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Why Crossdressing Does Not Matter to God!
Many people will tell you crossdressing is sinful behavior. Then CDs and TGs repress their gift and enter into deep emotional despair. At this point, I would agree crossdressing is a major sin. Everyone misses the mark because we are driving each other away from God, in the name of righteousness. The consequences lead to repression, guilt, and shame that are unnecessary in the eyes of God.
Why are these feeling unnecessary? Well, Jesus died on the cross for our sins and rose again after the third day. As a result, those who follow him have conquered death from sin and do not need guilt or shame because Jesus won. It is through Jesus, we learn to have compassion, become aware of our purpose, and empower others to live again through Christ.
About a year ago, I had an intense dream. Part of that dream was an image of me standing over a battered and broken man chained down, with a sword in my hand. I was preparing to kill him before he said: “who gives you the authority to judge?” I woke after the dream fearful and excited. His words and image echoed in mind ever since.
When it comes to judging others, we all know what Jesus said, in his sermon on the mount. In Matthew 7:3-5 we get “Do not judge or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others you will be judged.” This theme is powerful and repeated in the bible often, just in different ways. Another set of verses comes from James 4:11-12
“Brothers and sisters do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it but sitting judgement on it. There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who can save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?”
Interesting considering what the man said. On some of those verses alone, we can reasonably conclude that no one can judge crossdressing as a sin. When they are making that judgement then they are acting on authority that is not theirs and is therefore worthless. That is why I could not kill the man.
Oddly enough, self-acceptance and empowering others are intrinsically linked in the bible. Self-acceptance occurs through salvation and empowering others is something that followers pass forward. In the context of the dream, the sword represents the Word of God. Do not believe me look at Ephesians 6:17 “the Sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” Now the interesting question is how does someone use the word of god? Luckily, we have already sufficiently proven not through swinging or stabbing others.
In order to use the Word of God, we must understand the way to salvation. Fundamentally, the only way to salvation is through Jesus Christ, which is flesh and was with God all along (John 1). Without Jesus, there could be no life. Therefore, salvation is achievable through Jesus, whom we openly invite into our heart. Only then are we free from sin, guilt, and shame. As we move beyond salvation, it is our responsibility to serve Christ. As we serve Him, we lift the chains of sin because by lifting our hands in praise we find purpose and grace (Romans 6-8). As a result, we no longer need to care about the opinions of others because healing occurs through Christ. Besides, only the individual knows what Christ is doing in their heart that does not bound them to the opinions of others.
Back to the dream, the appropriate course of action is to give the man the sword of the Spirit. From there he has the choice to break his chains and obey God’s purpose. I can briefly imagine his health returning to him and he would pass forward the sword, so someone else can come to the revelation that the sword of the Spirit can set him or her free to live in grace.
Righteous Christians push CDs and TGs away from God, for their judgments do not belong to God. Luckily there is always hope. How God heals each individual is between them and God, the rest of the world has no say. Crossdressing is a gift from God for whatever the purpose is, and I am a firm believer that God makes no mistakes. Therefore, I challenge you to pick up, receive, or give the Sword of the Spirit to someone who is hurting and watch, as God will work wonders in their heart.
Now for a few questions I would like you to offer up a repsonse to:
- Has your religion or spirituality ever caused you guilt and shame as a result of your cross dressing?
- Is there a particular scripture or sermon that caused you to turn away from cross dressing and plunge you into despair?
- How would you tak up the Sword of God?
Thank all of you CDH readers for taking time to read this article and please take the time to respond to this article if any part of it hits home with you or if you'd like to offer up an answer to any of the three questions noted above.
If you know anyone who is struggling with shame and guilt of self-expression because of biblical scripture or sermons, please have them read this ariticle.
I have always worn a modest cross on a chain around my neck. I am in transition now, but it is the same cross I wear now that I used to wear. I know that whatever changes may seem to be apparent to others, concerning my appearance, my cross represents the same Christ who has always loved me.
One day, years ago, when I was sitting alone in a locked room all prettied up with no place to go, I suddenly felt a warmth move through my body. A voice then told me, simply, "It's OK; everything will be OK." The guilt and shame slowly began leaving my thoughts, and, more importantly, my heart. It took a few years to happen completely, but I'd been living with it for fifty years.
A few years before God spoke to me, my wife had left the Bible on the kitchen counter one day while I had myself locked up. It was opened to Deuteronomy 22:5. I prayed over that for quite some time, I must tell you. What I didn't fully understand at the time, though, was that it was so much more than the clothes I was wearing. In fact, it wasn't until I was completely honest with myself, and then with my wife, about needing to live as the woman i was born to become all of the time, that the guilt and shame left me completely.
I like to say now that what I'm wearing around my neck is cross dressing. God, I know, has a sense of humor, and there is so much I can now look back on as being hilarious.
Deuteronomy 22:5 and I Corinthians 6:9 are two versus which are misquoted and misunderstood by many people trying to make an argument against cross dressing. I am a fundamental Bible-believing Bible-preaching Christian, I use the KJV Bible only, and I have long ago reconciled my heterosexual cross dressing with my faith and trust for eternal salvation by grace through the Lord Jesus Christ.
Anyone who cherry-picks these two versus in an attempt to mount an argument against cross dressing is not following the command of 2 Timothy 2:15, by "...rightly dividing the Word of Truth."
IMHO, I think there is an extremely low number of girls here on CDH who are Bible-believing Christians, but for those of us who are, this is a subject which we are deeply concerned about. As you probably know, many people are religious and practice religion, but they are not washed in the Blood of Jesus Christ Bible-believing Christians. In the CD support group I am a member of here in Atlanta, there is only one other girl who is a fundamental Christian. However, several of the girls practice some form of religion and attend religious churches. The religious girls seem to have little to no problem with cross dressing, and some of their churches actually welcome CDs. I think the buzz phrase they use is "open and affirming."
For years, when I hid and suppressed being a CD, it was a conflict which led to alcoholism, and the alcoholism caused me to shut God out of my life. Not so today, I cross dress in public about two days a week, which has led me to being a whole and complete person, as God created me. As a result, God now plays a major daily part of my life.
There is much more to my testimony, so I better just stop here.
Thank you so much to Jaime for writing this article!
God Bless both of you, Jaime and Connie!
Thanks for sharing. Was beautifully written and moved me. God really does work in mysterious ways.
Oxox
Rosiebeth
Hello to all Christian CDs,
in June 2018 I posted an article on the very subject of "Crossdressing and the Bible", dealing with Deuteronomy 22:5. It is archived in "Crossdressing and Religion". Thank you Jaime for your encouraging post. Love Stella
Stella,
Yes, well-written. I went back, found your June 2018 article and read it. That is the key, reading a verse in context, with surrounding verses, the entire chapter, and the entire book. etc.
Thank you,
Peggy Sue
My Sister Jamie, Very well written!
As for how would I take up the Sword, Well I ran CDH for 3 years and have been a part of it since its rebirth as it brought about mine. I am one of the voices in my church that stands up and explains, protects and supports the LGBTQ community and will be expanding that roll in the upcoming year and going forward. I am marked with the sign of my Savior in the form of a Cross tattoo.
I am a voice in the dark to anyone that needs to talk here on the site. I have been able to answer questions , for individuals and couples, on the subject of the "Fight of Faith vs Crossdressing" Like you I have studied the Bible and if you go back to the Greek Translation (so THE original version) of the Bible there is no place in the Bible that mentions Crossdressing at all let alone being a sin. Now have there been verses twisted from the original translation yes, only to serve the rulers/churches of those times.... up until today.
I open my doors, experience and love to all of you in any way I can help, THAT is my sword.
Yours In Christ,
Codille Benton
MA-E
How would one take up the Sword of the Lord?
That could be answered by carrying out The Great Commission, as the resurrected Jesus Christ commanded in Matthew 28:18-20 (KJV).
Well written Jaime! I did struggle at first with the question of: Is cross dressing a sin? Then I was at a meeting (en femme) with people from the community and I found my self sharing the fact that Jesus taught us to love one another! His message is love! Since that time I have accepted His love and am not concerned with other peoples opinions or judgement. I pray to Him as my true female self and I feel His love back. We need more women like you to remind everyone why Jesus died and rose again! It was for all of us! Thank you for such a moving letter!
Michelle
I'm sorry, religious books can be interpreted in many different ways like any book. A CDphobic can look at the same book and say that you are a sinner. I understand that you can relax by accepting yourself through religion, but that's not my way.
I live in a secular country where the majority of the population is Muslim. I read all the religious books (Quran, Bible, Torah) when my CD tendencies first appeared in my childhood. Because I believed in God back then. And I came to the conclusion: God is a man and he doesn't like people like us.
Most of you are probably not gay or bisexual. There is nothing about dressing in the Qur'an, but there are many verses about how people and nations with different sexual tendencies are punished. Many verses dictate how you have to live. There's no room for differences.
Years have passed and now I'm an atheist. I don't think the books come from God. It was written by people who lived 2,000 years ago, who wanted to control the society of that time.
Frankly, I'd rather throw it all away and burn it.
Eser,
I am not sure what your point is, but you say you are a self-proclaimed atheist. Thus, for you, it is easy, your cross dressing does not create a conflict with Christian beliefs, since you have no Christian beliefs.
Oh, BTW, being a Bible-believing Christian is not being religious. When Jesus Christ walked the Earth as a man, he got plenty of grief from the religionists of His day. The very religious Sadducees, Pharisees, and Scribes were continually harassing and threatening Jesus.
I am glad at one point in your life you read the Bible, I know many atheists who have, in fact, read the Bible. By doing so, they know -about- Jesus Christ, but they do not know Jesus Christ and have a personal relationship with Him, as we Christians do.
I read your CDH profile, but I note you did not share too many details about yourself.
Nevertheless, Eser, I hope to see more of you on CDH and perhaps some photos of yourself as well?
Hugs,
Peggy Sue
Hi Peggy Sue,
My problem is not with Christianity, but with all religions. There are many Muslim LGBT people in Turkey. I see them trying to judge and justify themselves through religion. I only find this effort pointless and I tell them too what I wrote here.
I think that religions, especially organized religions (churches, mosques, or synagogues) are the means of putting pressure on people. LGBT people are also the ones who get their share from this pressure. I do not find it right to respect a force that exerts pressure on me, to judge myself through it.
Your thoughts about Jesus, I think it's about your approach him with love. So it's because you're a good person. Most people, unfortunately, approach to God with fear, not with love. I will give an example from Islam, Osama Bin Laden is a Muslim and Rumi is a Muslim too. Bin Laden killed people, and Rumi called for peace and friendship.
With all due respect, I may not be able to express myself well. My English is not very good and I can write using Google Translate.
That's why I couldn't write much about myself in my profile. Maybe I can improve my English by writing here.
I will take photos, when I feel beautiful and ready. I hope this doesn't take long.
Hugs,
Eser
What a beautiful article! As a GG I can confirm that those feelings of guilt and shame are universal. We all deal with it from time to time. When we come to a place of acceptance in our lives, not only for others but for ourselves, every day becomes brighter and easier to handle no matter what comes. The bible says "Love one another" and I'm pretty sure there aren't any exceptions. I was encouraged by your words today.
XOXO
Lisa
Each of us is a perfect creation exactly as we are...our job, is to accept that truth and live it out loud for all the unaware to witness, love, unconditional...Namaste'
Thank you Jaimie,
n huggles for you
Char
Hi Jaime, Thank you for this article. As a Christian, I really needed to read your sharing today. You have made a big diference in me for now and my future.
God Bless you and all of us who have suffered or are still suffering. Hopefully your sharing will set more free to enjoy our faith and our crossdressing without feeling the fear of being judged.
Terri Anne
Hi Jaime,
Thanks for your post. I’m with you 100%. I first came to Christ when I was 14. I was a strong Christian all through high school, but drifted away as I approached adulthood.
When I came back, I struggled with my cross-dressing. I was well aware of the nearly universal opinion of cross-dressing in Christian circles. I really wanted to get serious with God. I was at church for every service; twice on Sunday and again mid-week. I was reading my Bible more often than the newspaper. I spent many hours in prayer. I had multiple conformations that God had his hand on me and wanted to use me for his Kingdom.
Just by way of example: I was in prayer one evening it was one of those prayer sessions where you simply pour your heart out to God. I ended up stretched out prostrate, face down, my head in my hands. I was nearly spent, when it seemed I heard God say, "Become a youth leader." That took me totally by surprise. So much so, I told God that we had a bad connection. The church I was attending had a strong youth pastor who already had two assistants who were exemplary Christians. But God repeated himself. "Become a youth leader." Well, I shined it on. I had to be delusional. The very next Sunday, I was standing outside the church in the parking lot talking with another man when the youth pastor drove into the lot. He stopped his car right next to me and just looked at me. I was a little disconcerted because he seemed to be studying me, passing judgement or something. Finally, he rolled down his widow and said, "Pat why don't you help me in the youth department." I was hearing from God, no doubt.
But back to my cross-dressing. Since at the time, I was sharing my wife's wardrobe, there was no way I could purge, and try as I might, I could go no more than a few days without cross-dressing. This to spite many hours in prayer asking God to help me leave this behind. Finally one Saturday, I had the house to myself. I fully dressed in my wife's clothes. (BTW she was fully aware of my cross-dressing and while not supportive, she accepted that was just me.) I went in to prayer. It lasted a couple of hours while I complained to God about his lack of answering my prayers concerning cross-dressing. I listed all the other things I had prayed about that he had answered me on. Things I considered trivial compared to my cross-dressing. In the end, I was kneeling at my bedside, leaning across it crying. When God gave me a vision. I saw myself, dressed just as I was, hands lifted in praise and a light shining down from heaven. The verse from 1 Samuel 16:7 came to mind. "...The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."
It became clear to me the reason God hadn't answered my prayer regarding cross-dressing because he didn't have an opinion about it. No matter how I was dressed, I was his child and he would use me to farther his Kingdom.
Our outward trappings are just the package we come in God isn't interested in that. His concern is where our heart is.
A very interesting testimony, Patricia, right from your heart, very similar to a few testimonies I have heard in my church. The unbelieving Christ-hating crowd think we are nuts, when we say God's Holy Spirit spoke to us. No, not in a human-like voice, but one definitely knows when Jesus arrives on the scene. Some God-called preachers tell similar stories, like yours. And no, I am not talking about the garden-variety seminary-schooled clergymen who practice religion. I am talking about genuine God-called preachers. They will give testimony how being a preacher was the furthest thing from their mind, but God persisted in calling them to preach, so many times and so loud, that they finally had to give in and preach the Word. What an amazing God we have! And all He asks is that we trust in His Son Jesus Christ and gain salvation through Grace. Cross dressing? I believe God is silent on the issue. I can find nothing in the King James Bible that prohibits or condemns cross dressing today. Speaking about myself, when I went completely out-of-the-closet and began presenting in public as a female, I felt for the first time in my life that I was the whole and complete person that God made me.
Hugs, Hugs, God Bless, from
Peggy Sue in Atlanta GA
As a result of coming to the conclusion I reached at the end of my time in prayer that I decided that I would never again come to God all manly. It took some time, but I've completely replaced my wardrobe so that even the clothes I wear that allow those who need to, to see me as the average male, are women's clothes. I started almost immediately to underdress daily. Minimum of panties, often a cami and when I felt brave enough a bra. Over the years, I've become totally comfortable with that and now wear all of that (including C cup forms) 24/7, even to attend church services at the same church I was attending then. I've also grown my hair down past my shoulders and most often wear "true brown" mascara.
Well written Jamie! Thanks for sharing it.
Cyn
Namaste'
My Vision is that every one of us present ourselves before the keeper of the stars in the way we are Created. . . Simple,,, not always easy,,, but always needed on our tiny blue planet. . .
Huggles ladies
Char
Thanks Jaime for your insites . my own stuggles with my cd desires- I get almost disgusted with my own desires. Then I get all femed up and I get all giggly happy. your insites ( I hope) will help me resolve my inner stuggle.
This was so beautiful it actually made me cry. I am at this crossroad in my life. Most people who know about me actually call me transgender. Which makes life just a little harder for me to understand why am I Blessed to have this issue. I am a firm believer in The Holy Trinity. But being of what I call Cradle Catholic has taught me this is a sin. Thus I do cry a lot at night as I so what to be loved by the Trinity for who my mind and body tell me I am, a Female.
