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The Life and Tribulations of living with a Crossdresser

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Venus -
Thank you for your article. It is lovely that you are accepting of Hippie and the two of you have the relationship you do.

It took a long time but my wife has become accepting of my dressing. It didn't start out that way and required a lot of work and communication to get where we are at now. For the last couple years we have gone out every few weeks to get mani-pedi/s and when it isn't sandal season I get color on my toes. I also shave my legs in the cooler months. Recently we have been going shopping together and picking out outfits for both of us and some that we share. I've actually tried on shoes in the store a few times.

Communication and time are the two biggest things to lead to acceptance.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Ambassador
(@skippy1965)
Famed Member     Richmond, Virginia, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

Great article, Venus. I’ve been here for 8 years later this month and seen all kinds of reactions from spouses/SOs; I think the obvious thing is that BOTH parties need to be communicating openly and honestly (I know-that’s the case in any successful relationship but it’s even more so in these circumstances). My ex couldn’t deal with it though decades later we remain cordial and friendly.(I hadn’t told her before that r married cause I thought it would do away-naive? Yes;stupid? Yes; but sincere? Also yes) . And I know if I’m blessed to find another life companion that she will know about Cyn and my HRT and me being full time from the very start. Love can overcome ANY challenges if we let it!
Cyn

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Lady
(@hippiehuman)
Joined: 8 years ago

Prominent Member     North Woods, Wisconsin, United States of America
Posts: 635

I know what you mean, I couldn't tell my ex-wife either. I couldn't tell her till after me and Venus where together. I think I wanted Venus there as backup and step in if the ex wanted to start something.

Who wouldn't want to see a girl fight?

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Lady
(@hippiehuman)
Joined: 8 years ago

Prominent Member     North Woods, Wisconsin, United States of America
Posts: 635

I know what you mean, I couldn't tell my ex-wife either. I couldn't tell her till after me and Venus where together. I think I wanted Venus there as backup and step in if the ex wanted to start something.

Who wouldn't want to see a girl fight?

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Ambassador
(@skippy1965)
Famed Member     Richmond, Virginia, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

Great article, Venus. I’ve been here for 8 years later this month and seen all kinds of reactions from spouses/SOs; I think the obvious thing is that BOTH parties need to be communicating openly and honestly (I know-that’s the case in any successful relationship but it’s even more so in these circumstances). My ex couldn’t deal with it though decades later we remain cordial and friendly.(I hadn’t told her before that r married cause I thought it would do away-naive? Yes;stupid? Yes; but sincere? Also yes) . And I know if I’m blessed to find another life companion that she will know about Cyn and my HRT and me being full time from the very start. Love can overcome ANY challenges if we let it!
Cyn

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Duchess Annual
(@blondsherri)
Honorable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Thank you Venus, I wish this was plublished on the front page of the New York Times so everyone could read it. Hippie I'm sure, knows just how lucky a person can be. I know I am just for knowing your support is there for all of us.
Sherri

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Duchess Annual
(@blondsherri)
Honorable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Thank you Venus, I wish this was plublished on the front page of the New York Times so everyone could read it. Hippie I'm sure, knows just how lucky a person can be. I know I am just for knowing your support is there for all of us.
Sherri

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Lady
(@selilah)
Eminent Member     India, India
Joined: 9 years ago

thank you..  

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Lady
(@selilah)
Eminent Member     India, India
Joined: 9 years ago

thank you..  

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Guest
(@Anonymous 87077)
Reputable Member
Joined: 2 years ago

Thank you for sharing your insights. I think we all need to be aware of how expressing our feminine side affects the ones we love. It would be so much easier if this was not a part of our lives. The fact is we need this side of who we are. I do not dress to hurt my wife and if she choses to not be a part of this side of me I understand. I wish I could share my feminine side with her, be a close girlfriend would be so wonderful. I wish she could be accepting.
My wife has chosen to not climb the mountain although I hope someday she tries to climb.
To me this is so important to who I am. I have tried to give it up, but I find it is such vital part of my identity. I feel so good when I am presenting as my female self. The long periods when I am unable to dress are very difficult times. I find myself becoming more and more feminine as time goes by. I express my feminine side because it fulfills an important need in my life.
You area wonderful wife and your husband is so luck to have you in his/her life.
I wish for a more accepting society.

Hugs to you all, Julie

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(@Anonymous 87077)
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Joined: 2 years ago

Thank you for sharing your insights. I think we all need to be aware of how expressing our feminine side affects the ones we love. It would be so much easier if this was not a part of our lives. The fact is we need this side of who we are. I do not dress to hurt my wife and if she choses to not be a part of this side of me I understand. I wish I could share my feminine side with her, be a close girlfriend would be so wonderful. I wish she could be accepting.
My wife has chosen to not climb the mountain although I hope someday she tries to climb.
To me this is so important to who I am. I have tried to give it up, but I find it is such vital part of my identity. I feel so good when I am presenting as my female self. The long periods when I am unable to dress are very difficult times. I find myself becoming more and more feminine as time goes by. I express my feminine side because it fulfills an important need in my life.
You area wonderful wife and your husband is so luck to have you in his/her life.
I wish for a more accepting society.

Hugs to you all, Julie

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Lady
(@erikabell)
Reputable Member     Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Thank you for writing this article. And I really liked the imagery. Me and my wife have started the communication phase of this. Although I like to show her more info. She doenst have the bandwidth to take on more at this point in our busy lives. I happy where we are currently and when other barriers are no longer in place I will definitely share this article with her. Thanks again.

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Lady
(@erikabell)
Reputable Member     Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Thank you for writing this article. And I really liked the imagery. Me and my wife have started the communication phase of this. Although I like to show her more info. She doenst have the bandwidth to take on more at this point in our busy lives. I happy where we are currently and when other barriers are no longer in place I will definitely share this article with her. Thanks again.

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Venus ... I loved this. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. Hugs, Ellie x

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Venus ... I loved this. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. Hugs, Ellie x

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Lady
(@briannakay)
Active Member     Weston-Super-Mare, Avon, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi I am Brianna I am all ears when you think you are on your own.you desperately want to tell someone it’s so hard time and time again and the years fly by the children grow up and your ageing together .it’s a strong bony based love respect . Sometimes just a little you think brother sister love the feelings get stronger you can’t hurt who you love you just can’t . I feel I so feminine it hurts suppressing the guilt I have to sign off love you all

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Lady
(@briannakay)
Active Member     Weston-Super-Mare, Avon, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi I am Brianna I am all ears when you think you are on your own.you desperately want to tell someone it’s so hard time and time again and the years fly by the children grow up and your ageing together .it’s a strong bony based love respect . Sometimes just a little you think brother sister love the feelings get stronger you can’t hurt who you love you just can’t . I feel I so feminine it hurts suppressing the guilt I have to sign off love you all

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