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Valid question, Sweetie. I chose a femme name because I felt she was a total person - part of my male personna but an entire person on her own. I originally went with "Julie New-Ma'am", a tribute to my FAVORITE actress and icon, Julie Newmar. But I soon felt that was more of a "drag name" and I felt Julie was a true person, not a character. So I chose a last name similar to my actual family name, but different enough to keep Julie under cover from my guy-side associates. I'm happy to see you be so enthusiastic and supportive. (I wish my spouse was as involved as you are.) As with all things in the world of cross dressing and gender expression, these decicions are personal and your sweetie needs to do what THEY feel comfortable with first - then they need to be considerate of YOUR feelings and opinions. Above all - love each other.
So I chose a last name similar to my actual family name, but different enough to keep Julie under cover from my guy-side associates.
At first, I considered using a different sir name, too, but so long as we don't friend ourselves on social media and different e-mail accounts, etc., it is really difficult to tie ourselves to each other. But I know what you mean.
If you use your original sir name, it is a bit easier to get credit card accounts with your en femme name, though.
@harriette Valid point, but as my family name is VERY ethnic (Italian) it would be a dead giveaway to my male personna. And since I do not plan to fully transition, I see no need for credit cards or ID or stuff like that.
@juliemshaw Modern surnames are not related to gender, but if you only use your new one on-line, it won't matter.
@harriette - sorry, I didn't mean to imply my surname has gender. I meant that it's very unique and one of a kind, so if a female appeared with that same surname, my male-side friends would get suspicious.
My last is pretty rare, too. The last time that I checked, there were maybe 6 in our whole province with it. One day, I was surprised by reading a newspaper to find someone with it in trouble with the law. Fortunately, we were not related. 😇
Took my name from a lovely girl i knew from high school, just changed the spelling a bit.
I used another name that looks feminine.
It took me several times to make a name fit who I felt like the person I am. I don't know why, but I always liked the name Susie, but it just did not fit. I tried it out for several years but felt it did not reflect me. From there I settled on Jan as it was close to my male name, but again, it did not feel right to me. I kept it as a screen name on a couple of sites that belonged to at the time, but it just wasn't for me. After awhile, I came upon Janice - a longer version of Jan and knew that this was who I am inside. It feels natural and my CD friends all refer to me as Janice now. I think each of us has to figure that out over time. Hugs, Janice
@janice0460 I was originally going to call myself Janice, after the only 6' tall lady I ever met, over 30 years ago now. Then I decided I was going to be Fiona and Janice became my middle name 🙂 Hugs, Fiona xxx
Hi Clara,
I picked Jennifer because I have always been enamored with that name. When I was in kindergarten, we sat 2 chairs to a desk. My desk mate was a girl named Jennifer and at the time, I thought she was the loveliest thing on God's green earth and not only that, I absolutely loved her name. Don't know why I did, but I did.
So, when I got to the point in my life that I wanted to choose a female name, I naturally picked hers and from then on, I was off and running!!!
Thanks for the topic!
Hugs,
Jennifer
It's always intresting finding out the where & why of the names people choose for themsleves. Everyone seems to have a different answer.
I guess i'm in the minority with keeping my real birth name.
I was fortunate to be christened with a non-binary name & for it to have a more trationally female spelling (though I have come across one other male named Lea).
The biggest advantage is that I never get misnamed whichever way i'm presenting!
Lea xx
Choose Lizzy as my first name as that was what my mum would have named me if I was born a girl. My second name is Quattro after my favourite female rock singer the fab Suzi Quattro. A bit of a rock chick too so quite app. Plus if I ever decide to do so good drag queen name?
I've never considered choosing a name as a CD because I never considered it to be a separate part of me distinct enough to have it's own personality. If anything I have long been in denial that this is part of who I am. I remember two occasions in the past where people have called me Toni, once in enrollment forms for a new job, and once when they put "Toni" on my office door. I remember getting quite angry about it, partly because they hadn't got my name correct and, I think, partly because I was afraid of anyone discovering my little secret. I've also never considered myself to be female, a gurl/girl, or anything else beyond just being me.
Thinking more about it now, thanks to this thread and this site, maybe I need to reconsider the name thing, particularly so my wife and I can talk about Toni versus Tony. The homophone might be too much as we get more comfortable talking about Toni.
Never thought I'd be homophonic! 🤣
Gosh, this is going to put a date on me.
Growing up I watched Green Acres on television, and seeing Eva Gabor running around the farm in her long, flowing negligees made my knees weaken. I wanted to wear all those lavish nightgowns and feel that extravagant nylon swirling over my skin. She also wore some very pretty chiffon dresses that would spin my head. So, you might say Eva is responsible for my femme name, Lisa Douglas.
I chose Kimberly not because it is close to my Male name but I thought it Kimberly was a pretty and feminine name
