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Although we love women's clothing, we know that we can't always wear them - especially when we're away from home and in environments where crossdressing is taboo ...
An interesting tip for outwear is to wear satin shirts - a very feminine fabric but that is not taboo for men.
But there is a type of women's clothing that you can wear discreetly and secretly in (almost) all environments ... lingerie!
Yes, unless you go through a demanding metal detector and do not take certain precautions, no one will know that you are wearing panties and bra under your men's clothing.
Let's talk first about how you can replace monotonous underpants with beautiful panties in your day-to-day.
Since you are a man, at least in those moments, you wear baggy pants - that is, the risk of panties marking your pants is less. But you need to be careful with the fit of the pants - very wide pants can expose your panties, either because the pants are "falling" or if you bend down (to catch an object that fell on the floor, for example).
To avoid this, wear pants with a perfect fit and a belt. Also avoid bending over. The easiest panties to wear without anyone knowing you have then on are any panties made of microfiber. The fit just like a second skin, are sexy, and extremely comfortable.
Now, let's talk about the bra.
When I first tried a bra at age 12, I even went to school a few times wearing a bra on very cold days and with a couple of layers of clothing on top.
A bra is a hard part of feminine clothing to hide. Of course, you won't be able to wear T-shirts with any transparency or ones which are very thin, unless you want them to discover your "secret" under men's clothing.
Color is important if you are trying to conceal a bra as well. You should prefer colors close to your skin tone.
Lace bras also deserve care. See if your blouse is not marking the relief of the lace.
The ideal is to wear simple bras (bralettes) without hooks and that the strap adjusters are in a place where they cannot be seen or touched.
If someone eventually embraces you they may not be able to feel the bra so try to check in the mirror to see which is the best position for the adjusters.
The pandemic at least prevents physical contact and can help with that type of situation.
There are even bras with straps without adjustment which can also be an option.
On colder days, you can even risk a model with adjustable straps and hooks - the various layers of clothing that you will wear over the top will help you.
There is also the possibility that you may have an accident or become sick outside the home. If doctors and nurses need to take your clothes off and discover your secret, they may even think this is funny, but never ridicule it in front of other people. Health professionals must follow a strict code of ethics and violating it has serious consequences for them.
In fact, these days you can even wear pantyhose, it will be amazing!
On very hot days, you will have to look for a very discreet color of hose or just wear panties, which is already a way to practice underdressing.
Before leaving, check in front of the mirror if you can see any detail of your bra.
When you are dressed in men's clothing, remember that these are wider than women's and therefore hide the lingerie better.
Try to use beautiful pieces that you like. The important thing is that YOU know what you are wearing, and that can make your day more beautiful and happier!
There is nothing better than wearing a beautiful lingerie, wearing much more beautiful panties than your underwear and feeling the permanent embrace of a bra.
Have you ever worn lingerie outside the home?
Do you have a habit of underdressing inside and /or outside the home?
How do you feel wearing panties and bra under men's clothes?
I hope you enjoyed this article and I'm curious to know what you think and your answers.
Sincerely
Marie Claire
@marieclaire2 Great tips and yes I follow them daily. At first it was once in a while but for over 2 years now its panties everyday and now a bralette for about 8 months. I also enjoy wearing pantyhose in the cooler months as they are my absolute favourite thing to wear. A camisole as well over my bralettes. This is something I truly enjoy doing and now it’s just a part of my daily routine. Like some others have mentioned I’m now wearing some of my woman’s jeans and a top while out. Certain days and depending on where I’m going I don’t mind if my lace bralette shoes lightly through my top or my pantyhose may show at my ankles while in skinny jeans. I even wear my cute little female ankle boots at times. As of late I’ve added light makeup and a touch of perfume. My wife always says “ I hope you don’t get hurt at work” as I underdress everyday there as well. Oh well I’m sure the ems have seen worst then a man in a bra and panties. lol. All in all underdressing is just a part of my daily routine and makes me feel great while doing it. Thanks Marie Claire.
@marieclaire2 I dunno. I paint toenails, wear pretty socks and undies, not really lace, but I also have to wear very hardy outerwear.Satin shirts would never work for me. I don't judge anyone, I wish we could all dress how we need to anywhere we want. I just think that I, personally, just dress in what the day demands, and I shed it when I get home as fast as possible to wear what I need to wear for myself. I sometimes, and this is illogical, think about getting my clothes cut of if I'm in an accident. I either have to be comfortable with what I wear in public, or I have to wait until I get home.
@siobhann Overthinking everything like I do. I have worn lingerie below a top layer, but also was worried what happened if I was in accident. Nevertheless, I still do it, even if it is just for minutes when shopping groceries.
@marieclaire2 Great topic. I myself am a daily underdresser outside the home. My entire wardrobe from the waist down is from the ladies section. I think the key to being stealth/unnoticed, is how one blends traditional male clothing with our more feminine wear. For instance, I typically wear women's skinny high rise jeans with a male polo top. The advantage to the guys polo is, that they are generally a bit longer so the crotch area and approximately 1/2 of my tush is mostly covered. I never worry about panty lines and I pretty much wear whatever I like. Although I'm partial to satin bikinis. Same with sneakers, loafers and sandals. Guys sneakers have evolved to the point that traditional female colors are fairly normal in men's sneaker offerings. So when I wear my ladies sneakers, as long as I don't wear anything too ostentatious no one is the wiser. Many women's loafers are indistinguishable from men's and the subtle differences are not likely to be never noticed by anyone at all. If I'm getting a bit dressed up, I always have a men's siut jacked and a nice men's knit top on which conveniently hides the fact I'm wearing women's dress pants and cami under my top. Shorts and sandals, same thing. My T-shirts or polos conveniently hide the opposite ladies zipper and more form fitting tush area. My sandals are all from the ladies section as well. As long as they're not too obviously feminine no one is the wiser. I also usually wear a necklace and bracelet of some type which also have been purchased from the women's department. I've been dressing like this for years and no one has ever commented adversely or mentioned to myself of my wife that I may be wearing women's clothing. Actually quite to the contrary, I frequently get compliments from both men and women as to my style of dress. I'd like to add when dressed like this, I carry myself as stylish masculine guy if there actually is such a thing. I believe presentation is a great help in not unintentionally outing ourselves when we're out in stealth mode, so I try to not to use overtly feminine mannerisms. Although my wife tells me constantly my hips sway in feminine manner when I walk. I think Peoples brains generally see something, fill in the gaps and make judgements based on overall presentation. Just my .02, for what its worth. Lastly, If anyone is wondering, I fully dress inside the house.
@audreyw I take things a bit further and wear whatever androgynous looking tops that I can find in the women's section. The choice is limited, true, but, given enough time, you will find something that works.
@harriette Hi Harriette I'd love to do that myself. Unfortunately for wearing anything other than women's athletic tops like something from Under Armour or Adidas which I actually do wear and can get away, my shoulders chest and especially my arms are just too muscular to fit into most women's tops. Anything that would fit my upper body would be way to large in the waist area and just not look right. Lately I've been contemplating cutting back on the weights and letting my upper body atrophy a bit, but I'm not sure I want to go that route at this time.
thanks for the tips!
I always underdress in panties and sometimes hose.
Have only ventured out when i can layer wearing a bra and is so exhilerating.
Hugg
Christie
during the winter time its easy to under dress, lots of men cloths to cover up the bra area so no one can see it. but yes with this virus going around its easy to get away from, they can not hug you and feel your bra straps, but wish this virus would end get back to a normal living. well back to under dressing, i under dress during the summer time also but I wear a girdle or satin or silk panties with pad on certain days to get the feel of being a female. i also wear nylons during the summer time for i don't wear shorts unless i am going swimming. I wear a skirt on and off during the summer time and a blouse that has no sleeves to worry about. of course no make yo or perfume or ear rings during the summer time. but when its 80 or 90 i will not under dress for it gets hot wearing female cloths then male cloths over female cloths. I dress up a lot at home when no other adult child is home and still at home living. but when he is at work my wife will tell me i can do what i like to do. so i dress up for 4 hours and from head to toe. make up, perfume, ear rings that dangle, heels. but wife will not see me or help but she has seen me getting dresses up so what is the big deal. woman x dress all the time and get away with it.
Great trips I have been under dressing for as long s I can remember with added touches of ladies jeans and tee shirts for my day to day clothing, no one ever notices
I have started underdressing just last week again at work, panties only. But I just remembered a few of the coldest days the last 2 winters I would wear leggings as a third layer under my uniform pants on the coldest days
. Sandy
I have worn panties every day for the last year and a half or so, and I found some micro fibre ones which fit good and feel lovely. Even to doctor's appt's.
I've worn bras out underdressed, and yes I have the concern about being noticed.
Taken straight from post, "Do your worries go away" etc etc
On a serious note, due to ongoing, but relatively minor memtal health problems, I am finding that underdressing in cami and panties, plus in the winter heavy duty tights is quite calming. On really cold days I add an a cup bra and unless it is really hot at night, C bra and forms for bedtime.
If I wake up in the middle of the night, off comes the bra and my self adhesive forms are up to it, I sleep braless for the rest of the night..
Once out of bed, I do my daily lingerie change. Feels so "femme" to remove and replace my lingerie with my boobs in place just like a real "GG"
Caty.
Thanks for this wonderful article. I change into panties as soon as I get to the office - one of the highlights of my day! Have risked a bra under my sweater during colder months. It's the best I can do in my situation - but it certainly helps. Thanks again for sharing!
Thanks. Yes I wear panties under my men's clothes about half of the time and a bra occasionally. It is much easier in cooler weather. I find that my wife is even aware of it and doesn't mind. In cooler weather I have also worn leggins under loose fitting sweatpants when I am out for a walk. Being underdressed is great way to get by until I have the time to get fully dressed.
Been under dressing since I was 13. Went to school in a pantygirdle with thigh high nylons since pantyhose hadn't quite made it on the scene just yet. By graduation I was wearing pantyhose almost everyday. These days its, pantyhose, leggings, camisole, cute top, and kitten heels. Finish all this off with a schrunchy since my hair is well past my shoulders, and pearl earrings. I just love it this way, and have even been out a few times this way.
Thank you for these tips also
Love underdressing inside and outside my home. Hell, today I went fishing in tights, panties and a bralette under my gear. My favourite is stockings; love my stay ups! ❤️
I wear womens knee high stockings. Smooth, feminine, and comfortable.
Not pantyhose or thigh-high, but provides an opportunity to wear a feminine apparel.
I have been under dressing for years. I wear nothing but women's lingerie. After my battle with cancer. I have thrown away all my men's underwear.
If I am going to a family event to where I know there will be a lot of hugging. I will leave my bra at home. It always feels like something is missing when I don't have on a bra. I have been wearing a bra everyday for many years.
I have worn pantyhose, tights, and even a garter belt and stockings under my pants. During the coldest months of winter I even wear a nice silky and lace camisole. I have a rainbow of colors in camisoles. More so lately during the winter months. I have been wearing fleece lined leggings. Help to keep me warm in the cold temps.
I have been under dressing every day for over two years women's panties and hold up stockings. always feels wonderful.
