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The one thing I do every single day, is to intentionally and consciously create a life I love. That one simple thing you can do as often as you choose; or not, it is always your choice.
After over two decades of learning and teaching Life Skills while moving through a process of untangling my mind, from what has been termed in medical circles as gender dysphoria, one thing stands above all others in my learning. That I have learned most importantly, that love is always an inside job. Marilyn Monroe was a wonderful example of a magical being seeking love from outside of herself. She was quoted as having said when asked, why do you want to be in movies, called pictures in those days, and her reply was: “because when you’re famous, everybody loves you”.
The one person from whom love was needed the most, was herself
We have all heard this more times than we can count, love is an inside job, true beauty starts within and if you want someone to love you, you must first love yourself and so on. These are all true statements by the way.
And since they are true, why are more people than ever quietly suffering and not jumping at the idea of self-love? Why are so many people walking around on our planet suffering from depression, anxiety, or even as I once was many years ago, seriously contemplating leaving my body and the planet completely?
The underlying theme and 'same/same' that I have witnessed again and again, through the clients I have served and of course through my own personal journey to a life of fulfillment, passion and abundance of the good stuff, is this: I did not know how.
How do I get to self love?
Even and especially, when I do not know what self love truly feels like?
So, here it is in all its glorious simplicity my friends. I have written about this, spoken about this, taught this to hundreds if not thousands of people through out my coaching career and I use this every single day of my life to intentionally and consciously create self love and a life I love as well.
What is the one thing? The mirror exercise: Yeah, I know, been there heard that you say, but have you put this one simple thing to an honest test? Or have you come up with a reason (excuse) not to?
This simple thing can might even save your life, as it has mine, and support you in creating one full of magical moments and a whole lot more fun.
It has been since I attended college, yes, that was a while ago, that I have formed the habit of looking into a mirror or reflective surface several times every day and saying something wonderful to myself. I even have a mirror on the visor of my vehicle! My body turns sixty this year to give you some perspective on how long ago I attended collage as a student.
This week make your choice be in support of you and instead of against you
I have learned that people believe about you, what you believe about you. Today is the first day of the rest of your life and it is a perfect day to start saying a few nice things to yourself in the mirror every single day, no matter how silly or uncomfortable it may feel at the start.
The mind learns through repetition; the more you say 'You’re okay' in the mirror and smile, the sooner your mind will accept that as truth, you are on your way to emotional freedom and yes, self love like you may have never before experienced; being there, doing that!
Thank you so much for reading Your Weekly Reset my sisters and thank you for being exactly who you are!
Namasté
n huggles always
Char
Thanks Char,
It is amazing how hard it is to love ourselves isn’t it?
Oh yes, it can be brutal at times Heather. I remember the day I said out loud, "I kinda like being me" it was a revelation hahaha
How are you doing dear?
Namaste' n huggles for you Heather
Char
When you manage to truly Love Yourself, you will wonder why it was so elusive when you discover what a liberating and purely wonderful experience it is to encouter and to live your life in that way. You will never look back!
xx
My wife and I watched the movie, Normal, this past weekend. Wow, pretty powerful and yes, there were some tears.
Hi Char , i think trying to accept my self , to be at peace inside was much harder than trying to get the public to accept . I would get so mad at myself , do i dress today ? am i wasting my time ? , what am i doing to myself , am i crazy ? I finally started keeping a journal , every day i would write down my feelings , for two years i did this . And then wile surfing the web for answers i found this place , how wonderful this place , i made friends , i could chat with like people . It was then i realized i must like myself first , be kind to Leslie . I re read my journal page for page and i saw a girl needing help , needing to speak to someone , needing to look in the mirror and smile , to love myself as a woman and not to fight it but enjoy the experience and i have . I think we all need to realize this feeling didn't just happen over night , its been coming on slow but sure and will eventually make itself at home inside us , we must just be at ease with it and look into the mirror and smile and say welcome , glad your here , i love you and i always will . I am as Leslie at peace , i'am going to be ok . As Char expressed in her post , like your self first and all else will be ok . We can and we will persevere , we are woman , here us purr . Leslie
YES! and purrrr we can; you are absolutely right Leslies Ann.
There's a quote I really love;
"Of the billions of people on this planet, you are the only one you can be certain, you will never lose, and never leave, so growing a loving relationship with yourself is the single most important thing each of us can do in this life time"
Learning the life skills to first accept "Char" then to actually embrace and nurture her and support her to the point of genuinely "Loving" her has been the greatest, aaaand the single most rewarding challenge I have ever grown through.
The mirror is the best place I have found in accomplishing this. I talk with the terrified little child in me, as the parent and I say to little Char everything I wished someone else would have said when she was little.
I say all the things that lift her up, fill her with esteem and confidence, and I remind her daily that I will never leave her or abandon her, no matter what. and of course, I say I love you just as you choose to be to her, on a daily basis.
Nope, it's not over night, its a journey. Its simple life skills but not always easy to "do" as that old programmed belief system fights for its survival, but I know from personal experience that when the "click" happens, the world becomes a playground.
I am so grateful for the opportunity to share what I have discovered and help others grow through this adventure to self love leaving the suffering behind once and for all.
Thank you so much Leslies Ann for your post dear; I am grateful for you 🙂
Namaste'
n warm huggles for you 🙂
Char
Char, I love this. Thank you for posting it.
