"Both Sides Now?"

I feel similarly to you, Harietta, I’m comfortable with my guy side, and I also really enjoy Ellie. In truth, if I had to just live one, I’d choose Ellie. Up until my mid fifties, she was always lurking just beneath the surface. After that, she really started to want out. By my early sixties, she became irrepressible. And I feel so much more complete and satisfied now that I am actively embracing my femininity rather than just tolerating it. But at the same time, I don’t feel that I was born with the wrong gender. Being male has been OK.
Love and Hugs, Ellie

For me, it's a bit more complicated than "yes/no". I have no regrets about being born male, don't want to transition, and I snagged a wife who is an absolute angel. But the past doesn't feel relevant to my current life and feelings. Womens' clothing looks great and feels "right" on me, the jewelry is fascinating, and effects of a little makeup are almost magical (though I don't often use it). I could be a full-time girl, now, and like it.

Iam torn on this question , my male form has served me well over the years and still to this day , I am male 5 days a week , female at night and weekends. It would be very uncomfortable for me to come out at work to my fellow coworkers so that's why in drab during the week , Brittany has come out to a couple people who are kind and understanding including family , If I could continue to do what I do for work and maintain the same pay and respect from coworkers I would love to live out the rest of my life as Brittany .

I've always felt out of place in guy circles and have no interest living the kind of life most guys want. I'm much more comfortable interacting with women. Presenting as one feels authentic.

However, decades of social conditioning have had an effect. There are things I like about being a guy. Giving that up would be hard to do. So I identify as gender fluid. That works for me today. Where I'll be next week or next year is anybody's guess.

Good question. For me there's a lot of gray area. I answered no.

Emily

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Kelly ann I much prefer my feminine side I love chatting with my female neighbour's 💞

I voted no but I  my case I'm not really happy with either side. I enjoy my androgynous lifestyle and while I often do look more feminine than masculine and do prefer to look feminine I dont really have a 'side'.

I try to present as male as little as I can anymore.  I feel more comfortable in and with myself as femme now.  The need to be male is not where I want or need to be anymore except for work.  I am currently discussing the further transition to full SRS, or simply declaring me as a woman and doing the legal changes needed to continue my life, without the surgery.  Either way, 'he' will be slowly disappearing from my life.

PaulaF

Hi Harrieta ,

I've voted no , I'm definitely gender fluid , I prefer my feminine side , I've always known I had a woman in me ( I thought we all had the opposite gender in us ) . Apparently not !

I live gender fluid daily , full crossdressing is a part of that , but I'm predominantly feminine these days , my wife says 75% female , I rarely enter the male end of the spectrum now  , I'm comfortable & happy this way , I'm fortunate that my wife is on board & our marriage remains strong & getting stronger . 💐💐Tiff

Thanks hun💋

I am happy as a man most of the time, but there is a strong feminine side that needs to be acknowledged for me be happy and comfortable. However, just as I am not comfortable in guy mode 24/7 I don't believe is be comfortable in girl mode 24/7 although I would like to try it just to see what the limit is.

Tiff wrote: "I live gender fluid daily , full crossdressing is a part of that , but I’m predominantly feminine these days , my wife says 75% female , I rarely enter the male end of the spectrum now , I’m comfortable & happy this way , I’m fortunate that my wife is on board & our marriage remains strong & getting stronger "

Much the same for me, Tiff; and aren't we lucky girls to have such wonderful wives!

Hugs,
Bettylou

I feel exactly the same and am exploring the possibilities. I could totally do my work as Bethany but could I be accepted by colleagues and customers that many have known me for 20 years and better.  I thought about taking a couple years off going away transitioning and easing back into it as a woman and hopefully nobody would recognize me. I’m very torn and conflicted about this but if I could live the rest of my life as Bethany I’d be truly happy

No I would prefer to be strictly female, I'm much more comfortable that way. I've never interacted with men well, can't handle the macho bravado BS, I've always had problems with it, I get along with women much better. I can't transition physically but in mind I am Heather. As I've said before, the only thing left of Bryan is the shell I live in and I have been feminizing my male appearance too.

I hit the yes button but as time goes on my male side takes a second seat to Lisa! I have to be some male until retirement. My wife sees me as both. My feminine side is strong yet more relaxed. If we are watching tv and she asks me do I think that ex female singer is hot or cute; my wife knows I am not looking at her in sexual terms but I wish I looked like her!

On the flip side she does like her husband as former Seal and years as firefighter! My wife wants me happy and laid back and is supportive of my feminine side!

I am not a going to transition because due to things beyond my control estrogen and progesterone love my body! I am too masculine looking plus I have to be athletic as a firefighter to ever pass. I have to take small T-shots or I could never stay in shape! I always let my wife in on all decisions and I have commented before romantically I am a lesbian! She loves that! I really don't know what % to put male vs female parts I am!