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I loved the article and it is so true for me. I dress for myself.
it gave me a lot to think about..Hugs Brit
This is a good question. And one I have been pondering most recently. I think sometimes the who and the why are intertwined. The why is because that's a way I can express the inner (real?) me. The who - it's for me. I think it is becoming less and less about who sees me - in fact I don't want anyone to see me - if you know what I mean. I want to be just part of the crowd. Blend in. Not necessarily pass, that's not exactly what I mean. I mean I just want to be me, who I feel and think I am, and let everybody else be who they think and feel they are and we just go about our lives.
I know I've heard others say this - but the first person that said it that really had an impact on me was my therapist. They are just clothes. In the end analysis they are just clothes. What's the big deal (with everyone else)? Think about all the people you've known over the years that have a favorite pair of shoes, or a favorite sweater, etc... Probably you too. Sorry for the detour (not really).
I have started underdressing more. And I'm trying to get over the thought that says "I'm sneaking around" - instead as I said before it's "for" me. Now, what I've come to realize by underdressing I can fulfill that need/desire to be and feel femme and I can blend in (talking most about at home with SO - she doesn't want to see it). I guess this whole balancing act we play becomes quite a game. But hey it's our game so we can make the rules.
Thanks again @bmactavish You always make me think and it's always a good outcome.
I dress mostly for my self or when I go on walks with my mom and her dog.