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As I walk about the house fully dressed as JoJo, I find it not so easy to do normal things while wearing high heels. I ask myself why don't, I just take them off and wear flats to make life easier, but I cannot come up with an answer and can't bring myself to take them off.
This got me wondering, as I recently told a couple of close family members about JoJo, I wondered how I would answer if they asked me why I want to wear female clothing. The only answer I can think of is that it is not a case of wanting to but more a need to dress, as something in my psychological makeup gets me depressed whenever I have to go for long periods as my totally male persona.
I ask myself if I want to transition full time and while I am dressed the answer is always yes, however, when I am in male mode carrying out male dominated tasks (I wouldn't dream of concreting while wearing a nice dress LOL) the answer is always different. Am I unusual in this respect or do you girls question yourselves in this way too?
I cannot be sure when the need to dress started in my life although one of my early memories was when I was about 9 years old, 2 friends and I (the friends were twin brother and sister the same age as me) found the door to an old unused church hall was not locked so being adventurous we went inside. We found many things of interest but the thing I remember most was some pleated white gym skirts that we put on and were running around the streets wearing them. Of course, at that age I had no idea about cross dressing. My next memory was just before puberty I found myself fascinated by my older sister's underwear drawer where she had many pairs of tights. I succumbed to temptation and tried a pair on, whoa! This felt so good I kept on adding pairs until they were so tight I could hardly move or breath. I don't know if she ever knew about my regular foraging of her tights, but I have loved the feel of wearing them ever since. Luckily, as life moved on and I got married, my wife and I would play games which resulted in me trying on her panties and stockings, and from there Jojo developed fully and is a big part of our married happiness.
I count myself lucky to have such a loving supportive wife and we often buy Jojo clothes together, which makes life easier in the shops, which brings me back to wearing high heels around the house so often and not having the will to remove them to do mundane tasks.
Do you girls have the same reluctance to remove your female garb? Do you have a different personality when you are dressed? Does the world seem to be a nicer place when you are en femme?
All I know is that I will never stop being Jojo and even when my time on this rock is over, I want to be put to rest as my female self.
Love to you all. xx Jojo
PS that is part of my wife's leg at the bottom of the pic.
Great article hun. I know I’ve thought of this same thing many times. As I’ve cleaned the whole house from top to bottom fully dressed and wearing heels. My sister in law asks me “how do you do that in heels, I’d break my neck cleaning in those. My wife and I get a laugh from it but it’s so true. I do all the laundry, almost all of the cooking and we both clean the house but when I do or can. ( kids not home). I find it so much more enjoyable doing any of these tasks while en femme. At certain times I’ll take off my heels but stay dressed to finish things but always go back to putting my heels back on. As far a cis gendered woman I can’t see them doing it in a skirt let alone a pair of heels. I think it’s because they can wear femme things at any time but for us as crossdresses we want or should I say need to dress like this as it puts us in a better place then in our drab male things. Well that’s my take on it anyway.
Hi Ashley
Its good to know I am not the only one, and you are correct, my wife doesn't wear heels to do her housework, mainly leggings and flats. Its up to me to inject the glamour into daily chores LOL
Thank you for your article, Jo Jo.
To answer your questions:
My days start early, and being a plus size girl, I wear shape wear, in addition to the usual feminine under garments, so at the end of a long day, like any female, I am very glad to shed all my clothing and feel relief. My wife has always felt close to me,
because she knows I experience the same feelings women do when wearing female wardrobe items, shoes, make up, shape wear, pantyhose, etc.
I would not say I have a different "personality," when I cross dress, but I certainly act
and dress like a lady. For example, my interaction with men is completely different, when I am cross dressed. I allow men to treat me like a lady, when I am cross dressed. A good example is those nasty shopping buggies in grocery stores, which are always jammed together. As a guy, I will try to pull them apart. When I am cross dressed, I will act a little helpless, until a male employee or a male customer pulls
the buggies apart for me.
Walking is another big one. Years ago, I was a member of a CD group where a couple of the members looked and acted more male than female. It was reflected in
the way they walked too. They looked like football players walking down the playing
field. Needless to say, when cross dressed, we should walk as graceful ladies.
Thank you again for your article, Jo Jo.
Well can certainly relate to your history and current things sweetie. I do most things about the house en femme and in shape wear as well as shopping and errands. I do have a small bit of personality change as well and love being kinder, more respectful, and playful.
Jojo, thank you for sharing your experience. One of the reasons I love this website, it gives us experiences that like minded “ladies” to which we can truly relate, I too during Leonara time will do housework. Depending on the “pink fog” I will dress with either 1)skinny boots and a blouse… this time instead of girly flats I wore my 3” ankle boots!! Or 2) there is nothing like vacuuming wearing a skater skirt in 3” strappy heels lol…
thank you for your article, I just thought to let you know, you are not alone
Happy Holidays to you and your family and to all the lovely ladies here at CDH
Warmest Regards. Leonara
Hi Leonara. Thanks for your reply it really is good to connect with lileminded souls.xx
Jojo I clean the house almost everytime I dress. Kind of an agree with my wife. I love doing so in heels. You walk differently. My hips sway and all those short steps. Trying not to expose too much when you bend or squat. Sweeping into a dust pan and getting the laundry out of the machine are so different when a bra and forms are involved. But I wouldn't change it. The feelings of doing "woman's work" while dressed is a blast. And it sure beats cleaning in boy mode.
JoJo -- Thank you so much for sharing your article. I hardly notice medium high heels when I'm out and about or doing housework. I might not be inclined to work much if I'm wearing 4 inch heels .
If I am dressed for couple days or more, it does feel more natural and the thought of living as a female seems more appealing if not realistic. But when I am back in male mode--typically for work--the idea of transitioning doesn't pull as strongly on my psyche. Deep down I like a lot of guy stuff, too, even if I am probably mentally 50-50 much of the time.
Also great to hear how much fun you and your wife have with cross-dressing and lingerie. Humor and intimacy go great together!
I agree it would be heartbreaking to ruin a nice outfit doing a heavy work-related task. You might consider adding some feminine clothes just for doing those male activities, While i love dressing, i really love doing everyday normal things while dressed. Afterall no one dresses nice to wash the car.
Hi Roberta, I get a sulk on if I ladder my tights so won't risk any male type jobs lol.xx
Lovely article, thanks for sharing
I do agree, once dressed who wants to change? The practical side in me, though says to just change shoes to a lower and more comfortable heel.
I do love wear stiletto heels, but my feet and body just aren't adjusted to them since I don't wear them often. If I am going to wear a nice dress and sip wine around the house, then I put on some black pumps with three inch heels, but if going out, or planning on walking around the house preparing dinner or some such thing, then I wear a lower, more comfortable heel. If I know the evening is going to end in wear just stockings and lingerie, then the high heels are a must...comfort be damned.
Thanks for the article. Yes, I too am reluctant to change back into male clothes from my female clothes. Yes, if there are some jobs to do and I'm dressed, like you I'll try to do them in heels if I'm wearing them. I have a couple of pairs of 4in heels but I have a hard time with them so I usually stick to my 3in kitten heels or my suade ankle boots.
I love wearing dresses, skirts and Lingerie, stockings & suspenders/ tights with a dress or skirt. I have a lot of Lingerie and I'd buy more if I coud afford to (or had the space to store it all). There's some absolutely beautiful things to be had but it's getting expensive these days for Lingerie sets.
I just bought a beautiful floral print dress today. It's the most expensive dress I've bought so far, (£50:00). I couldn't help myself when I saw it in the John Lewis sale, I've been pretty good this year so it was a Christmas present for me. I loved looking at all the girly things when Christmas shopping today, nobody batted an eyelid.
Most of my female clothes were really cheap in sales and on line, second hand on ebay or bought in charity shops.
I do exhibit some female characteristics when dressed but it's about how I stand and walk, sit, body movement, not so much my voice. I try not to exaggerate but it's easy to get carried away. I'm definitely happier and more relaxed in female clothes and I would go enfem more if I could get away with it but not 24,7.
I'd love to go out dressed but that would take military planning and it would be expensive for me to do so. I'd have to get a make over done and have somewhere to stay in another city as I wouldn't do it in my home town and I'd want the entire day and night for the experience. My wife knows about my dressing but isn't supportive and disapproves.
Hi Bee Dee
I am renovating my place in France with the intent to make it somewhere that cross dressers can come for hols or short breaks and dress in comfort as much or as little as they would like. We (My wife & I) hope to be ready to open for summer 2024 or earlier if possible. It may be the ideal place for someone in your position.
Maybe see you in 2024
xxxx JoJo
when i have the time and chance to dress up i wear 2-inch heels, nothing like hearing the sound of the heels hitting the floor it so sexy. 3-inch heels are very hard to walk on, flats or nothing it's like wearing sneakers in a dress. if you are going to dress up might as well go all the way with it wear 2-inch heels
That is awesome that we can share this awesome experience with the other women in our life
Like you and probably most others, I think more about transitioning when I am en femme. Of course, I am en femme because I am in the mood to feel like a woman, so it makes sense that I would feel more inclined to want to transition when I'm already in that mood.
I'm not entirely stable on 4 inch stiletto heels. I do OK but I also don't move around much when I wear them. I would not want to do chores wearing them!
I have a similar problem with long nails, though. Even simple things suddenly bring up a big chance of losing the nail! Maybe that's my fault for wearing cheap press-on nails, though. I should think about growing mine out for real next year......
JoJo -
Thanks for the article.
When I have the opportunity I will do housework while dressed. I enjoy the days I can dress and change the sheets, do laundry, vacuum and dust. I will wear my pumps or block heel shoes when doing that, sometimes flats or sandals, all depends on what I'm wearing. I'm usually in a skirt and blouse or dress so heels are more appropriate in my opinion. Depending on the time of year and amount of time I have I will also wear shapewear and pantyhose or stockings and garter belt.
I enjoy doing those tasks when dressed as I feel it enhances my femininity. It is also the only chance I have to do Suzanne's laundry.
XOXO
Suzanne
