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What’s Your Name?

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(@clarafrye)
Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 8 months ago
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I have to admit, I’ve been going full speed ahead with my research into how best to take care of my relationship, how best to show my love and affection for my guy and how to ensure we are both getting our needs met.

I’ve been reading articles on here for inspiration and information (many thanks to all you ladies) and looking at the adverts, which are giving me some really fun gift ideas for the future. I’m also in the middle of reading a book called “My Husband Wears My Clothes” by Peggy J Rudd, and I am really enjoying it.

I was in a quandary regarding names, but I wasn’t sure how to bring the subject up because I’m really bad at being subtle; I feel like it all came out seeming rather weird because of my nervousness. I seem to recall that we were getting ready to go somewhere, or maybe we were making breakfast, but it just kinda came out and I asked, “Am I supposed to be calling you another name when you are dressed up?”

I could tell it was a bit of a shock, coming out of the blue like this, but he recovered quickly and it started a wonderful conversation.

It turns out he had picked a name that was close to his own boy's name, but he felt it was not really what it ought to be, it just didn't feel right; he wasn’t even entirely sure a name was necessary. He talked about how he’d read a lot about it, but wasn’t sure if he, all dressed up, was a whole other person, or if it was just him dressed up.

He knew the logic of why guys choose a feminine name and it interested him, but I felt like it was a big step that he wasn’t quite ready to make, because until I came along, 'she' was completely hidden and scared. With lots and lots of love and encouragement, she (the gender we'll now use) now wears more feminine clothes out and about and she is so confident and happy, it brings such warmth to my heart.

We started talking names. I got my internet up we started looking at lists of baby names. We would both throw them out in turn and say them a couple of times to get a feel for them. Although she didn’t fully land on one, I think the seed is planted and she will be trying some of them soon.

Now I guess I wanted to ask anyone else who stumbles upon this post: Is a name necessary? How did you pick yours? Did you ever struggle with picking a name or did you think it unnecessary? Is there a certain meaning behind your choice?

As William Shakespeare wrote, "What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet."

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Lady
(@sashabennett)
Joined: 11 months ago

Noble Member     Wick, Caithness, United Kingdom
Posts: 630

@clarafrye To be honest I had never really thought about it until joining CDH. As I needed a login name I had to come up with something. Sasha just popped into my head as a nice name, no idea where I got it from & Bennett was from the "Heroes" TV show character Claire Bennett. The 2 just seemed to fit together well. Nobody outside of the site uses the name (Mrs B included) but it's come to be who I think of myself as now. Funny how things work out isn't it?

Sasha

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Lady
(@clarafrye)
Joined: 8 months ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 13

@sashabennett life is full of wonderful funny little moments.

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Duchess
(@flatlander48)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     Cathedral City, California, United States of America
Posts: 1462

@sashabennett I won’t say it is completely mandatory, but it does help to define and separate the personalities.That’s the way it sits for some. In my case, my basic personality didn’t really change. It just seems to be a bit more mellow.

How I chose my name is in my Profile.

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(@alexina)
Joined: 9 months ago

Famed Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 1559

@clarafrye 

Hi, Clara, thanks for taking the time to post this interesting perspective.

There is the convention here to use female names, due largely, I think, to the fact that we are expressing our femininity in crossdressing.

I believe many of us, like me, came up with something fairly quickly when we joined. That's why so many are derivations of our male names.

The problem with this is that, once we really start to get to know our feminine sides, that name may not fit as well as we'd like. That's why I changed from Alexina to Allie, it sounds much more like the "me" that I see in the mirror.

It's great that you're so supportive and involved in your partner's alter ego, I'd say, definitely take the time to pick an appropriate name you both like, it's going to be worth it.

Allie x

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Lady
(@clarafrye)
Joined: 8 months ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 13

@alexina thank you! We are still trying out names and it’s been really nice to be a part of. I can’t wait to see which one she lands on 😊

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     Connecticut, United States of America
Posts: 954

@clarafrye I felt that a name was necessary to put a dividing line between my male and female personas.  It provides a reference point for the specific moment I am living in.   It also provides definition of the extremes of the spectrum in which I live.  Now fortunately, I am moving positively toward the Lauren end of the spectrum.

As far as selection of the name goes, there isn't any major significance to the name.  I was a name I always liked.  Also, there are two women I know with the name and I guess I wanted to be like them.  In truth, over time I have had three names, but I feel this one is best suited to me and how I see myself as a woman so I'm sticking with it.   Out of curiosity, I looked up a list of popular baby names for the year I was born, and it wasn't there.   This didn't change anything for me.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3067

Posted by: @clarafrye

Is a name necessary?

Depends on how immersed into crossdressing that the dresser wants to get. Picking an en femme name helps to complete the process.

Posted by: @clarafrye

How did you pick yours?

At first, I wanted to honour my mother and, because I was more hairy than I am now, I created a homonym of her name by mixing these two ideas. It didn't take long to realise that that would be kind of unwieldy, so I just chose her name which also had the less common French spelling.

Posted by: @clarafrye

Did you ever struggle with picking a name or did you think it unnecessary?

Before I joined CDH, I didn't even know that picking a new name was a thing. Once I started thinking about it, I pulled it together quickly. Sounded like a great idea.

Posted by: @clarafrye

Is there a certain meaning behind your choice?

Just an homage to my mother who was probably hoping that I would be born a girl anyway. She was stuck with 3 sons, though. 😳

There is no rush. Spend time picking an appropriate, memorable, and meaningful* name. It will pay off in the long run.

* The meaning behind names interests me when new members introduce themselves. I look many of them up to discover what is behind them. Quite cool, actually.

 

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Lady
(@clarafrye)
Joined: 8 months ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 13

@harriette there isn’t any rush on our end. We are having fun trying things out.

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(@geniv_cd)
Joined: 8 years ago

Reputable Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
Posts: 219

@clarafrye

For years before discovering CDH, I had chosen Genivieve because it felt feminine to have a feminine name and I liked how it sounded and how it looked in print. There aren’t many Genevieve’s around and the small change in the spelling,        (Genivieve) I felt made it my own. A few years back when I used to dress, I became Genivieve in total, I am not sure that would have happened without the completion of having a femme name. Unfortunately for Genivieve the ravages of age and some old injuries make getting my girl on no longer pleasing. Just the same my mind has not changed and coming here to comment, engage with other girls or chat is a positive for me. 

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Lady
(@kimdl94)
Joined: 6 months ago

Estimable Member     Longview, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 111

@clarafrye i think it depends on where she wants to go with expressing her femininity.   If the two of you agree to refer to her as “she” when she presents as a woman, it seems logical enough to adopt a female name.  I would also think that if she or both of you are going out, she will feel more comfortable interacting with others is she can be addressed in a female name.   

that’s just my opinion, of course.

I was lucky.  I was given a female name at birth.

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Lady
(@tia)
Joined: 6 months ago

Reputable Member     Shady Cove, Oregon, United States of America
Posts: 131

@clarafrye Hi Clara, I'm Tia, a name I chose while going through some of my family history and it just stuck. I picked Wells for my female last name because dressing En Femme makes me feel well. If you two ladies go out in public, you will eventually have occasion to introduce yourselves to others which will be awkward if you don't know your own name. When she gets more comfortable in her persona as a woman, she may find a name that fits her personality. It's different for all of us, but I think it is an important part of defining who she is.

Love Tia

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3067

@clarafrye It is fascinating that our crossdressing encourages us to pick our own name. Getting to pick our own name and uniquely express ourselves is quite an opportunity and not something that I even thought of before crossdressing. It's not as if we can state our wishes for a name when we are born, right? So most of us just accept what we are given. 

One of the few adults that I knew who changed her name is a school chum of our daughter. I never got to speak to her about it, but she did it on her own in her late 20s. 

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Lady
(@jennifer2025)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     Maryland, United States of America
Posts: 15

@clarafrye Hi there!  I picked Jennifer because I love Jennifer Gardner and my male name is”Jeff”. Made since to me and I just feel like it fits..😊

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Lady
(@tia)
Joined: 6 months ago

Reputable Member     Shady Cove, Oregon, United States of America
Posts: 131

@clarafrye Hi Clara. I picked Tia from looking into my family history and it just hit me. I had thought of another name first, but I want to reserve that one for my writing. I chose Wells for a surname because cross dressing makes me feel well. For me, a name is necessary because some of my family is UBER judgmental and I will keep Tia for my friends, both here and the ones I meet in person.

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Lady
(@abby24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Estimable Member     BW, Germany
Posts: 101

@clarafrye Abigail is the name my parents had picked out if I was born a girl ( they thought I was going to be a girl)

 

Abigail😊

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Lady
(@abby24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Estimable Member     BW, Germany
Posts: 101

Guess they were kinda right☺️

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Lady
(@lindseykc)
Joined: 3 years ago

Eminent Member     Kansas City, Missouri, United States of America
Posts: 26

@clarafrye Like others, I selected a femme name to join online communities. The name I chose hasn't really become a part of me just yet. I am hoping the REAL name I embrace will be one that my wife and I arrive at together. After five years of holding this all in and keeping it secret I finally had to confess to my wife. I hated the sneaking and duplicity even though it was essential for me to explore enough to know if this is just an ephemeral pink fog or something that is really me. It is the latter. I am sure of that. I long for her to see me as my full and real self, and part of that (maybe the biggest part of it) is her using a femme name with me. I, no WE, have made tremendous progress especially in the past couple of weeks. I never ever thought I could wear a dress and a bra in front of her. The femme name is now firmly in my sights. The problem is the femme version of my masculine name is her sister's name. Maybe good and maybe not so good.

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Baroness
(@chrisfp99)
Joined: 2 years ago

Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
Posts: 1402

@lindseykc Lindsey, I'm so thrilled to hear that things are going well with your wife. I'm not out at all but even if I was I can't imagine having the courage to appear dressed in front of my wife. I'd just feel so silly 😂. Good for you girl xx.

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(@Anonymous 95976)
Joined: 2 months ago

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Posts: 44

@clarafrye Mine comes from the name I would have been given if born a girl.  Take care!

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Duchess
(@dixie4u)
Joined: 2 months ago

Active Member     Fayetteville, North Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 3

@clarafrye thanks for story of acceptance. I wish I had the same support. As for Dixie, it came natural. She is my complete opposite. Fun loving and worry free. Dixie seemed like a free spirit name. I think it is cute and catchy.

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Significant Other
(@bellaz76)
Joined: 2 weeks ago

Estimable Member     London , Middlesex, United Kingdom
Posts: 49

@clarafrye just came accross this, I am new here, joined yesterday after finding out two weeks ago about my husbands cross dressing.  Its been a rollercoaster but i am so happy to have found this group.  This article is so me right now, because i had this exact convo with hubby earlier, i said ummm so do you have a name? he said yeah you know my name, i was like ummm no the other part of you?  He said he doesnt know what i am talking about.  However, he clearly did know what I was talking about because half an hour later he called me and said I want to be honest with you my other name is 'xxxxxxxx' I gave a little pause and thought.....then just said oh ok, thats a nice name...... I dont know about anyone else in these early days but i dont know whether to laugh or cry, but at least its not a secret anymore and he seems happier and a better man already.  Thank you for posting this and I am so pleased I stumbled upon it.

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Lady
(@lindseykc)
Joined: 3 years ago

Eminent Member     Kansas City, Missouri, United States of America
Posts: 26

Posted by: @bellaz76

@clarafrye just came accross this, I am new here, joined yesterday after finding out two weeks ago about my husbands cross dressing.  Its been a rollercoaster but i am so happy to have found this group.  This article is so me right now, because i had this exact convo with hubby earlier, i said ummm so do you have a name? he said yeah you know my name, i was like ummm no the other part of you?  He said he doesnt know what i am talking about.  However, he clearly did know what I was talking about because half an hour later he called me and said I want to be honest with you my other name is 'xxxxxxxx' I gave a little pause and thought.....then just said oh ok, thats a nice name...... I dont know about anyone else in these early days but i dont know whether to laugh or cry, but at least its not a secret anymore and he seems happier and a better man already.  Thank you for posting this and I am so pleased I stumbled upon it.

Praise be to you for asking. My wife has known eleven months now and has never asked if I had a name or what it might be. It's not hurtful but maybe a tiny bit disappointing. It's something to look forward to. Maybe acknowledging a femme name is one of those bridges that if not too far seems uncertain or unsafe somehow.

 

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Significant Other
(@bellaz76)
Joined: 2 weeks ago

Estimable Member     London , Middlesex, United Kingdom
Posts: 49

I completely owe that understanding and my asking because of my 24 hours on this site and learning more, someone commented earlier today to one of my replies to say have I asked his name, and thats why i did it, and it went very well. The power of this group for people like me trying to understand and support cannot be put into words. I hope you get that special moment from your wife soon.

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Lady
(@lindseykc)
Joined: 3 years ago

Eminent Member     Kansas City, Missouri, United States of America
Posts: 26

Posted by: @bellaz76

I completely owe that understanding and my asking because of my 24 hours on this site and learning more, someone commented earlier today to one of my replies to say have I asked his name, and thats why i did it, and it went very well. The power of this group for people like me trying to understand and support cannot be put into words. I hope you get that special moment from your wife soon.

Thanks. I hope so too, but I will take progress forward in whatever form it takes. She has slipped and called me girl or girlfriend, and that is pretty dern nice. On the plus side, I don't have to worry about her slipping and using femme name in front of those whom I am not yet out to.

 

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Significant Other
(@bellaz76)
Joined: 2 weeks ago

Estimable Member     London , Middlesex, United Kingdom
Posts: 49

@lindseykc that is very true, always a positive...... I bet i do that by accident with hubby, i will just have to style it out, and say yeah its our little joke, dont ask....

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(@ladymakenzie)
Noble Member     Brighton, Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

My feminine name is no more than a psedonym, - a nomme de guerrre so to speak.  My given name is who I am.  I am the same person - the clothes that I am wearing do not make me the a different person.  However, I do understand both intellectually and emotionally that my views are not the norm for most of use.  And I do ackowledge that a name is a crucial part of anyone's self image.

Well, the selection of MacKenzie was originally an impulsive decision.  I made the selection off the cuff without much thought when I registered on the site, six years ago.  However, as I have grown in understand my own feelings and views, I realize now it was a good decision.  It remains no more than a puesdonym, but it is part of who I am.  Most importantly, it has given me an outlet to express my feelings and views in a secure manner.

MacKenzie Alexandra

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Ambassador
(@melodeescarlet)
Noble Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

@clarafrye I think it's a great topic!

Is a name necessary?

  • Nope. I know someone who goes out and looks *amazing* but uses he/him and goes by Kevin. For myself, I had a female name for my online self, so when I started going out it just transferred. I think most people do because it feels more fitting and also may put others a bit more at ease ("Girl face, girl name - makes sense."), but it's definitely optional.

How did you pick yours?

  • I knew a cis woman named Melodee (also with the 2 E's, not a Y), though I didn't really choose it to honor her. I felt it was feminine and, like my male name, quite uncommon. In my local groups when someone mentions Melodee, they know it's me because I'm the only one. lol

Did you ever struggle with picking a name or did you think it unnecessary?

  • I had a different name before, and honestly I don't even recall how I arrived at that one, but at some point I felt it was....stodgy? So I just picked a new one.

Is there a certain meaning behind your choice?

  • Meaning? No, as noted above it's just uncommon and it is nicely in many song lyrics, which I like - but that was never the intent.
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Lady
(@clarafrye)
Joined: 8 months ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
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@melodeescarlet thank you so much for being so thorough with your answers!

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Lady
(@michaela2001)
Noble Member     Goldsboro, North Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

In my view, a female name is not absolutely necessary. I decided to go with one, and since I live alone now, I felt that I wanted one. Hours of thinking, discounting, thinking again and discounting again, I ended up with a feminine version of my given name. It's only used in my CD forums, messages, and in my head while I am dressed.

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(@justnikki)
Prominent Member     Seattle, Washington, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I chose a female name originally just to try it on. I chose the name Nikki because the couple of  Nikki's I've known in my life we're kind, feminine, and playful with unique style, and those qualities resonate with me. I've never had a different female name. I like when people call me Nikki, and there are people who know me only by that name. People who have been a part of my life throughout my journey still call me by my given name, and that's fine; it's a unisex name that works in any context and asking them to start calling me something else now feels stilted and artificial. For my wife and close friends, Nikki is mostly just shorthand for this aspect of me. For example, my wife might say "should we take Nikki for a drink tonight" or "I found this lovely top for Nikki" and her friend had said stuff like "omigod, does Nikki love Chappell Roan as much as I do?" (She does!). I am very comfortable with Nikki as well as my given name, and if we're out and I get introduced as Nikki it's a huge lift. Using Nikki interchangeably like this works for me, I like it, but my given name works too. And for the record, I'm just as laissez-faire about my pronouns; I like it most when people use the pronouns that align with my presentation, but since they all work for me, it's all good AND nobody can get my goat by misgendering me!

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Lady
(@clarafrye)
Joined: 8 months ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 13

@justnikki I love the name Nikki! 
Thank you so much for sharing

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Duchess Annual
(@patches)
Estimable Member     Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 11 months ago

Clara,

  Great topic.  I like topics that allow me to give a clear answer. 😊. Usually there are a lot of nuances.  The short answer is that my Mother named me.  

    When I first started dressing fully, I chose a feminine name that I liked. Sabrina and gave myself a nickname that I used Breena.  This was in my mid 30s.  

   My mother used to tell me all the time when I was younger that she felt throughout her pregnancy that I was a girl.  She says it was a gentleness she felt about me.   I always hated it when she'd say that especially in front of people, lol.  

  Anyway, she mentioned it at the time in my life where I was actively dressing. (she didn't know). So I asked her, "had you picked out a name for me?" She replied instantly "Yes, Patricia".  

  I've gone by Patricia ever since and nicknames I've given myself "Trish" and "Patches".  (I've notice that most any woman named Patricia goes by a nickname also.)  Feels right and natural.

    I react to the name Patricia whenever I hear it in public or on TV the same as my guy name.  

    Thank you for bringing up the topic. 😊

 

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Lady
(@clarafrye)
Joined: 8 months ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 13

@patches I love this story! So sweet! Just melt my heart.

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Duchess
(@reallylauren)
Noble Member     Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi girls, 

I am another one of the Laurens on here, and I didn't get to pick my feminine name, my mother gave it to me! Many of you are familiar with my story, I knew when I was only three that I was supposed to be a girl. Last year I found out that I was born as an intersex person and there must have been some uncertainty about my anatomy, the doctor decided to assign me as a baby boy but my mother evidently felt differently and named me Lauren.

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 7 months ago

I am Anna for a simple reason. I discovered my Anna side in the 1980s when I was 14 and chose the name then and kept it hidden to all but myself until last year. There were a couple of ladies on TV that I really admired and Anna is a midway point between the two names. The surname - due to my favoured hair colour.

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Lady
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(@clarafrye)
Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 8 months ago

Oh my goodness! I didn’t expect such an outpouring of comments and responses! Thank you all so much for sharing with me! Please keep em coming!

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Lady
(@sallybchester)
Estimable Member     Wrexham, Clwyd, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 months ago

I have in the past used the name Amanda - it appealed to my sense of humour and seemed more honest - I always thing of saying it as "I'm a man, der.... " as I'm not that convincing when I'm in my femmes - its a bit obvious

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Lady
(@krisburton)
Honorable Member     The Hub City, New Jersey, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

My feminine  persona is the product of my imagination. My feminine name is the product of imagination also, although not my own. When my son - now 39 years old - was a child he had an imaginary friend.  He would speak of this friend often, and I had no reason to believe he was not real. The name of this friend - you guessed it - Chris Burton. When I began to CD actively it took very little time for me to develop a full alter ego, and the name - feminized with the "Kris" spelling came right along with it. It seemed quite natural!

So, I never struggled for a different name. It was always the name of my feminine self from the very earliest days, and always will be. It has meaning to me as it is kind of the embodiment  of my sons imaginary friend. It's great cover as it is nothing even close to my real name. When I look in the mirror or a photo and see myself fully en femme I see Kris. My fully supportive wife also refers to Kris almost as a separate person. My son who is the originator of the name is unaware of my CDing, but if he ever becomes aware I'm sure he would be quite amused.

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Lady
(@clarafrye)
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Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
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@krisburton that’s amazing! Thank you for sharing

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Noble Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I was a closeted crossdresser for much of my life and at some point started calling myself "Dianne Black" on CDH. When I started dressing fully and going out in public for the first time three years later I felt that Dianne represented the old me and, as I was embarking on a new phase of my life living as a woman, I wanted a new name to represent the new me. I had seen an actress on a British TV mystery program whose name was Fiona and immediately fell in love with it. So I changed my name here at CDH 28 months ago and kept the last name Black which I chose when a black cat of mine walked by as I was trying to decide on a name to sign up on CDH originally.

I think a feminine name is an important way to help express the femininity many crossdressers and transgender woman feel inside.

 

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(@finallyfiona)
    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 10 months ago

Back when I first thought about names ... this being all of about year ago, now! ... I was going to be Janice, after the only 6' tall lady I ever met.  There are similarities to my male name.  That moved to become my middle name when I remembered Fiona, which I'd always liked, but what really sealed it was the anagram involving my male name.

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     New York, United States of America
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@finallyfiona I did the same think Fiona hun. Even though I moved to Fiona I kept Dianne as my middle name.

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Hostess
(@ellie52)
Estimable Member     Perth, Western Australia, Australia
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Clara
My name came about from my wife - she is an amazing woman and has brightened my life with her acceptance of Ellie. So how did we come to Ellie? Originally - when i was dressed one day she called me Grizelda and I nearly choked and said what did you call me? She laiughed and said I looked like a Grizelda. I said what the hell does a Grizelda look like?
Anyway I digress. So then, she said how about Eloise which I liked and we sort of agreed on Eloise - then she said you look Ellie Gent Eloise playing on the word Elegant which I really liked then she burst out laughing and said, actually more like Elliephant in that dress. We both broke down in fits of laughter and Ellie was born. That was over ten years ago and we still have fun with the names.
Are they important - not really, they create a seperate entity between being a Him and a Her but my wife and our friends will still call me Stu or Ellie whether Im dressed. or not I dont mind either name to be honest.
On CDH I added Dee to my name as I thought it would be fun to be called LED
When it comes down to it, Its just a name.

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Lady
(@clarafrye)
Joined: 8 months ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
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@ellie52 that’s amazing! So so lovely

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Lady
(@mikaslinky)
Joined: 5 years ago

Eminent Member     Oxford, Oxfordshire, United Kingdom
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@ellie52 Love this story, Ellie. Griselda sounds like it should be a character from a Hans Christian Anderson Fairy tale. LED, fantastic 🙂

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

First thank you for the question and secondly thank you to the ladies for sharing their stories on how they chose their name.

I chose Suzanne for 2 reasons. The first was that it sounds similar to my male name if abbreviated to Sue and secondly because fo the Johnny Cash song "A Boy Named Sue". When the song first came out I related to it, even though I wasn't dressing then (guess the feelings weren't as deep as I thought).

One of the reasons I chose a name was for anonymity. It is much easier to speak honestly and openly when being able to do so anonymously. That may sound strange but there is much I talk about here that I could never do as my drab self. The exception to that is my therapist who knows both my drab self and Suzanne, in fact she has met Suzanne. She will call me Suzanne depending on what we are talking about or how I present for my sessions. 

Using Suzanne also makes communication with my wife easier. At home she will sometimes ask me to invite Suzanne over. When we are shopping she will ask if Suzanne would like something I've shown her or that she has found. It is a way for us to openly discuss my dressing without anyone else knowing what we are talking about. 

 

XOXO
Suzanne

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 7 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1195

@cdsue If we're in a shop, we sometimes refer to Anna in  the same way

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