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Panties, bras, stocking, nighties ... In fact, women's lingerie is much more interesting - and fun - than the unattractive men's underwear and pajamas.
Perhaps that is why several men are opting for women's lingerie.
Several men prefer to wear panties than underwear. Perhaps due to the diversity of styles and fabrics - such as lace, satin, microfiber, and others.
Some do it for fetish, others for crossdressing, others for reinforcing the gender they consider to be (trans) ... and others for finding it more attractive than underwear.
The same concept applies to stockings, nighties and bras, but the last item deserves special attention in this article.
Men (usually) wear socks, even if they are knee-high. They wear pajamas instead of nightgowns.
If underwear is the male equivalent of panties, the male equivalent of bra is ...
Men (usually) don't wear bras - or anything equivalent. The main function of the bra is to support breasts, which most men do not have.
Precisely because it has no male equivalent, the bra is the most feminine piece in existence.
But there are several men with breasts - whether by fat or gynecomastia - who even walk without a shirt calmly. While women with little breasts (or practically no breasts) are required to wear a bra under social conventions. Is that not strange?
Usually men start wearing lingerie for a stimulus. When I was 12 and saw the girls at school starting to wear bras, I was curious and wanted to know what it was like to wear one. I wore my sister's bra hidden and enjoyed the experience.
I liked the feel of the straps on my shoulders and the hug the bra gives. You can feel protected. If it is a beautiful bra, self-esteem also increases.
How many boys didn't feel like it but didn't have the opportunity or courage to do it, not even with Mom's bra?
I even wore my sister's bras in hiding - sometimes I went to school wearing a bra under several sweaters on cold days. Why couldn't I use them without fear, even on hot days? Why couldn't I have my own bras?
Speaking of stimuli, there is a concept called "bra discipline", in which women force men to wear bras as a way of disciplining them against betrayals and inappropriate behavior.
Some women do it to make the man submissive, although it is difficult for us cross dressers to think that wearing a bra is a punishment.
Perhaps this could even be pedagogical in cases like a boy snapping a sister's or a school friend’s bra.
Putting him in a bra and snapping a few times would make him understand that it’s not good.
On the other hand, he may be doing this out of repressed desire to wear a bra, and this has to be considered to help him.
Although men - in theory - don't need bras because they don't have breasts, they can use them as a stylish piece that makes them more confident. Some professional football players already use a sports bra with a built-in GPS to monitor their performance. As the GPS needs to be in the chest region, a sports bra was the most suitable piece to embed it without impairing the player's performance.
A few years after I tried on a bra for the first time, I decided to try on a pantyhose and loved the feel of the pantyhose on my body.
Then, I decided to try on a lace boyshort panties and I also thought it was beautiful to see my buttocks in lace.
Nowadays I think about buying nightgowns, they are much more attractive than the boring male pajamas.
I loved some models in satin, lace and pocket-bra models.
This is another detail of exploring the lingerie world: we try one piece, then try another and so on. Many start exploring the fem outwear, but that is the subject of another article.
Some stores already sell bras and panties for men - although they are manufactured according to the male anatomy, they do not look as fun as the female models ... besides, they are much more expensive.
We don't want to force men to wear lingerie. But invite them to try it at least once. Perhaps if everyone did, more men would start to wear lingerie and this could stop being a taboo, reducing prejudices and can help dating and weddings by making them more fun - if the wife / girlfriend agrees...
A couple with matching lingerie can be fun.
On the other hand, trivialization may cause crossdressing to lose its "adventurous" character ...
- Would you like to describe the sexiest lingerie outfit you ever put together to wear by yourself?
- Have you gotten lucky enough to wear a sexy lingerie outfit together with your wife or SO who also was wearing a sexy lingerie outfit as well during a love making session at night under candle light?
- Are there certain colors of lingerie you like to see on yourself or your wife or SO?
Thanks girls for taking the time to read another one of my articles!
Please feel free to send in a response to either my article or one of the questions I’ve posed to you below my article.
Sincerely, Marie
Thank you Marie Claire for an interesting and well written article.
You mentioned that bras are the most feminine article of clothing, and that is true for me as well. I started with my Mom's bras and shapewear back around 12 or 13. This sounds familiar to you and others I'm sure, then on to stockings and pantyhose. Course things didn't fit right, but it didn't matter at the time!
Now nothing makes me feel more feminine than putting on a bra and either stockings or pantyhose. Some have a preference for one or the other, but I just love them all. They feel so wonderful against my shaved legs.
I suppose that's why I have about 20-25 bras, and somehow my wife manages to get by with 4!
I have a lot of sexy lingerie, but one combo I think is nice I wore recently is a red and black open bottom girdle, black stockings, black corset, and a black bra. Though a red one would be nice too. Then I slipped on black pumps, or one could go for high black boots, or even no footwear for a more boudoir look. It does make me feel sexy.
Also, I have worn panties every day for the last year and a half or so, and found some nice micro fibre bikini style which hold "the boys" in place properly and feel divine! For some reason I like the black ones the best!
Lingerie colours, well I rather like it all, depending on style, but black and red would be my favs.
Amy
I still enjoy the feel of the straps and snugness of a bra even when out in male mode and now just feels natural. I have always found lingerie so sexy looking and the feel is divine. I think other men also look good in them.
I still enjoy the feel of the straps and snugness of a bra even when out in male mode and now just feels natural. I have always found lingerie so sexy looking and the feel is divine. I think other men also look good in them.
what a great words , I believe men should wear a bra also. some men have bigger boobs then woman do and they flop around, so wear a bra dummy, its just clothing. yes its to hold up the breasts' . wearing panties well I wear panties 24 7 for the reason they fit better and feel better then that male under wear they call it. I love the feel of a bra around my shoulders and around my back. love wearing nylons also in which i wear during the winter time to keep my legs warm and also gives my legs a massage feeling wearing a dress is so priceless feeling. you can punish me by wearing a bra and panties, i would say just let me dress up all the way and be a female for the day and see How its like, but then I already know. so there is no point in making me wear a bra for punishment. i am a closet dresser and love. wife knows of it but will not see me or help with make up. she has seen me getting dressed up and also seen me dressed up and even sat down to talk to me just for a few min then leave. so what is the big deal with not seeing me dressed up she has , let me sit down and we can talk like 2 woman, get to know my fem side.
In fact, most women are looking for men who have masculine postures.
It's reality.
In fact, most women are looking for men who have masculine postures.
It's reality.
what a great words , I believe men should wear a bra also. some men have bigger boobs then woman do and they flop around, so wear a bra dummy, its just clothing. yes its to hold up the breasts' . wearing panties well I wear panties 24 7 for the reason they fit better and feel better then that male under wear they call it. I love the feel of a bra around my shoulders and around my back. love wearing nylons also in which i wear during the winter time to keep my legs warm and also gives my legs a massage feeling wearing a dress is so priceless feeling. you can punish me by wearing a bra and panties, i would say just let me dress up all the way and be a female for the day and see How its like, but then I already know. so there is no point in making me wear a bra for punishment. i am a closet dresser and love. wife knows of it but will not see me or help with make up. she has seen me getting dressed up and also seen me dressed up and even sat down to talk to me just for a few min then leave. so what is the big deal with not seeing me dressed up she has , let me sit down and we can talk like 2 woman, get to know my fem side.
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />Yes I love wearing bras. The compression on my chest always makes me feel calm and serene. I do happen to have B cup breasts so bras do fit me. I do believe that a bra is one of the most feminine article of clothing made to wear. The styles are never ending along with the materials make for a experience like no other.
' class='avatar avatar-18 photo' height='18' width='18' />I agree!
Women's clothing is more varied and fun than men's!
I agree!
Women's clothing is more varied and fun than men's!
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />Yes I love wearing bras. The compression on my chest always makes me feel calm and serene. I do happen to have B cup breasts so bras do fit me. I do believe that a bra is one of the most feminine article of clothing made to wear. The styles are never ending along with the materials make for a experience like no other.
Been wearing womens clothes since age 12 secretly. Even wore my foster mothers girdle to school.-Jessica st. James
Been wearing womens clothes since age 12 secretly. Even wore my foster mothers girdle to school.-Jessica st. James
I do love to wear panties and pantyhose Shapeware and leggings I would love to have all that on when I’m making love with the wife but she does not like that she does allow me to wear that stuff though
My dream is to have a girlfriend and date her with both wearing matching lingerie.
My dream is to have a girlfriend and date her with both wearing matching lingerie.
I do love to wear panties and pantyhose Shapeware and leggings I would love to have all that on when I’m making love with the wife but she does not like that she does allow me to wear that stuff though
As someone with gynecomastia, I can tell you this- sometimes it feels like a blessing. I love the feeling of the bra. But wearing it in the public has never crossed my mind because I am afraid. Often I give a passing glance when I'm near the bra section in a mall. Its just what we've been taught by the society, guess I will need time to break through the mental barrier.
When I was about 12 years old, I used it a few times when I went to school, on (very) cold days and with several blouses on top.
Even today, buying lingerie for me is an adventure, I'm always afraid of being "watched".
When I was about 12 years old, I used it a few times when I went to school, on (very) cold days and with several blouses on top.
Even today, buying lingerie for me is an adventure, I'm always afraid of being "watched".
As someone with gynecomastia, I can tell you this- sometimes it feels like a blessing. I love the feeling of the bra. But wearing it in the public has never crossed my mind because I am afraid. Often I give a passing glance when I'm near the bra section in a mall. Its just what we've been taught by the society, guess I will need time to break through the mental barrier.
This is a lovely article, Marie Claire. I completely agree that it will be wonderful if more men experienced the pleasure and beauty of wearing pretty lingerie, so making it much less of a taboo. I believe that a lot of guys wear panties these days but won't admit it. As for bras or other lingerie or outer wear, it's perhaps more difficult to say how many men wear. As you say, guys should give it a try and see for themselves how satisfying it is to dress in such a way. I for one love to dress in a bra and panties every day, if I can. It has been a lot easier during the pandemic to wear lingerie as i have been working at home most of the time and only going our with my wife to do food shopping plus daily walks. It is such a pleasure to select the bra for the day and matching panties - or thong. It makes me feel so tingly and even naughty, plus quite feminine. I am fortunate enough to be able to buy most of my bras and panties from two small boutiques where I know the owners, who will often recommend items - how delicious a feeling it so to have them fit a bra on me!! I don't have any favorite colors as such, but my collection includes the usual white, black of course, coffee, nude and even red and blue.
Love
Rose xxx
I love matching bra and panties too! Recently I bought a black lace bralette and matching panties and when I put them on and looked at myself in the mirror I loved it!
I love matching bra and panties too! Recently I bought a black lace bralette and matching panties and when I put them on and looked at myself in the mirror I loved it!
