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Sometime back, I wrote about a beautiful person who was struggling with many things. This individual has made leaps and bounds since that time. Most of you remember the articles I wrote regarding a new friend to us all. She has overcome so many fears and obstacles in such a short time; it's incredible.
As it is said and heard many times throughout all of our lives "the proof is in the pudding." Proving to our self and to others that when we allow our true passions to surface and face our fears smack in the face, we can hurdle the highest mountains and achieve our ultimate dreams, helping them to become our reality.
Nikki has made the ultimate sacrifices in this past two years. Some of which she is continuing to face and deal with. There is the struggle she endures with her soon to be ex-wife and children. She exerts much emotion when she speaks about her children. Their mother didn't take the news well when she first learned that Nikki crossdressed and was gay. Nikki has suffered with pain, guilt, fear, resentment, anxiety, depression, anger, confusion, rejection, abandonment, thoughts of suicide and a host of so many more feelings.
Nikki no longer goes home to a house filled with joy, laughter, or the sounds of children playing, nor does she have a wife asking how her day was, or what's for dinner, or to discuss the evening plan. This girl loves her family and has refused to walk away entirely. As it stands now, the only requirement to visit with her two children is that she not come home in CD or Drag form. I think at one time or another we think we know enough about something to survive. I recently turned 60, and as I write this article it's easy to reflect back to a time when I was scared as hell to come out as gay and that I preferred to wear girl's clothes, makeup, heels, and all the other things we wear and do to represent as who we are.
Nikki asked for my help and support a couple of years ago. I have been by her side since day one, when I went with her to explain everything to her now ex-wife. And with all she's been through, I have witnessed a beautiful flower blossom and grow to incredible heights. She now dresses 24/7, is going to beauty school, contributes all she can to the gay community, and is living with an awesome guy (who has asked her to marry him.)
I realize that not everyone who reads this will agree with the gay lifestyle, the drag queen lifestyle, or maybe even more of what Nikki's new life is all about. I do wish for anyone who is still struggling with this exact same issue(s) peace, courage, and a sense of camaraderie. We all need to stick together, to help and support anyone in the same or similar situation, and to be the best sisters that we are capable of being.
Little Miss Nikki has done what so many are afraid to do, live a 24/7 life being a crossdresser and now drag queen. We do a lot together such as shopping, re-painting the inside of my house, going for drinks, and so much more. I am extremely honored to call her my sister in arms.
It's possible for anyone to achieve the same goals as Nikki and those that so many others have achieved. Thank you for reading this article, and I hope that there is at least one sentence, paragraph or thought that help you if you are struggling.
Peace and Love,
Jackie.
Thank you for the article. I may not be in the exact place as Nikki but I wish her and you much happiness, peace, and love!
Great article and you are a great person for standing by
Lovely article , beautifully around love & support xx Tiff
Thank you, Jackie, for the beautiful article describing your love and support for a sister. Virtual hugs to you both!
Thank you, Jackie, for the beautiful article describing your love and support for a sister. Virtual hugs to you both!
Thanks for the great article, Jackie. I am not on the same trajectory as you, or your friend Nikki, but your story is inspiring none the less. Diversity is what we are all about, and to be honest with one's self, and so many are afraid to.
Amy
Your so right Amy and it's sad that some still remain in a world filled with prejudice, hypocritical society and chance being beat up or killed because of a mean world will not even try to learn about. It's a beautiful thing when a male puts on makeup, a dress and heels. I myself have run into this all my life it seems but real early on I decided I would or wasn't going to change who I am to satisfy anyone. Thank you for sharing and the compliment, Jackie.,
Your so right Amy and it's sad that some still remain in a world filled with prejudice, hypocritical society and chance being beat up or killed because of a mean world will not even try to learn about. It's a beautiful thing when a male puts on makeup, a dress and heels. I myself have run into this all my life it seems but real early on I decided I would or wasn't going to change who I am to satisfy anyone. Thank you for sharing and the compliment, Jackie.,
Thanks for the great article, Jackie. I am not on the same trajectory as you, or your friend Nikki, but your story is inspiring none the less. Diversity is what we are all about, and to be honest with one's self, and so many are afraid to.
Amy
Great article, Jackie and please pass on my congrats to your friend Nikki. It is wonderful to see anyone get the chance to live their life as their authentic self even if it does cause angst and issues with family and life. Hiding who we are just internalizes the angst and everyone deserves to express who they really are. Thanks for sharing this story !
Cyn
Thank you Skip for the compliments. I will give a huge hug from everyone. I keep trying to get her to come aboard but it just keeps getting put to the way side. Love ya Skip. btw, looking beautiful Skip, love the pic and your choice of wig.
Thank you Skip for the compliments. I will give a huge hug from everyone. I keep trying to get her to come aboard but it just keeps getting put to the way side. Love ya Skip. btw, looking beautiful Skip, love the pic and your choice of wig.
Great article, Jackie and please pass on my congrats to your friend Nikki. It is wonderful to see anyone get the chance to live their life as their authentic self even if it does cause angst and issues with family and life. Hiding who we are just internalizes the angst and everyone deserves to express who they really are. Thanks for sharing this story !
Cyn
For anyone reading this article and for those of you who have complimented; I felt driven to write this on behalf of Nikki. She has gone the extra mile to be who she is and finally live the life that is intended for her. The proof is in the pudding as they say that with the proper support and voices anyone can come out and be who they are. I personally am only a fraction of the support she has received. Even most of her family commends her for her bravery. She took the ultimate chance and leap of faith and didn't really believe she would come out of the situation that she has and be able to live the life. So for anyone struggling she and myself both have a little bit of encouragement, not advice by any means but the truth is is that we all have to follow the path we are intended. The problem is is that not everyone friends or family will coincide with our decision or journeys. I had to deal with some family and of course people in general when I came out. There are a few family members that still don't talk to me and it's sad, it's not alright to me. We are judged, contemned, thrown out of lives that we truly love, we are looked upon as misfits and such. But for me as well as my very good friend Nikki see it it's they're loss not ours. So that said I will shut the hell up and let you decide what's best for you. May all of you find refuge within the life you are most happy with. Blessings, Jackie.....
For anyone reading this article and for those of you who have complimented; I felt driven to write this on behalf of Nikki. She has gone the extra mile to be who she is and finally live the life that is intended for her. The proof is in the pudding as they say that with the proper support and voices anyone can come out and be who they are. I personally am only a fraction of the support she has received. Even most of her family commends her for her bravery. She took the ultimate chance and leap of faith and didn't really believe she would come out of the situation that she has and be able to live the life. So for anyone struggling she and myself both have a little bit of encouragement, not advice by any means but the truth is is that we all have to follow the path we are intended. The problem is is that not everyone friends or family will coincide with our decision or journeys. I had to deal with some family and of course people in general when I came out. There are a few family members that still don't talk to me and it's sad, it's not alright to me. We are judged, contemned, thrown out of lives that we truly love, we are looked upon as misfits and such. But for me as well as my very good friend Nikki see it it's they're loss not ours. So that said I will shut the hell up and let you decide what's best for you. May all of you find refuge within the life you are most happy with. Blessings, Jackie.....
Jackie-I can certainly relate to the sacrifices you have made to live an authentic life. I too am recently divorced and rarely see my adult children who don't know what to do with their 66 year old father who has recently come out as transgendered. It has been especially difficult with the holiday season and have been prey to bouts of grief as expressed by deep sadness and crying. Please reach out to me if you want to discuss things privately. Love you, Ellie Mae
I will certainly message you. Hang in there it will get better. When I came I was full of fear & didn't know for certain how my family would react to me being who I am. One of the things I was so grateful for was that support I received from my sisters. Surprisingly my mother and I soon after sit down and talked about all of it. After talking for two hours she put her arms around and if it makes you happy it makes me happy so I soon received allot of support from her as well. Fear can be our greatest asset at times. Give a little more time and I'm confident it will all come together for. Be safe and may all the best come to you for coming clean, Jackie.
I will certainly message you. Hang in there it will get better. When I came I was full of fear & didn't know for certain how my family would react to me being who I am. One of the things I was so grateful for was that support I received from my sisters. Surprisingly my mother and I soon after sit down and talked about all of it. After talking for two hours she put her arms around and if it makes you happy it makes me happy so I soon received allot of support from her as well. Fear can be our greatest asset at times. Give a little more time and I'm confident it will all come together for. Be safe and may all the best come to you for coming clean, Jackie.
Jackie-I can certainly relate to the sacrifices you have made to live an authentic life. I too am recently divorced and rarely see my adult children who don't know what to do with their 66 year old father who has recently come out as transgendered. It has been especially difficult with the holiday season and have been prey to bouts of grief as expressed by deep sadness and crying. Please reach out to me if you want to discuss things privately. Love you, Ellie Mae
Thank you for this article and for this incredible story. I wish Little Nikki all the happiness. Everyone deserves joy and I hope help each other to get there.
