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So, now what? No matter where we are in life, no matter who we are, no matter who we think we are, that is always the question. But, the older we get, the more important the answer seems to be.
So, try to be true to yourself. Sometimes others will set the rules and we have to find compromise. It is always so nice to find people who accept you as you are.
I live in an area that is very accepting. It is so nice to be a crossdresser here!
So, now what? No matter where we are in life, no matter who we are, no matter who we think we are, that is always the question. But, the older we get, the more important the answer seems to be.
So, try to be true to yourself. Sometimes others will set the rules and we have to find compromise. It is always so nice to find people who accept you as you are.
I live in an area that is very accepting. It is so nice to be a crossdresser here!
Thanks Brina! Very thoughtful insights into the cross roads in life that are particularly poignant for those on our shared journey of gender discovery!
Kim
Thanks Brina! Very thoughtful insights into the cross roads in life that are particularly poignant for those on our shared journey of gender discovery!
Kim
Hi Brina
What's next is something that I've been asking myself since the first time that I tried on my sisters panties and bra while I was still in school.
With each time I added something to that lifestyle I keep wanting to know What's next.
To my amazement there doesn't seem to be any end to What's next.
Throughout the years I keep on finding different things that I had never thought that I'd be doing.
From the first time that I tried on my sisters bra and panties until I started to go out in public looking passable it's always been What's next for me
Thanks for the great article and making me realize that What's next has been a constant part of what I'm doing always looking for the next thing that I can try
Thanks for sharing your story with us and giving me a chance to reflect on my own life
Hi Brina
What's next is something that I've been asking myself since the first time that I tried on my sisters panties and bra while I was still in school.
With each time I added something to that lifestyle I keep wanting to know What's next.
To my amazement there doesn't seem to be any end to What's next.
Throughout the years I keep on finding different things that I had never thought that I'd be doing.
From the first time that I tried on my sisters bra and panties until I started to go out in public looking passable it's always been What's next for me
Thanks for the great article and making me realize that What's next has been a constant part of what I'm doing always looking for the next thing that I can try
Thanks for sharing your story with us and giving me a chance to reflect on my own life
Janine,
Thanks for the kind words! I think our phrases are the complete sentence. I say after self-discovery, "OK, now what?" and then like you ponder the possibilities of "What's next," as I get excited by the opportunities.
Brina
Janine,
Thanks for the kind words! I think our phrases are the complete sentence. I say after self-discovery, "OK, now what?" and then like you ponder the possibilities of "What's next," as I get excited by the opportunities.
Brina
Hi Brina,
thank you for sharing your story, mine is almost exactly the same as yours except I cant except my femme image its never good enough so I will have to borrow your expression so now what. I will have to think about that hun thank you for sharing you story huggs kate
Hi Brina,
thank you for sharing your story, mine is almost exactly the same as yours except I cant except my femme image its never good enough so I will have to borrow your expression so now what. I will have to think about that hun thank you for sharing you story huggs kate
OK--so now what---& might I add HOW?
My whole life, I've fit in with women much better than men---From a young age I felt comfortable around them---So easy to talk with females-I know deep dark secrets of countless #s of women--Most -I don't even remember their names or wich" secret" belongs to Whom---
I'm really lucky---Through the yrs my wife helped(& gave me the confidence) to incorporate my crossdressing into our lovelife--
now it's to a point where she is Helping feminize me (just tiny B cup so far) --
I have probably more fem clothes than Male clothes--
However---I do have to be careful going out dressed---
Laws protecting workers are really (except in Rare cases ) are only for the well off-
I'm quite sure I'd be out of work (& basically unemployable) if my bosses found out--
I have bills--Like a mortgage ect--Could not afford to be off work & pay lawyers to sue (probably would'nt get enough money to retire anyway)
Now that we (wife & I) are comfortable with fem me--
Society will Still not let us live as we choose--
Maby in my kids life things will change-
OK--so now what---& might I add HOW?
My whole life, I've fit in with women much better than men---From a young age I felt comfortable around them---So easy to talk with females-I know deep dark secrets of countless #s of women--Most -I don't even remember their names or wich" secret" belongs to Whom---
I'm really lucky---Through the yrs my wife helped(& gave me the confidence) to incorporate my crossdressing into our lovelife--
now it's to a point where she is Helping feminize me (just tiny B cup so far) --
I have probably more fem clothes than Male clothes--
However---I do have to be careful going out dressed---
Laws protecting workers are really (except in Rare cases ) are only for the well off-
I'm quite sure I'd be out of work (& basically unemployable) if my bosses found out--
I have bills--Like a mortgage ect--Could not afford to be off work & pay lawyers to sue (probably would'nt get enough money to retire anyway)
Now that we (wife & I) are comfortable with fem me--
Society will Still not let us live as we choose--
Maby in my kids life things will change-
I agree 100% i fight that battle on a daily basis. Ill love myself then i wont. Ill feel pride then shame. Confidence to fear and loneliness. In the end im starting to realize that its ok to just be me. No matter how I choose to present myself or dress that day ill always just be me at the end of the day and I'm finally ok with that...i think
I agree 100% i fight that battle on a daily basis. Ill love myself then i wont. Ill feel pride then shame. Confidence to fear and loneliness. In the end im starting to realize that its ok to just be me. No matter how I choose to present myself or dress that day ill always just be me at the end of the day and I'm finally ok with that...i think
Beautifully written and thought provoking!
Now what? I also wonder that often. The more steps I take into the CD world, yet I still end up with Now What. How far to go, when to stop, what to risk, compulsive actions, Now What.
I try to imagine a balanced life, just a masculine, hetero, loving, responsible, contributing, caring guy wearing women's clothes and shoes. Then the Now What gets me to think about the risk of losing what I have, people, job, a place in the community. And the sad balance looks impossible.
Now What is a reminder that we are free, but there those people and things that we care about, and every action has a potential reaction. It's what gets us to control and discipline both sides of us.
Thank you for sharing!