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A Real Gender Bender

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(@geselle)
Estimable Member     Chico area, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

     All of my life I like many of you could tell that their was something different about myself . Like me you knew there was something different than most of the other boys that you knew at the time.  Maybe it took you awhile to figure  out that you were more like a girl than a boy. You liked the clothes girls wore better than the ones you were wearing, you wanted to play with baby dolls and skip rope and all the other things that all the girls were doing. And you were so miserable because when you did do any of those things the other boys made fun of you and called you names like sissy and  you wondered why you felt this way. Surely their had to be something wrong with you, none of the other boys acted like you, so it was you that was defective. Than as time went on you learned to hide yourself and to protect that side of you. Now fast forward to the present I have something I need to say and also something to ask all of my Beautiful Sisters out there and please search you memory banks for the answer to this one. When I was around Eight years old my Mother took me to the doctors for some test and at that time they discovered that my body was barley producing any testosterone , well I didn't know what that  meant at the time but all thru my life every time I was tested for whatever , my parents  had that checked and it was always the same low T and I continued to get that checked. Now they do it to all men when you get tested for whatever they do a markup . Well I have decided that because my body has never produced enough "T" that I was probably a girl or at least were more girl than boy at birth . I don't think that sounds to crazy but I could be wrong, (doubtful). So this is the question  Do you know or feel if there is anything in your medical history that would account for your femininity or your need to crossdress.

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(@marianne65)
Honorable Member     Uppsala, Uppland, Sweden
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Some hormonal imbalances runs within my mom's side of the family. Also my sister has it. A cousin of my mom's was born intersexed. Assigned male at birth but started a female puberty and transitioned to female in the 1950s. So I guess there may well be some underlying medical reasons to that I have identified myself as at least partly a girl since I was about six years old and now is looking into transitioning at age 54.

 

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In the 50s women were given a hormone to prevent miscarriage.  My mother took this hormone and I believe that has some effect on in utero development.   There is some reasearch to support this.

Also, as we age are hormone levels change and I believe this to has had an effect on my accelerated desire to cross dress

Lastly, I just like it so that plays a big role.  Love dresses, skirts, shoes, undergarments, makeup and in general, anything soft and feminine.

hugggz Annie

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I had no medical history, growing up; but in hindsight, I had no "masculine" traits, and most of my playmates and companions were girls. In my early 60s, clinical tests did show low T and low thyroid. The crossdressing urge - compulsion, actually - is a recent thing which I'm convinced is hormonal and a result of medications. They also caused me to grow breasts (small, but still breasts).

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(@jennifercd)
Reputable Member     Riverside, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

This is such a great question.  I always say that each of us is our own science experiment.   We all have a unique chemical balance.  This balance changes as we age.  For men that means a reduction in testosterone.  If we started low we probably liked all things feminine.  As we age this feeling becomes irresistible.  We may cross dress or transition.

For women aging results in a reduction in estrogen so their testosterone becomes more pronounced.  That’s why women may become more assertive as they age and men become less aggressive.

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Had a brain hemmorage about 6 years ago and went through a battery of tests and everything except my adrenaline was fine. I don't know about medical but I do believe it's in our genes, this is the way were made.

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(@yestothedress)
Reputable Member     Florida, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Throughout my life I’ve been masculine and my Crossdressing began as a fetish in my teens.  The urge has come and gone throughout my life, with long stretches without any urges.  Now in my late 50s the urge has returned stronger than ever. This coincides with a significant reduction in my testosterone levels which is normal.

I believe my resumption of dressing at this stage of my life is due at least in part to being predisposed in combination with low T.  These are not the only factors - I think there’s a bit of midlife crisis in the mix as well, as dressing makes me look and feel younger and to extent more alive. An escape from my conventional and at time boring life as an overweight balding man.

Hey, as many have said, it’s complicated!

 

 

 

 

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(@robinph)
Eminent Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I was the youngest of 3 boys all my life my mom would tell me or introduce me as this is my son he was supposed to be a girl.  So I started trying to become a girl for her it didn't work.  I know my mom loved me but it sure messed with my head. Now I just love women's clothes

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i am a middle child (older brother younger sister) who always felt different. as a child i always walked on my tip toes and my mother often said i should have been born a girl, i always tried hard to be the boy, played all the sports while never the best player i was also never the worst.

i always wanted to wear my sisters party dresses and became a great actor with a macho profile that hid who i really was, i believe my crossdressing and female traits are biological.

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(@camryn)
Prominent Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I chose “No Not at all.” I don’t know for sure, but I believe my penchant for crossdressing may be more psychological than medical. Or are they the same thing?

True, my “T” is now low, maybe more like no “T”. But thousands of men have low “T” and they don’t xdress. Except for one very brief occurrence in my pre-teen years, I went for decades afterwards with nary a thought about crossdressing – thru my military years, thru college, and thru the early years of my career.

The urge came upon me for some still-unknown reason some years into my first (and only) marriage, in my late 30’s. Shamefully, I found myself with this unwanted but irresistible lingerie fetish. My ex-wife was a ballet instructress, and her dresser drawers were loaded with dance leotards, ballet tights, dance girdles, etc., and I indulged myself at every opportunity. I never revealed this fetish to her, and I don’t think she ever knew.

After the divorce 20+ years ago, as I aged, I evolved into the simple, no-frills, closeted crossdresser that I am today, with virtually no remaining erotic stimulus. The object of my dressing is the dressing itself.

So, I don’t believe that my dressing results from some quirk in my genome, or too little or too much of some hormone. However, I don’t quite consider myself a “normal” male, either, and I’m sure Freud would have a field day figuring me out.

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(@ilandkathy)
Estimable Member     San Diego, California, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

In 1947, my mother took DES when pregnant with me.  The powerful female hormone drug was meant to help avoid spontaneous abortion.  As a result, I was bathed in this extra female hormone  all during gestation.  At age 1 1/2 my right testicle was removed after a tumor formed on it.

Women and men who were exposed to this drug have, in adulthood, developed tumors n their sex organs - men get testicle cancer and women are getting vaginal and ovarian cancer.

My therapist agrees that this may have had an effect on my brain development that has left me with a more female sense of being.  I believe Crossdressing is an expression of my feminine leaning brain.  It's the old law of unintended consequences.  Saving a pregnancy leaves a guy feeling more female and needing to express that with a strong desire to wear female clothes and emulate female behavior.

 

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(@geselle)
Estimable Member     Chico area, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

<p style="--original-color: #333333; --original-background-color: #ffffff;">   Tiffany, Thank you for your reply, I am in agreement that they will find that for some if not most of us who feel we should have been born as the opposite gender was a direct result of something genetic. Another point , I did not mean to imply that the way I or anyone's feelings as it pertains to their gender to be a problem on the contrary I believe this is a wonderful gift and for me a blessed one. I think their might be a reason for my condition because the only explanation the Doctors ever gave was they didn't know why I had a low T count. For others it could be as you suggest. If and when they can conclude something it would explain a lot to a me and many many others. Ladies that being said do not take anything I said as fact, because this little ole southern girl is not a doctor, I just think to much (out loud that is). Love you all Coral</p>

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(@geselle)
Estimable Member     Chico area, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

<p style="--original-color: #333333; --original-background-color: #ffffff;">    Thank you Camryn  for your thoughts you also bring up another aspect of this topic, all I know is I would love to find out if this the case for me and if I knew before I moved on to the next after would be very nice. Coral</p>

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(@geselle)
Estimable Member     Chico area, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

<p style="--original-color: #333333; --original-background-color: #ffffff;">    Well Geselle, That's two of us, one more and we could start a movement. Hugs Coral</p>

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(@lamm)
Reputable Member     Manchester, Lancashire, United Kingdom
Joined: 6 years ago

A few of us on here have a condition called Klinefelters Syndrome where we have an extra x chromosome - this means we have both the female x chromosomes that would normally make us female but we also have the y chromosome which gives us male some characteristics including those that resulted in use being assigned male at birth.

We all have our tale to tell and I think that we will all have our own reasons why we dress - some nature, some nurture and probably for most, a varying combo of both.

Take care girls.

Anne-Marie.

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