.
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Have you had "The Talk" with your wife or SO yet and if so, how did it go?
What level of acceptance do you have from your wife or SO?
Are there limits your wife or SO have imposed on your thrill of cross dressing? If so, would you like to share them with me?
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Please take time after reading my article to answer one or any of the questions I've posed to you at the bottom of my article.
Love to all on this forum and maybe we'll talk again.
Sincerely, Jill
Hey Jill, Congratulations on gaining a little more ground in the direction of freedom.
One of the Native Elders who taught me some traditional ways up here said, a living branch can be bent into a full circle if we do it slowly and gently enough.
My amazing wife supports my adventure now fully; she chooses RuPaul shows on netflix regularly these days; not bad for a filipina catholic girl. She has requested that I stay away from surgeries. I'm good with that at the moment; it leaves options open.
The more we allow ourselves to be seen, the sooner the collective mind will form a circle of love and acceptance for all forms of peaceful self expression.
Thaaanks for your article Jill, and for being you!
Namaste'
Char
