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Great article 'Mitzi! As one who has seen this site grow from a hundred to tens of thousands of members, I have encountered all of the things you've mentioned. I had the great fortune of realizing what about myself what you did about yourself three years ago. I'm not nearly as pretty as many of the girls here on the site, and that's just fine. I just have to be happy with myself. I've realized that Cyn is the person I am no matter what the outside looks like. It's the heart and soul that matter, not the shell it inhabits. I'm still figuring out where my path is leading-it may mean further changes or it may be staying where I am now. But either way Cyn is never again going to be locked away. She may not always be visible but she is always who I am. Thanks for sharing your story.
Cyn
Great article 'Mitzi! As one who has seen this site grow from a hundred to tens of thousands of members, I have encountered all of the things you've mentioned. I had the great fortune of realizing what about myself what you did about yourself three years ago. I'm not nearly as pretty as many of the girls here on the site, and that's just fine. I just have to be happy with myself. I've realized that Cyn is the person I am no matter what the outside looks like. It's the heart and soul that matter, not the shell it inhabits. I'm still figuring out where my path is leading-it may mean further changes or it may be staying where I am now. But either way Cyn is never again going to be locked away. She may not always be visible but she is always who I am. Thanks for sharing your story.
Cyn
Mitzi, a lovely article which touches on many of the ways I feel, and emphasises further to me that we as cross dressers are far from being alone!
Love Laura
Mitzi, a lovely article which touches on many of the ways I feel, and emphasises further to me that we as cross dressers are far from being alone!
Love Laura
Hi Mitzi, your post touched on what I believe are the most difficult aspects of being femme for someone born male, that is learning how to think like a girl and learning how difficult and interesting it is to be a girl. All of the social conditioning, educational and environmental inputs are different for every single one of us. So perhaps it is a matter of accepting there is no uniquely female way of thinking. The other difficult aspect may just require the application of critical thinking in order to challenge how we each see being femme. Even if it doesn't make me more femme at least it should make me a better person.
Steph
Hi Mitzi, your post touched on what I believe are the most difficult aspects of being femme for someone born male, that is learning how to think like a girl and learning how difficult and interesting it is to be a girl. All of the social conditioning, educational and environmental inputs are different for every single one of us. So perhaps it is a matter of accepting there is no uniquely female way of thinking. The other difficult aspect may just require the application of critical thinking in order to challenge how we each see being femme. Even if it doesn't make me more femme at least it should make me a better person.
Steph
Mitzi,
thank you for your words of encouragement for a newbie lady here looking to find her way!
Hugs,
Dee
Friendly comment on Laura's observation about Native American beliefs about gender. Traditionally most tribes recognized male, female, two spirit male, two spirit female, and transgender. Two spirits and transgender were regarded as gifted and were often shamans. The French Canadians on my maternal side intermarried with Ojibwe, and I consider myself hemaneh (two spirits.) There was much wisdom in traditional Native American culture which we should embrace.
I also like Mitzi's comment about not needing to look like a model or a beauty queen, as I'll never be either one : )
Love,
Aria
