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Linda,
Thanks for writing such a nice article.
I too have agonized over the same question. Do I tell some one? If so, who do I tell? Although recently I have come out to some people who are very close to me, I came to the conclusion that I would tell people when it felt as though it was for my own benifit. It felt good to tell them. It felt like a tremendous amount of weight had been lifted off me.
My point is, it's about us. It's never been about them.
Hugs and best wishes,
Vickiej
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />Linda
I too have always wrestled with the idea of telling others about me. My wife found out about a year after we were married. She found my stuff while unpacking after a move. She accepts me foe who I am. We have been married now almost 30 years. I really would like to tell my sisters, maybe one day. My older sister may already know or at least suspect because I use to wear her clothes when we were younger.
Wanda
' class='avatar avatar-18 photo' height='18' width='18' />Thank you Wanda for your comment. I thought my mother suspected for the same reason as you with your sister but only once did she ever even hint at it and on that occasion I quickly changed the subject. I suspect that she would actually have been amused and helped although I feel certain my father would have been anything but after what he had said about long hair on men in the 60s, for example. I am pleased that your wife was sensible and like mine, 'tolerates' that part of us embedded in the whole.
Linda
Thank you Wanda for your comment. I thought my mother suspected for the same reason as you with your sister but only once did she ever even hint at it and on that occasion I quickly changed the subject. I suspect that she would actually have been amused and helped although I feel certain my father would have been anything but after what he had said about long hair on men in the 60s, for example. I am pleased that your wife was sensible and like mine, 'tolerates' that part of us embedded in the whole.
Linda
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />Linda
I too have always wrestled with the idea of telling others about me. My wife found out about a year after we were married. She found my stuff while unpacking after a move. She accepts me foe who I am. We have been married now almost 30 years. I really would like to tell my sisters, maybe one day. My older sister may already know or at least suspect because I use to wear her clothes when we were younger.
Wanda
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />I grew up with 17 aunts, father seldom around (a workaholic!) so learned that I would have loved to have been born female VERY early in life. But, by the same token, I have hidden this part of me from so many for so long that its become my usual forte'. Only recently, having "joined" sites on the 'net have I been comfortable letting others know who and what I am, what I'm into. My own family, no...but friends from the 'net definitely yes.
I keep hoping to meet and dress with other gurls near me...
I am the Very Erotic "Snow-Queen of Tarts" Suzanne LeBizarre (wicked grins - and NO, its
NOT drugs!(
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />I grew up with 17 aunts, father seldom around (a workaholic!) so learned that I would have loved to have been born female VERY early in life. But, by the same token, I have hidden this part of me from so many for so long that its become my usual forte'. Only recently, having "joined" sites on the 'net have I been comfortable letting others know who and what I am, what I'm into. My own family, no...but friends from the 'net definitely yes.
I keep hoping to meet and dress with other gurls near me...
I am the Very Erotic "Snow-Queen of Tarts" Suzanne LeBizarre (wicked grins - and NO, its
NOT drugs!(
Hi Linda,
Who to tell ? I choose wisely if at all. Some days I just want to blurt it out to the world. other days I think what benefit does it do to tell people. The most important person my wife knows about me and knows I purchase things for my self and knows I have been out in public once although not really impressed with the public thing she allows me private time at home to dress. as long as she doesn't see it. when I mention coming out to our kids both adults she is firmly against that she sees no purpose in them knowing and for the most part I do agree. what is the benefit of some folks knowing ? The people I want to know for now ( they know ) it may change as time goes on after all this a journey.
Hugs,
Amanda
Hi Linda,
Who to tell ? I choose wisely if at all. Some days I just want to blurt it out to the world. other days I think what benefit does it do to tell people. The most important person my wife knows about me and knows I purchase things for my self and knows I have been out in public once although not really impressed with the public thing she allows me private time at home to dress. as long as she doesn't see it. when I mention coming out to our kids both adults she is firmly against that she sees no purpose in them knowing and for the most part I do agree. what is the benefit of some folks knowing ? The people I want to know for now ( they know ) it may change as time goes on after all this a journey.
Hugs,
Amanda
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />I am out 100%, I have never felt better. I had same doubts as you did, but realized that the social stigma was just a control that society uses to force conformity. You should never be afraid to be who you are, if people don't accept it they are not needed in your life. Wish you the best.
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />I am out 100%, I have never felt better. I had same doubts as you did, but realized that the social stigma was just a control that society uses to force conformity. You should never be afraid to be who you are, if people don't accept it they are not needed in your life. Wish you the best.
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />my crossdressing started after my mom passed away in 76 I was 13 n very confused......I started wearing my sisters bikini n panties.....One day she caught me in a halter top n made me dress the whole way......then another time she caught me wearing her bikini...and made me lay out in the front yard sunbathing loved that to until the neighbor girls came up n seen me n of coarse the was the end of hiding they always dressed me in their clothes......it died down for a while I joined the service and wasn't to happy dressed male.......got married for the first time 5 years into my marriage I felt like there were something missing ....It was kentia......I was married for 3 times all three exes left me.......now I live with a wonderful woman that knows all about me and thinks I should be dressed 24-7 as a female I have a-b cup breast thanks to mickie she is my best friend n lover.she ask me if I ever want to do oral things to a guy n I said I would try anything that makes her happy..
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />my crossdressing started after my mom passed away in 76 I was 13 n very confused......I started wearing my sisters bikini n panties.....One day she caught me in a halter top n made me dress the whole way......then another time she caught me wearing her bikini...and made me lay out in the front yard sunbathing loved that to until the neighbor girls came up n seen me n of coarse the was the end of hiding they always dressed me in their clothes......it died down for a while I joined the service and wasn't to happy dressed male.......got married for the first time 5 years into my marriage I felt like there were something missing ....It was kentia......I was married for 3 times all three exes left me.......now I live with a wonderful woman that knows all about me and thinks I should be dressed 24-7 as a female I have a-b cup breast thanks to mickie she is my best friend n lover.she ask me if I ever want to do oral things to a guy n I said I would try anything that makes her happy..
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />What does it benefit anyone to know? It gives me pleasure and that what matters. I care not what others think except for close friends who would probably be confused by, that info.
Thanks, I think we need to think of the first sentence of your comment Kathi before we unburden on anyone. Glad you have found the site and all the best with your 'restart'.
Thanks, I think we need to think of the first sentence of your comment Kathi before we unburden on anyone. Glad you have found the site and all the best with your 'restart'.
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />Like Linda stated - the first sentence is a valid question. But one answer could be the ability to not have to hide something and feel some guilt?
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />Like Linda stated - the first sentence is a valid question. But one answer could be the ability to not have to hide something and feel some guilt?
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />What does it benefit anyone to know? It gives me pleasure and that what matters. I care not what others think except for close friends who would probably be confused by, that info.
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />My wife was aware of my crossdressing before we were married. She does not participate or encourage me in any way. I keep my body and legs smooth shaven; and would love for my wife to encourage, even better, order me to wear sheer nylons on a regular basis seeing as I keep my legs so feminine. She could even tease me about my crossdressing, calling me her feminine "husband bitch". Thus; I'd enjoy a dominant side to her nature. Also; I've always had the fantasy and desire of her openly flirting with other men, and having an intimate relationship with another man. I've had these thoughts and feelings since before we were married, but could never find a way to tell her, as I didn't want her to think I didn't love her, and I didn't think she could be open-minded or accepting enough to include them in our marriage. She'd also probably be totally shocked and pissed if she knew of my cuckold fantasies and videos I enjoy. Maybe too little; too late.
' class='avatar avatar-80 photo' height='80' width='80' />My wife was aware of my crossdressing before we were married. She does not participate or encourage me in any way. I keep my body and legs smooth shaven; and would love for my wife to encourage, even better, order me to wear sheer nylons on a regular basis seeing as I keep my legs so feminine. She could even tease me about my crossdressing, calling me her feminine "husband bitch". Thus; I'd enjoy a dominant side to her nature. Also; I've always had the fantasy and desire of her openly flirting with other men, and having an intimate relationship with another man. I've had these thoughts and feelings since before we were married, but could never find a way to tell her, as I didn't want her to think I didn't love her, and I didn't think she could be open-minded or accepting enough to include them in our marriage. She'd also probably be totally shocked and pissed if she knew of my cuckold fantasies and videos I enjoy. Maybe too little; too late.
