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To my beautiful readers,
Many of you spend your day dreaming about that moment when you can throw off the shackles of your masculinity and exchange your suit and tie for a skirt and heels. Crossdressing at the end of a hard day or a week that seemed to go on forever is a welcome respite. At last you can relax. Your shoulders lift gently as the weight of responsibility rolls off, and the mask you wear each day is temporarily set aside. Your day, your evening or your weekend is spent in feminine bliss - selecting the perfect outfit, perhaps getting your hair or nails done or meeting with friends.
When Monday rolls around you grumble about the drab clothes you're forced to wear and start another day at the office or jobsite. Your very masculine presence at work demands respect, inspires deference. Perhaps you're the leader and manager, or the work clown everyone loves, or the hard worker everyone depends on who gets recognized by the vice president for a job well done.
Regardless of your role or your title, by virtue of working and presenting as a man you have a number of distinct advantages women will never enjoy. After living 4 years as a women I'm intimately aware of the advantages no longer afforded to me:
- Men get paid $1 for $1 worth of work. The gender pay gap is well known, where woman get (depending on your study) 75c to 85c on the dollar for the same jobs done by men.
- Men are considered to be competent until you prove otherwise. In general a woman's ability is questioned until she shows that she is able to do the job. If you've ever watched 'How I met your mother' there is a great the episode 'Possimpible' (season 4 epsiode 14) where Barney shares his video resume and helps Robin put together her own. Part way through filming her doing all sorts of crazy things, Robin remarks, "But you didn't do a damn thing in your video, you just stood near a horse and sat on a motorcycle". To which Barney responds, "That's because I'm a man. You're a woman, the assumption is that you can't do anything". Sometimes fiction is true.
- Men are judged on your potential, not your accomplishments. One of the reasons there are fewer women in senior leadership positions is because men are promoted faster - they are assumed to be competent, and promoted based on their assumed success in a new role.
- People listen when men speak and men are interrupted less. I'll never forget in my first few weeks full time when I spoke in a meeting I would be constantly interrupted, and have to ask two or three times for folks to let me speak. After a while I build respect with the team, but I found that every time I switch to a new team, or met a new set of partners I had to fight to be taken seriously. One of my friends said she is often confused with being the secretary - even though she is the most senior person in the room!
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I could mention other areas where men enjoy a distinct advantage in daily life - from not getting ripped off (as much) at car dealers and mechanics to the 'pink tax' that pervades every grocery store to the expectation that women will do most of the housework even when they are the breadwinner. Yet I don't think you need more examples to understand the advantages men have. I've found that crossdressers generally have a great empathy and respect for women. In life, in the workplace and at home you display a caring and consideration the average man doesn't afford. I'm confident that the lovely, considerate ladies who are part of the Crossdresser Heaven community treat the ladies in their life with love and honor.
But I'm going to challenge you today - it's not enough to just show consideration for women in your own interactions. You need to stand up for women when you're in the workplace. If a women is mistreated, or ignored, or denied the opportunity to say something in an important meeting - stand up for her. Say something, even if it's a quick comment like, "Jackie, you were about to make a point, please go on". You'll make her day, and make the workplace that much easier for her sisters who follow her.
You're part of our sisterhood - stand with us - in heels and skirts in the mall or suit and tie in the boardroom!
That's soo true I cant wait to get home and cast of the manly side. I do stand up when have the chance for other women in the work place and even outside the work place.
I always go right to my closet for a skirt or dress after work. I dress femme full time at home with my wife. She will buy me a skirt or blouse when she shops with her girlfriends. So cool
I'm consider myself a little privileged as for my job I can wear almost anything I want when I want cause I'm on my own most of the time when I'm not alone I underdress all the time .
I am recently divorced and learning to be me again and hoe to find some other girls near me after work I run home and put on a dress
Dear friends.I wear women's clothes every day.Go with my wife to buy tights,panties.Sometimes I go to the store buy yourself a dress,tights,knickers,tunics,bras.I go home in women's clothes,claws and panties.Want to find a wig to become like a woman.Sincerely, VASILY(BASIL).
I wear lingerie every day under my drab guy clothes. During the winter it includes pantyhose, if it's too warm, silky panties alone do the job! I would love to trade to be able to wear skirts and heels to work, but being in a leadership position, it just doesn't work. What I enjoy doing is slipping on a pair of heels when I'm dressed for work and wearing them around the house before I leave for work! It's the last little bit of femininity I get before I leave and I can't wait to get home and put on something "more comfortable".
My wife and I shop for clothes together and it adds to the fun and ease of dressing!
Amen sister! x <3 :o.)
It is always nice to be full feminine,but when you can't lingerie under the male clothes still is great,even sometimes someone can still see a bra underneath your shirt,or some mascara on the eyelids.
This was a great read. I get what you're saying. I think it is BS that women are overlooked as much as they are. It's stupid and Archaic. I have one issue though, when you mentioned about standing up for a woman in a meeting. Not all women are the same, and from what I have seen quite a few women don't like handouts. Now sure i haven't met every woman, but those that I have don't like hand outs.
Plus the fact that if you do ask the woman to finish her point, a majority of the time, everyone else is like 'Oh he's dicking her' or the woman thinks she's being hit on. So how do we deal with that? No matter how professional we try to make it, those are the two things that people jump to. Just curious.
Hi hon, thanks for your thoughts. I think the key thing to do is to put yourself in a position where you help everyone be heard. If you let the quiet guy from engineering speak, as well as your women colleagues I think you'll be respected as someone who lets everyone contribute. You also don't have to be overt about it - you could follow the interrupter with your point and then segue to ask for other thoughts and give her space.
We definitely don't want hand outs, but rather an environment where we can be heard.
I do and feel the same ,with not being able wear skirts or heels at work the walk round the garden for me in the morning gets me through the day till I get home then throw my guy clothes off and a dress and a bit of lippy and as you say more comfortable.
As you my wife helps with shopping and getting the right outfits so its happiness all round
Ha,I love being able to wear a bra a lot of the time. I drive truck so I'm by myself a lot,I have my size 11forms on,and drive on down the road..and yes iI do stand up for women too I do know wearing bras in summer is hot..how do you girls do that every day?? Wow
I agree, I wear lingerie under my male clothing daily.
I see. That makes sense ^^ I was just curious about it ^^. thanks for your great incite. ^^
It's always a pleasure hon. Most women, most people in general, would rather feel the fumble of good intentions than the cold indifference of being ignored.
Thank you for trying, and thank you for trying again if it doesn't work the first time.
I am so very glad that you made this post! Very few "males" realize how difficult it is for a woman to "make her own way" in this world..And when they do,too many times they are thought of and reffered to as "an aggressive bitch"...Not fair....
Well said Rogina. Bitch, pushy, too aggressive. Not words that men have to worryabout being labelled as.
