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The passing of a loved one is always difficult, of course, but there is a legitimate and understandable sense of relief found in the end of their decline and the burdens of being a caregiver. As the grieving process runs its course, you can begin to address all of those practical matters and ease yourself into a new and freer reality.
Of course, you still feel the need to balance your preferred life with the obligations to family and I suppose to profession, although the latter is of secondary concern. You may find that the balance point shifts over time, allowing more of life to be expressed as Brian, and reserving some necessary days to the other self.
Best wishes to you as you embark on the next phase of your life.
Sabrina, my thoughts go out to you, I am so sorry to hear of your losses. Ayre
so sorry to hear that i lost my mom then my dad 69 days apart from each other.in 2013. it was hard to deal with. now that its 2023 i have my parents land 7 acres and a new home just put on last week. soon to move to war saw N.Y and out of the city. i still dress up when i can and be free of depression and stress, even tho wife does not realize that it does help. well hope you can get over it slowly and move around the house when you can up stairs and down stairs with out being afraid too.
This read was epic. I had something similar happen when my wife passed away in 94. It turned out to be brief but extremely releasing. Thank you for sharing this. Mikki
I am sorry for the loss of your father, but now you have the chance to be the person you have always wanted to be. Tale full advantage. Hugs, zeezee
I lost my father two years ago and now my childhood home stands empty, pending a final resolution of the estate. I am responsible for the maintenance and upkeep of it, so I have full access. I have used that as a "base" for Geena. In pretty much every outing I have done, I change there, go out and enjoy myself, and change back there before I return home. Over the winter I pretty much moved Geena into my old bedroom and had my dresses hanging in my old closet. Come spring and house cleaning I had to relocate my things back home, but will most likely repeat the process come late fall and full Geena season. I know the situation will not last, but will enjoy it while I can.
Oh Brina!I can understand your pain, I lost my dad thirteen years ago and my mom is in bad health. All i can say is this is Brina’s time to shine so spread your wings and fly girl.
Condolences Brina and good luck with everything coming in the future. Losing parents is hard, no matter their age or health. Take care and thank you for sharing this.
Hi Brina, I read your story very carefully and was so interested in where you go from here. I am so very sorry to learn about your parents passing. I also read about you possibly getting that studio makeover, it's something I've always wanted to do, but I know I never will get the chance. I can only hope that you might post a photo or send me one so I can see how those makeovers actually turn out. I have seen a few and the person comes out beautiful. Now about being jealous. Of course I'd be jealous that you can get it done and I cant. But when You talked about what others can buy and wear, you are not alone, I am a size 14 in a womens shoe, so it's tough to find something A, that fits, and B, something sexy looking. Also, I am 46 chest, how can I possibly find a bra 46 A for myself. I did find a B, but it's too big. I can stuff it yes, but I want something with ME underneath. I'm terrible at makeup, I have big fingers and the list goes on. I know what you said about be grateful for what we have, right now I seem to be very healthy, and I really cant trade that for anything in the world. Lastly, I envy you, I want to be you, I want to be a real woman, but like I said, I am healthy, known on wood.
Brina, I knew when my Dad passed it was going to be OK. It was his time. He was tired. I can honestly say I had no regrets, save one. He was one of my best friends. So I miss his friendship (he passed in 2012). And then this year my best friend passed. He was young, very young in my book, 44. He died from colon cancer. He didn't know about Dani but he was one person I could talk to about almost anything. And him with me.
Moving on I would like to find a friend, that could understand all of me, if that is possible. I have been on-line to may places but I don't think it will happen on-line. It would sure be nice to talk some things out. Thank God I have a therapist. I have too many issues to be without someone to talk to.
Enough about me (that's the problem with your articles - LOL - they make you think). My thought and prayers are with you Brina. I'm glad you still have your friend.
Brina, so sorry for your loss and pain. I understand your new feelings of freedom to cross-dress at will. I had stopped for a few decades for marital reasons. I still had the urgings and anxiety but was able to suppress them. But then 9 years ago, I lost my wife and after a few months I decided to commit to cross-dressing as often as possible, usually everyday although not always 24/7. The master bedroom closet, cabinets and draws were mainly my wife's articles; now they have been replaced by Marian's. Although mostly closeted as you are now, I am making plans to go out in public with the help of CDH friends. So, get ready to enjoy the future world of "Sabrina"!