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How many times have you received compliments from men you met while you were "enfemme" in a bar/hotel/supermarket or anywhere else??
- Greta 🏳️🌈 🏳️⚧️ ❤️
@mocha Never for me. However at the risk of sounding like a bit of a conceited b**ch, I frequently have women flirt with me especially when I'm out alone without my lovely wife. To be fair, I only underdress outside the home. When I'm casually out and about, my waist down wardrobe is all from the women's side of the isle, usually consisting of panties, skinny ankle jeans and women's sneakers and I frequently wear fitted but not extremely tight women's crew neck sweaters in the cooler months. Its my hypothesis that I appear as a fashionable male possibly leaning a bit on the androgynous side. I always try to have a smile on my face and a pleasant personality.
@annaredhead Come to think of it, soon after I joined CDH I received a few PMs from people who liked my legs in my profile picture. That didn't last long though.
Never in my case but the times I've been out have been with my wife and/or with a group of other CD's.
@mocha By the description in your post, I have had a couple times told me I had nice hair, but I would not call that making an advance. I have had many times women told me nice hair or nice boots etc.
Cassie
I get complimented (or hit on) often enough by guys and gals. Depending on the situation, it feels good!
/LK
@mocha Most of my compliments are from women, from my shoes, to dresses. Even had one woman lift up my dress to see what I was wearing under my dress. 
@mocha This is just me. For me to be able to affect the look and the mannerisms of a female in a way that attracted the attention of a man was very femininely affirming. I have had drinks sent to my table, been asked to dance, been kissed and even dated. Each time those evenings were the most femininely intense and enjoyable experiences of my life as Genivieve.
@mocha I have more compliments from women about my nails or clothes / heels and have had a few cat calls from men while out walking and once coming out of the atm. Yet they didn’t see me up close or realize I was a cd.
@mocha Last night, I had a dream of a good looking CD kissing me without me expecting it.
Does that count? 😆
P.S. I think this was the first CD dream that I remember having.
@mocha Of course, but we have to leave room for a sense of humour, too. 😆
I've gotten compliments from random women, but not men so far... When I started down this road, I considered the topic of men. I have no interest, but realized that if I'm going to do this, men may possibly come with the territory. As in all things, when I go out, I assess the situations I'm likely to encounter, to minimize discomfort/danger...
While I try to look as womanly as possible, close up no one is going to be fooled, especially when I speak. With this in mind if I got any attention from men, I would be very suspicious of their motives. Unless they also looked like cross-dressers, then I wouldn't mind.
I have had compliments from women, but sadly, only on my clothes, not on my appearance as a woman.
Becca
@rebeccabaxter I think women are much more aware of details and complimentary as you say.
Like others I have had a lot of compliments from women over the years but men rarely. I do get doors opened and a smile but nothing that would be thought of anything other than politeness. I have had the odd hug or peck on the cheek from a male partner of a girl friend when greeting which showed they hadn't told them or the partner wasn't phased.
@ab123 Speaking for my guy half, it is difficult and awkward for me to compliment a woman without being awkward considered creepy. I think it is great that you get polite treatment, hugs, etc.
Hi girls,
I am an intersex trans woman and live as a female. I have had advances from both men and women. I am not even remotely interested in men, but some of the men at my bus stop and at work flirt and ask questions I do not want to answer! I guess it is worth it knowing that, to them, I do look like the woman I was truly born as.
The downside is that I have had men try to chat me up and follow me, that is not a good thing and definitely scary!
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
I do find that women interact and comment favourably on my boots or other clothing, but to date, no interactions with men.
Nor do I want any.
Joanna 💕
It’s pretty flattering. I’ve had advances, compliments and smiles. In cases where the men have made direct contact and became conversive, I’ve told them that I’m not a real female and/or that I’m a guy. In every case but one they’ve told me they didn’t know and it didn’t matter! That always surprises me on both counts. For one, I’m so insecure about my looks thinking people have to know. Secondly, these guys must be really horny to want to be with me!
On the one occasion years ago where the guy backed off, he came on to me while I was walking thru a shopping center parking lot. He was watching me and saw me get into my car. He pulled up next to me at a stop light while I was driving out and asked me to roll my window down. He gave a few compliments and asked if I wanted to join him for a drink. When I told him I was a guy, he was surprised and said “awe.. oh well have a nice day!” I got a chuckle out of that one!
I HAD A FEW COMPLEMENTS FROM GUYS AND EVEN SOME HUGS. I EVEN HAD SOME GIVE ME A FLOWER AT THE BAR WHERE I PLAY POOL. I'VE HAD GUYS HOLD THE DOOR FOR ME AND EVEN OFFER TO BUY ME A DRINK. I LIKE THE COMPLETMENTS. IT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD KNOW THEY KNOW YOUR TRYING. I GET A LOT OF COMPLETMENTS AND HUGS FROM WOMEN.
I was going to click never, but I once had a drunk homeless man tell me that I looked gorgeous, really classy. A friend of mine, in a steam rally real ale tent once said to me "A few more of these (drinks) and I'd fancy you". He went on to say "To be fair, you're not a bad looking woman. Not as bad as I thought you would look" 🙂 It would appear the term "beer goggles" is an accurate one 🙂 A gay friend of a friend said "it's a shame you're straight". He was rather drunk (Beer goggles again), I was in Cerys mode, and he knew that I'm happily married 🙂
Cerys
I've had men give me a leer or say hello a few times and also heard some compliments from men in passing cars. It's nice to feel that people are attracted to you. But I just give them a smile and continue walking.
I get compliments from women... never men, and that's the way I like it. Women freely comment on others.. male or female... so I have become proactive as a male to do the same if I am impressed with a woman'e mascara, makeup application, shoes, etc. They seem to welcome such compliments. It's just not typical for a male to do such things, but VERY typical for females. I think everyone likes to be noticed. Not so many welcome come-ons.
Never in the real world - but I don't go out so it's a moot point lol
I occasionally use the chat room on another T-site, and despite making it clear in my profile that I am not interested, I still get a fair bit of unwanted attention from 'admirers'... from the gist of it, admiring is quite low on their priorities list!
It's flattering, but... uh, men! 🤣
I often get compliments from women but women are very gracious and free with compliments. While some men offer compliments, its the approving smile that i see mostly. Ive stopped in at bars from time to time. Either to hear a little music or maybe shoot a little pool. I think everything changes in a bar. I rarely get to buy a second drink. If they have live music I'm asked to dance before i get half way thru my 1st drink. Going into a bar is not for the timid. I'm far from being any kind of a beauty. It is a little unnerving to have so many eyes on you watching every move. Leaves me feel sorry for the pretty ones who are never left alone.
Roberta
Very nicely put said Roberta , The approving smile Is nice to get ... !!!!
Well said so true ( Going into a bar is not for the timid. )
Stephanie👠
I've had both men and women chat me up or complement me. The women tend to be nice and fun and the men seem to fall into two groups. One group is just lonely and another is aggressive. I'm happily married and not interested in a hookup so I'll tend not to engage with men at all. I've had a few encounters with some very aggressive men who were unsettling to the point of being dangerous. Currently, things are much more trying these days. I refuse to hide but am much more careful. Safe Journey, Marg
@signoraaria lol, And necessary when you're 5 foot 5, 120 pounds and blond. Safe journey, Marg
Hello again Marg. Thanks for the comment.
I read your bio with interest. Thank you for your military service. My late dad recently passed at age 98. He served in the Army of Occupation of Germany. The American Legion fired 3 volleys and played Taps, and the Army sent two sergeants with thanks and presented us his flag. Very moving.
Thank you also for your information about intersex persons, as I did not know much before. Sorry you've been hassled by a-holes.
I also see you are in Madison area. I started my career there in the 80s. What a great town. I had to leave to advance my career, fortunately the Twin Cities is also a good place to live.
Aria
I get out and about abit enfem, i just b me now ive learned to not worry what others think, most people are ok with a cd out in the wild but definitely get the "is it its a she/he" look in passing i do get compliments on my clothes or look from time to time which is awesome and if iam at a club (very rare) these days someone would always come over to say something to moi. Some compliments or conversations good but very rarely anything bad xx
