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My Summer of Discontent

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Baroness
(@trish1980)
Prominent Member     Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
Joined: 3 years ago

Wow, Paulette what a great well written article, I loved it. Don't get me wrong but after reading it I was glad I was a Canuck. We never had stuff like that happen when I was a young crossdresser. Of course we still had to be very careful where we went and with whom. Just like the States, back then, homophobia reigned supreme in the Great White North as well. I might add that you look absolutely gorgeous in the pic. Keep the articles coming, they're very good and if you're not a writer....you should have been.

Love,
Trish

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Duchess
(@sometimespaulette)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 868

Hi Trish, Speaking of WOW! That's all I can say when I see your photos. You look Fabulous! And thank you for the kind words! By the way, I love your part of the world. I spent quite a bit of time in Penticton and Kelowna, but not as much further north. Moving to Arizona I finally gave up my NEXIS card, but still miss my frequent trips to BC. I am curious how well we girls are received in Kamloops? I am in Northern Idaho for a few weeks in a little town where we come to get away from the Arizona heat. Virtually everyone in town knows about Paulette and she is welcome here. In fact I am beginning to think she is more popular than my drab self! Let's stay in touch! Hugs, Paulette

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(@dardarlyn)
Active Member     Rochester, New York, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Paulette, great article. I can understand why you are a part-time girl now. I am so sorry you had to face the negative side of being a transgenderd woman. I am glad to see that the pleasant aspects of of womanhood did not stop you from being the beautiful woman you are.

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Duchess
(@sometimespaulette)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 868

Hi Darlene, Thank you for the kind words! That was so long ago, but you are right it had a lasting impact. The good thing is when you reach my age the most important thing is to be at peace with yourself. Then everything else seems to fall in place! I am so happy being "Sometimes" Paulette. She has made me a much kinder and understanding person! Many Hugs, Paulette

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Lady
(@petrajessicajonson)
Trusted Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Kim, what a heartbreaking story. I am so glad, however, that you overcame that horrible trauma and have reclaimed Paulette. I didn't dress publicly until late in life. Although I'm not interested in men (though I do find stylish transfemmes incredibly sexy), I have been "hit on" by guys and do love the attention. Like any girl, I am much more concerned about my personal safety than I am when I am in guy mode.

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Duchess
(@sometimespaulette)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 868

Hi Elle, I know what you mean. I have been happily married for over fifty years, but even at my age when some "dirty old man' winks or smiles I tend to sway my butt just a little bit more. I think I do it because I am flattered that I can attract the attention of a guy, even though I am not necessarily interested in them. It's more a confirmation I am doing a pretty good job of carrying off my Paulette persona. And I am right there with you as far as personal safety. I guess that's why I try to stay away from the 'seedier' parts of town (where unfortunately is where many of the drag clubs and such are located). Hugs, Paulette

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(@mariec)
Estimable Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Oh my gosh! This is an incredible, personal story. I felt like I was there with you. Thank you for sharing and for being a pioneer for us all. How wonderful that you met a kindred spirit at such a young age. I haven't read through all the comments, so forgive me if you've answered this, but are you and Barbara still in contact?

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Duchess
(@sometimespaulette)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 868

Hi Marie, I am ashamed to admit that I did not keep in touch with her after I went off to the service. I spent so many years in denial to the point where I became part of the problem. I wonder if she transitioned in later years? She was a lot more serious about her femininity than I was, and frankly she was so much more beautiful! Isn't it a shame how we let people who influenced us so much slip away? It is probably one of my biggest failings! I also wonder what I would have done if it were not for the military, more school, family and career. I was on the path to wanting to transition as well. But today I am content and happy to be just "Sometimes": Paulette! Many Hugs, Paulette

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(@mariec)
Joined: 5 years ago

Estimable Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 210

I totally understand. It happens. About 20 years ago, when I was going out dressed on a simi-regular basis, I met a crossdresser with a similar viewpoint on dressing as myself and she happened to live in my neighborhood. We would get dressed at each others homes before heading to the club. I burned out on it after a while and lost interest. I only returned to dressing and going out again in the last few years. We lost touch and I have no contact info for her, but I wonder where she ended up.

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(@exploringmytrueself)
Active Member     Mesa, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

OMG, I can't believe that happened to you. I'm glad you made it through ok, and didn't let that define your life.

To answer your questions, I've never been out of the house dolled up. It's so hard to find anything that would fit me, and I know I'm not passable. I'm hoping being here will help change that

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Duchess
(@sometimespaulette)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 868

Stick with me young lady and I will show you (no you will show yourself) just what a beautiful girl you are!! And don't worry about 'passing'. I will share more with you about that later. Hugs, Paulette

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Lady
(@ladonnamia)
Eminent Member     Oracle, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

So much of this is a repeat for me it’s uncanny. Close in years, close by Lakewood and Grace, similar experience as first time crossdressing. We probably even bumped into each other. You write so well I enjoyed the article so much. Can’t wait to chat and uncover more. Lovely.
Kathy

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Duchess
(@sometimespaulette)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 868

I am just wondering how many times in the past we may have bumped into one another!

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(@baily)
Estimable Member     Melbourne , Florida, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Oh my goodness girl. What a story. First of all, very well written and detailed perfectly. Unfortunately. That is extremely terrible what happened to you then. I can see how you would want to lock away “the best part of you” for so long. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that point in your life. I was only 4 at the time but I know how things were much different back then. Kudos for even being out there.

Now, I’m a positive thinker. I like to see the good in everything and everyone. If that’s possible. Lol. So I choose now to remember this...
You had Barbara. An obvious close friend and girlfriend the you can confide in. Spend girl time with and go out on the occasions that y’all had fun. Please don’t let this ruin the good times.

I do feel for you for having such a traumatic experience. That was horrible. You wrote an amazing story about it and it’s something I think we all should be careful of now. Even though these days are much, much better then back then.

Hugs 🤗

Baily 🎀💁‍♀️🎀

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Duchess
(@sometimespaulette)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 868

Thanks, Baily. The trauma is long gone, and in fact has only made me more focused today on having a good time as Paulette. Like I said she keeps me young!

But you are right in that it was a very different time back then. I think people fail to remember in the late 60s you could get arrested for crossdressing. I had a letter from Johns Hopkins saying it was part of my 'transitional therapy', but I suspect the Chicago cop couldn't have cared less it he had read it. It was "street justice' and I was the wiser for it (broken ribs and all)! 😄 😃

Take care!
❤ ❤ Paulette ❤ ❤

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Lady
(@sf)
Prominent Member     SoCal, California, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Paulette..... Nice article. Never had the pleasure of being beaten by da po-leece, but came close a few times. As for Vietnam, I missed that "party" by two years, my lottery number was high - whew. But I did do some post Viet time in the US Navy.

As for crossdressing, late bloomer here but always had a fem side since I was a kid.

To answer your questions: 1. No 2. No, at least not to my knowledge, had I been aware it would make me uneasy, I am straight 3. No, I try and ALWAYS be aware of my surroundings, drab or dressed. Especially now days....

Question - You still friends with Rodney?? That must have been a fun friendship.

Have fun, enjoy your crossdressing... Staci...

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Lady
(@lillie)
Reputable Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Paulette, wonderful article. Remember those days, gradated in 1970, and dated a girl named Paulette. I cannot imagine what you went through. I was lucky enough to go through three lotteries, sitting and watching what my number would be. Got lucky. Very glad you endured it all and came out on top of it. Many did not.

God Bless your service.

 

Lynne

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