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Hi Girls! It’s Scarlett again and I’ll be writing this from the perspective of a situation that many crossdressers more than likely have in common.
Now Girls, you may already know I spent years and years deep in the closet with my crossdressing. It wasn’t until a year and half ago, right before we moved into our new home with lots of storage space, I was finally able to talk my sexy redhead into having “The Talk” with me. I’ll later write an article on how to bring up “The Talk” and what to say to bring about a modicum of acceptance of your crossdressing from your wife or SO.
Now to the specifics of the article. Most of us have only released our thrill of cross dressing to our wives or significant others. We have no plans of ever sharing this little secret to anyone else on our side of our family, on our wife’s side, or SO’s side of the family. We’ve known them for years, and they have known us for years, and it's the last thing other family members would guess about us; that fact that we all love to dress up in pretty clothes and become pretty girls. Let’s face it, if we dared to offer up that bit of information to those folks, the next time a family reunion was in order, we might not get invited. At the very least, it would be an extremely awkward get-together compared to others in previous years!
So, Girls, I’m recommending not to share our thrill with other family members as a result of the above notes. Besides, when you release your little secret to one family member, the next thing ya know, everyone on both sides of your family might think you’re some sort of freak or weirdo!
Now if you’ve already released your little secret to some family members and they are accepting and considerate towards your crossdressing – lucky you! You're in a distinct minority of crossdressers. There are still many of you out there who are still deep in the closet and not even your spouse or significant others know about your thrill of wearing pretty femme clothing. Been there and done that as noted above, and I wouldn’t want to go through that phase ever again!
Here’s what I did to share my CDing with others, and I recommend you all might want to give it a whirl as well!
My first sharing of my CD secret came with the customer service ladies at JC Penny’s in Pensacola where I used to have all my heels, boots, and booties shipped in order to keep things out of the sight of my sexy redhead prior to her acceptance of my crossdressing. So, my first public sharing of my thrill outside of our home and outside of an online CD site was when I took my crossdressing secret to those girls at the Penney’s customer service department.
I had about 50 of my best pictures of Scarlett loaded on my IPad and took the IPad to the customer service girls, asking them if they wanted to see photos of Scarlett. They couldn’t wait to see them! I opened the IPad to three women in that department ranging in ages from about 25 to 65 and showed them 30 of my top photos. My God, the reaction was off the chain incredible! Next thing ya know, they had passed the word on to some other employees in departments on the second floor and in less than ten minutes, I had a crowd of at least 10 ladies absolutely loving every photo of Scarlett and wanted me to stop in with more every time I came to the store – which I continue to do to this day!
Here are the next places I went over the next two weeks with my IPad, and later with color 8x10 photos in a folder and got the same exact reaction with each set of girls clamoring for more as I left each place!
1 1) Sports Clips where I have my hair cut. The manager and all the hair stylists have seen loads of Scarlett photos, and they won’t even let me get my hair cut now unless I bring some Scarlett show and tell pictures!
2 2) Sephora where I buy some of my foundation liquid and powder. The girls who work at these places are on the liberal side, open minded, and quite accepting of the LGTBQ folks, and now you can add CD to that list of letters as well!
3 3) Ulta – See Sephora notes above. And I should have added kind, considerate, caring, inquisitive, and full of answers to a wide variety of makeup questions you may have!
4 4) Plato’s Closet which is our largest consignment shop in Pensacola. With such a huge selection of girl’s clothing, footwear, and jewelry available at next to nothing prices. You would assume they would have admitted crossdressers in there all the time, but the first time I told them I was a cross dresser the girls were in shock until I busted loose with a pile of Scarlett photos. Then every girl in the place wanted to see my pictures. Some of them didn’t believe it was me, so I had to point out a small brown dark birth mark in the middle of my right shin. Then they were all believers that those photos were of me as a girl named Scarlett! Now those girls won’t let me shop unless I bring some Scarlett show and tell photos!
Other places to share your thrill of crossdressing with other employees are as follows: Stores in a mall or not in a mall you regularly frequent, thrift stores where you may shop on a regular basis, brick and mortar stores where you may buy lady’s shoes, wigs, purses, clothing, and other accessories.
And of course, the #1 place to share your thrill of crossdressing is right here with the wonderful girls in the greatest crossdressing site in the world - our very own Crossdresser Heaven - which is our way to get ourselves out of the closet or house on a regular basis and share our thrill of crossdressing with all of the CDH girls who share the very same thrill of wearing cute, pretty, sexy, and classy lady’s clothing! I get excited as soon as I put on a pair of heels! I just love being a girl as most of you know!
Girls, thanks for taking the time for reading another one of my informative articles. If you have other places you love to share your thrill of crossdressing, please send them in your responses to this article so that all of our readers of this article will have an exhaustive and complete list on how and where to share their own thrill of crossdressing with as many other accepting folks out there as possible!
Sincerely, Scarlett
Good stuff, Scar! Wish I had something to add, but you pretty much covered it all. But, as much as I would love to share Dawn with the world, I don't think I can tell anyone unless, of course, I planned on transitioning. Isn't it funny that transsexuals are accepted & crossdressers aren't, for the most part?
Thanks for the article Scarlett. I love your pics. You look so beautifully perfect. There is nothing more attractive than a warm smile. Agree with all of your article. Cds are usually embraced by other women and ignored by men. It becomes tough when family is involved because there are gender identities to maintain. There is so much to this. Hugs Jennifer
Scarlett, like you I can't share Jill with the people closest to me but I willingly share Jill to everyone in public when I'm out. These are the same places I go an I'm open to SA, waitstaff, clerks. Strange isn't it?I
The first thing I have to say is good for you. You are really having fun with this thing. Your entourage of followers does not surprise me. I know from personnel experience that many women are literally fascinated by men in women's clothing. I wish that transferred to greater overall acceptance, but it doesn't seem to. Strangely, some of the women who admire you (I mean that) the most would be resistant and embarrassed if you were their husband and wanted to dress up to go out-and-about. I think seeing you in photos is titilating and somewhat of a guilting pleasure. And, it's likely, the forbidden nature of the propensity makes it a curiosity that you have satiated. I want to say a little more about this, but I have to run. Great job!
FAM
Have a little more time, so I thought I'd add a little. As you have no doubt been told, your photos are among the most compelling. I believe one of the primary reasons that is true is attributable to your focus on women. Like I try, you dress for the approval of women - clearly. We crossdressers enjoy seeing your presentation because you pull it off so well. You make us believe it's possible and hope to do the same. I wish more women could see and read the things we write and understand the great effort and respect with which we treat this propensity to emulate their style and beauty.
I know that drag performers exaggerate their imitation. But CDs like you present a totally believable and complementary image of femininity. You've chosen a very alluring array of outfits that stay well within the range of appropriate in countless venues and company. Although I haven't seen you in person, I suspect you could go unnoticed except by those who would be drawn by your attractiveness. I don't think I'll ever present as well, but I'll do the best with what I've got. And . . . I'll keep studying women to get better!
FAM
Thats wonderful and its true there are not so many CDs i m lucky i have a wardrobe and wigs already and feel very comfortable out in a skirt.I had noticed that other men were attempting to be Girl when one stopped wearing jeans and skirt he said how nice my skirt was..he couldnt find skirts dresses shoes to fit At She was about 46 i suggeted elastic waist band skirts and gave him the address when he can get a skirt made but could cost abot 30 Dollars depending on the material
I also warned him the seamstress was in a militant woman zone so he better go there prepared for comment and bad looks...but She will get a great skirt that fits perfectly
Scarlett,
Once again, you have come up with the right advice at just the right time; thank you. After a fabulous shopping trip with my wife this past Friday, I'm bursting at the seams to talk about it, and even model a few of the purchases...but there is no one I can tell, for the reasons you covered. Now I have a place to start. We shopped at Penney's, and the ladies there were very friendly and helpful, so I will remember this for my next outing. And I will reach out to Sephora; OC that I am, I won't do something I can't do right, which has stalled the makeup issue for too long a time. One question: Should my first visit be full Bettylou, or would stealth-ish be acceptable? I find my self-consciousness about wearing "girl" clothes is rapidly fading, since I joined CDH. Talking about it certainly helps.
Hugs,
Bettylou
such a beautiful article by a truly beautiful woman I am proud to call a BFF. As you know, I read and rely quite a bit on your intuition. After a recent discussion with my wife, I think she is relaxing a bit. so am in the early stages of planning to go to Sephora about an hour and half away from me and talk to the ladies there. Maybe set up a private makeover.
I think that would be the only thing I would add to your article. If one cannot go to the stores in your own town, be it because of your professional life, or it is a smaller close minded community, consider driving a bit of distance where you are so much less likely to get noticed. The article is so spot on though. I love it. And as you know, Love admiring your beautiful photos and the advice you always are willing to give.
Hugs girlfriend
Danielle
Scarlett, I'm in a bit different boat, but similar. No SO, but my mother has known of me being in women's clothing as a young kid and she has been so against it. Even tried to get me to stop, but I wanted it to continue. So Rachel has to be well hidden at home and I make sure all of my Rachel purchases are either out of town or shipped to store. Except makeup. I even buy it in drab mode (and yes, I shop at BOTH Sephora & Ulta). And when I travel to Portland, OR, I stay at an AirBnB where they call me by my fem name, called the Rainbow House.
Thank you, Scarlett,
Given that I stand the proverbial snowball's chance in Hades of avoiding stares without at least some makeup, I will go in guy mode and ask what they can do for me.
Hugs,
Bettylou
Hi Scarlett,
Thank you for detailed article on sharing our CD with others. I may share my CD with the customers service at Macy's where I pick up my feminine purchases .. I thank you for our friendship... You are a special person an a very pretty one, also. Leonara
You are an icon of lovliness and style. Thanks for drawing attention to the truly amazing acceptance and enthusiasm so many women have once they have had a glimpse into our world. Gloria
Love you Dawn Judson! Yep, even the trans girls and every other group represented by those letters LGBTQ are more accepted than us thrilling cross dressers. We hope with more public appearances by girls like us and with this wonderful site Crossdresser Heaven, we can one day add the letters CD to this list of letters!
XOXOXO Scarlett
great articlew and wonderful to hear of your success out in public and being accepted by so many ladies!