The Life and Tribulations of living with a Crossdresser

Hi everyone.

Life with a crossdresser is like climbing a mountain. You climb that mountain and you get to the top and there's a cliff. Do you turn around and walk back down? Do you sit there and ponder and worry, or do you jump into that world with them?

Walking back down could mean you don't accept this behavior. Maybe, you just can't wrap your head around a world that isn't conformed to the norm. It feels like a taboo. Some can deal with it and others cannot.

You sit and ponder about it possibly giving the whole idea a chance. You ask yourself if you can deal with this type of “fashion” on a man you love or care about. Does this type of behavior make him any less of a man? Will your relationship change? I cannot say for all couples what the outcome will be. But I do know that being open with your feelings and insecurities is a good way start for both involved.

Taking that jump you've decided to give it a go and see where it goes. This can be a scary idea and choice. But it may be an exciting new world that you never thought was out there. It led to new ideas of dressing and how to spend time together. You embrace a new way of enjoying life with your partner.

Life is way too short to worry what the neighbors will think. They have their own oddities as well, I'm sure. Who cares. Having a partner that is open enough to let you in on this way of life shows they trust you to know about the crossdressing.

So you've climbed that mountain. Did you walk back down? If so, have you walked away from that person or are you still willing to try? Maybe you just need to take a minute to get to that pondering stage. Work things out in your head and with the other person involved. Do you want to stay friends or walk away entirely? That really is a hard question to answer when it comes to someone we love and care about.

You've walked, climbed, sat, and pondered. What choices have you made? How are you feeling about the whole crossdressing? Have you come to terms that it is a way of life for some or you just can't live with a partner that wears nontraditional clothing in the eyes of others?

I have done that climb. Yes, there have been times (at the start) that I wanted to not walk but roll down that mountain. Get back to where things were "normal" as fast as possible. Then I sat and did some pondering. I thought to myself, so he likes to wear nighties and panties. So, he looks better in a skirt than I do! At this point my mountain became a molehill. I had gotten over the taboo for the most part. I still had issues. The crossdressing in public - again, I pondered this idea. Trust me, it was a long process. I came to the conclusion if he was brave enough to wear it in public and I love him, then I needed to be brave as well.

Life and love go hand in hand. I believe if you love someone you will take those extra steps up that mountain to at least try to understand them. When the climbing is done, that's when life together can begin with a lot of communication and work.

So in conclusion, before making a judgement of why someone wants to crossdress or why anyone is different, think. Walk, ponder and communicate. You could be losing something that you may never find again.

Venus