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I have been thinking about this for some time.
With that said, I hope to inspire and to encourage those who struggle with who they are and those who are discovering that there is more to being themselves than they realized.
To Begin.
Who are We?
Are we freaks?
Mentally ill?
Are we gay? TG?
What if we are none of these?
What if we are people who just see the world through a different lens on life?
For Myself, my body is male, but the essence of my soul is female.
Dressing is just my outward public display of who I am, of who I wish to be. It feels natural and complete.
Others may see it is a sexual exploration; a wish to see things from a female side.
Some want to explore their femininity; to wear beautiful clothes and express their female traits in the way they act.
Are any of these concepts wrong? Perverted? Sick?
I do not believe so. It is not for me to make that judgement.
God made each of us as who we are. We can be nothing less.
To be at peace with one’s self we must first accept that we do not fit society's concept of the norm.
That it is OK to be who we are.
Many will not accept who we are, but there are always those who find a reason to dislike a group of people.
For those of you who struggle with who you are, think on this; you don't have anything to prove.
We are not here to prove anything to anyone.
Nor do we need to try to force others to accept what we are.
You need only to learn who You are; to find peace with who you are.
Many of us struggled for years trying to figure out where we fit in.
We don't. We are a group unto ourselves. As many others are as well.
We are just another group of the many that make up humanity.
There are many here that have SO's that accept who they are and have wonderful and loving relationships. They have accepted who each other is.
It is my opinion that both had to first accept who they themselves were, and then to realize that the other, regardless of how they dressed, was still the person they loved.
Do not be afraid of who you are. Accepting who you are is the first step at being at peace.
There will always be struggles in life.
I argued, I prayed, and I begged God to make me normal.
Take this stone from around my neck!
Something changed.
Peace came about me.
I understood.
This Is how God made me.
This is who I am.
I can be none other.
You see; we are who WE are.
I set my soul free upon the wind.
Travel wherever it may
Until the stars up in the heavens
Upon the ground do lay
I wrote this poem years ago,
I hope it will inspire you to believe in yourself,
In Who you are
Catherine
Thank you for sharing from your heart! Questions I have asked myself about myself many times...
Haley
Thank you Haley.
I wish only to inspire those who may be going through the same challenges that I my self have gone through.
Catherine
Thank you Catherine for sharing this lovely poem. As I am doing everything I can to embrace who I am I also struggle with the fear of accepting it. Your words are a blessing to mind and soul.
Hugs Amelia
I struggled as well,Amelia.If my poem helps you along the way I shall consider the time in composing it well spent.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
I’m thinking this is probably the single yet clearest article of self acceptance. When I was a kid. Regardless of color or age you were associated by groups. Those groups were partly by appearance but mostly by actions. For example if you were called a jock you were sports oriented. If you were a hood you probably looked and acted rebellious. If you were a nerd probably a little goofy and klutzy (not the brain child like today’s nerd) a tomboy was a girl with boyish characteristics. A sissy was a boy feminine traits and actions (not the tutu porn type) I’m basically a people watcher (not voyeurism) but I find people and their actions interesting. Recently the Man-bun made its appearance and watching how people reacted to that. I think it was only well received by other men who could pull it off and those who wanted to. It’s no surprise most men were totally unaccepting of it. What I found surprising was the reaction from women with short hair, wearing pants some type of men’s footwear. That was just a simplified hairstyle ... nothing like wearing a skirt or dress, heels or makeup. I still, like many others haven’t figured out ... even just observing, “ why women can dress in male clothing and for the most part no one bats an eye. But if a man displays a hint of Femininity his sexual and mental are instantly labeled and called into question. The Alpha/Beta part of our personality is in both males and females. It’s mind boggling to me where it’s acceptable to put women in Uniform and on the battlefield but a guy in a skirt at the grocery store is enough to rip and destroy his life. No wonder people are afraid to be themselves
Mae.My words are not for those who would cage or box use.If they give You the courage to say "Hey,this is Me if you don't like it,tough!"than I shall consider them a success
Never be afraid to be who you are.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
this is too funny, 3 weeks I met with a pastor and his elders about my being dressed in the church and would I honor them and not wear femme cloths...I told them sure-if all the women wore knee length dresses to church...and an interesting dialogue surrounding the “cultural acceptance of clothing ensued... there is a text book I recently finished reading called the sociology of cloths...it goes in-depth and is very enlightening to how I even understood clothing and social fashion acceptance
You said the things I never could. Thanks for writing it.
Than let my strength to do so be also yours,Alicia.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
Very inspirational. Thank you for sharing your insight.
It was my intention,Denise,to inspire all to be who they truly are,and to give hope to those who are losing it.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
Catherine,
Thanks for the post it was a very good article, I will send it to a friend who had the same discussion a couple of nights ago.
Rebecca
Thank you very much,Rebecca.
I am glad my words give you hope.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
To know God accepts unconditionally is the greatest reward to the soul no matter how others see us. One day I felt overwhelming compelled to wear my pink bubble gum leggings to the gym instead of my usual guy shorts (I did wear a normal unisex T-shirt though). My SO thought it was a really bad idea but I mansplained to her it was something I had to do. Have to say that the looks I initially received when I stepped out onto the main floor were borderline hostile (or maybe that was my fear asserting itself?) but after awhile it seemed that the looks softened and before my training was over I was teaching a young couple how to balance on a bosu ball for building up the body's muscle core. To this day now I wear just leggings and a T-shirt when training and am treated with respect and questions - sure I get glances now and then, and there are the occasional idiots that feel they have to step into my personal space and assert...something, no idea what, but I just look at them smile and am no longer bothered. God opened the door, I just had to have enough faith to step through it. Hopefully someday it will all come together for me and the rest of us that struggle to understand without fear.
Isabelle.
It is I who must thank you.For your response Has given me hope that what I had intended to do was to inspire that first step for those who are afraid.
Once that first step to face the world is taken,each successive one become that much easier.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
Thanks for posting for all to share, I think everyone here at CDH has had a struggle with self identity, it’s always helpful to know your not alone.
It is part of my intention to let other know that we are not alone.We all have struggles with who we are.I have learned in life that simple speaking with others who understand,is a great help.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
This is absolutely beautiful. I am getting myself to be who I am but still struggle daily wondering, am I going to far, is this really what I want, what if as you said in not accepted. It's hard sometimes to push past the basics of living yourself for who you are and not trying to be who others want you to be. Thank you so much for this.
Tonya.
I refused for many years to accept who I was.It caused me some great pain.In my words,I am hoping to let others know that it will ease a lot of stress if you deal with who are sooner.
The support In the words of others here is also a great help.
It is never a good idea to put of dealing with conflict in your life.
especially in ones self.
It always bleeds over onto others.Even family and friends.
May the day find you well.
Catherine
Thank you for sharing this beautiful, uplifting poem with us, Catherine.
OMG Catherine, you have such a gift with words, you really moved me to even dig deeper into myself to find those places,.. I have hidden hurts...behind all demeaning things I have said to myself...exposing them by realizing I am not alone...finding my self wort and confidence from within myself not from outside...being able to love myself, even in a deeper way, hold my head up and look others in the eyes and love love them right where they are at, even if they label me differently...I can now now look in the mirror smile, look into those eyes looking back and tell him/her, I love you...you are absolutely beautiful...today you will make a difference in someone’s life because someone will make a difference in yours...and l know this to be true...you Catherine today made a difference in my life...
Than I have succeeded in my objective in writing.I am glad I made a difference
May the day find you well.
Catherine
Thank you very much for this wonderful poem. It does speak to me and my personal struggle of accepting my inner femininity that I repressed for much of my life until recently. We are not alone.
