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(@delaware)
    los angeles, California, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

     For the most part I am an under-dresser.  Panties under guy clothes with my pony tail in  a clip. Thick pink socks and bra.   At home I dress girly with short skirts, skater dresses and be a  total girlie with the dogs.   

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Lady
(@marieclaire2)
Joined: 4 years ago

Noble Member     London, United Kingdom
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(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I'm in between.

I don't dress outside the house per an agreement with my wife. With that being said there are times that I will underdress in panties when going out. I'm not sure if my wife is aware of it or not, however, there are times I'm wearing panties under my sweatpants and need to go out to the store and she'll tell me to just go and not get changed. I used to change before going out putting on male underwear and jeans, now I just go. There are also times I will go out wearing knee high nylons and ankle boots. My wife is okay with that as she says the ankle boots look like men's cowboy boots. I wear earrings 24/7, mostly studs and small hoops when going out. When in the house I will wear dangling earrings. I have worn danglers outside the house a number of times but my wife doesn't particularly care for it when I do. I always wear bracelets that are more male then female, as well as a necklace that is the same. Most mornings I'm dressed in some manner - dress, skirt/blouse or nightie. I only put on make up and a wig when Suzanne is invited to spend the day which isn't often but more often than it once was.

Would I like to do more? Absolutely but we co what we can when we can and hope to one day do more. I've come a long way since I first came out to my wife. I like the turtle and the hare analogy - slow and steady wins the race. A little bit is better than none.

XOXO
Suzanne 

 

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Baroness Annual
(@girlyboy9020)
Joined: 1 month ago

Estimable Member     Maryland, United States of America
Posts: 93

@cdsue Same! I underdress in a bra and panties outside and fully dress like a woman in my apartment!!

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Lady
(@marieclaire2)
Joined: 4 years ago

Noble Member     London, United Kingdom
Posts: 1005

Posted by: @cdsue

I like the turtle and the hare analogy - slow and steady wins the race. A little bit is better than none.

Exactly!

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4010

Posted by: @cdsue

I'm in between.

I don't dress outside the house per an agreement with my wife.  …

Would I like to do more? Absolutely but we do what we can when we can and hope to one day do more. I've come a long way since I first came out to my wife. I like the turtle and the hare analogy - slow and steady wins the race. A little bit is better than none.

Has your wife explained why she can't loosen up a bit if, say, you will be going somewhere where there is no chance of being recognised? I am just being curious, not nosey. I want to learn more about resistance. 

You know from reading my stories about dressing mostly androgynously that it can be very difficult for strangers to know what I am doing. Nobody is inspecting the labels on my women's jeans, for instance, since none of mine have prominent branding visible. So long as the style isn't obviously female nobody will notice. 

If you pick the right women's fashions, maybe with the participation of your wife, you can be really subtle.

 

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 2101

@harriette In the last conversation we had about my dressing outside the house dressing was brought up. She mentioned her concern about how others would feel toward me if they were to learn about my dressing. I understand that part and can't argue with her on it. I'm sure it would also be a concern of how others would react toward her. As to whether it would be different if we were somewhere others wouldn't know us I can't say. I know when we went away for my birthday she told me to bring something for Suzanne to wear. Not wanting to go over the top I brought pajamas for in the room. I wore them and she was okay with it, even said to leave them on when we went to bed. There have been times I have gone out wearing women's ankle boots and she's been okay with it. She also gave me some of ehr cargo shorts that don't fit her anymore and I've worn those out of the house and she was okay with it. So maybe you have a point, if I go with not so obvious female clothing she may be okay with it. Something to explore.

 

XOXO
Suzanne

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4010

@cdsue Exploring. Sort of the reason that I describe going out while dressed as being "abroad ". It adds a sense of adventure to things.

Getting your wife to approve of any new purchases will make wearing them abroad much easier. 

If you would like to go over other tactics, Suzanne, feel free to ask about anything.

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(@shelly-lynn)
Estimable Member     Grand Rapids, Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

I love getting all dolled up as a woman but when I can’t fully dress I am always wearing panties and my bra. 

Smile Face

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Lady
(@joanarbour)
Joined: 9 years ago

Reputable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
Posts: 169

@shelly-lynn and how gorgeous you look. Big Love Eyes

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(@shelly-lynn)
Joined: 7 years ago

Estimable Member     Grand Rapids, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 114

@joanarbour 

Thank you so much.

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Lady
(@marieclaire2)
Joined: 4 years ago

Noble Member     London, United Kingdom
Posts: 1005

@shelly-lynn Me too!

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(@shelly-lynn)
Estimable Member     Grand Rapids, Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Thank you so much not too bad for 70 year old part time woman lol.

Smile

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Lady
(@rhondalee)
Prominent Member     Winston-Salem, North Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I used to get out fully dressed at least one day a week. But life three me curves and I seldom have time anymore. Full dressing requires a lot of preparation! I nearly always wear bra and panties, and on most days wear a dress or skirt, but no makeup..but not in public unless I'm fully made up

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I just like to mix things up. While I enjoy getting fully dressed having a professional make over and going out, i also enjoy dressing and just hanging out in the house and yard. I also wear femme things in drab mode like womens jeans or yoga pants. When underdressed I often wear my breast forms with a loose shirt so I have some real projection, but it is not obvious without really looking. Even on occasion I will wear a form fitting top so I have obvious boobs, though I do this with my smaller forms. I just like to have femme features and items of one sort or another most of the time. 

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Lady
(@kendra2024)
Estimable Member     Chicago, Illinois, United States of America
Joined: 1 month ago

I keep the two sides of me meticulously separate. No "underdressing". On the other hand, I have no restrictions on when I can be Kendra

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Lady
(@nhvtguy08)
Trusted Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I'm an underdresser all the time. Panties and more under my male clothes when out. When I'm home relaxing I'll just be in lingerie when I can.

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Lady
(@nhvtguy08)
Trusted Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Underdresser here. Will wear lingerie around the house as well. But when out and about it's always something underneath.

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