Did you ever suffer from abuse from your spouse?

Hi Hippie

I was reading your other post and your conversation with Sam.

I did many years ago with my ex-wife.  Verbal abuse mostly, mental in the rest.

It was really strange with my EX being she had worked in a salon and her best friend was a gay man who dressed up.  That was Ok, but I wasn't.

She supported me initially but with raising kids I put it away for many years.  Started again a couple years ago but still hid from my son.  Now when I joined 4 months ago, I'm going out as Robyn on the weekends.

Yet she would always dig me on little stuff like letting my nails grow.  Calling them Fag--t nails yet she would still cut and file them!! I used to work with Hydraulics many years ago which forever cured me of biting my nails...YUCK!!

She would purposely mention it at times of anger in front of the kids.  She was a real charmer.

Total confusion with her.  Divorced her about 2 and a half years ago.  CD'ing wasn't even involved.  Best thing I ever did.

Sorry for my ramble...but yes...been there and done that.

xo Robyn ❤️🤗

Yeah, the abuse was there before she found out about CDing. It just became a thousand times worse after she found out.

As for the nails, I get it. I am a farmer and my hands are in everything. From car engines to something's you don't even want to think about.

I still keep my super short, because they get caught on everything, and it's safer to.

Hey at least they are painted a chrome purple though. You ever notice you just do your nails to perfect and then something comes up and ruins your hard work.

For me, I spent the last couple of days replacing water pipes and hard freeze on the in laws place and I just done my nails that day.

Hippie

I play bass guitar so I keep mine short as well.

That's why right now, I just do press/glue on nails.  Being left handed, trying to paint with my right hand...well its a mess.

I'll figure it out eventually.  I can do my toes better so at least I got that.

xo Robyn🤗

Lisa T.

You must like Lord of the Rings...

Isn't that Gwenyth Paltrow in your " RING" picture?

Dr.T.J.

I HAVE TO SAY IN SPADES... NOT EVER!
I have never had any abuse from my wife in any way or in any form!

I’m having difficulty in understanding any one who has this problem!
If you’re having this abuse... get the fk out! NOW... THIS VERY HOUR OF THE DAY! Go, don’t come back... if you have to leave everything and just depart... every hesitation, Will cost you your life!

Please Polly

Yes, it was not CD related.

Left for self preservation.

I too was ok being single afterwords and wasn't looking towards any future entanglements, then my gf came into my life outa nowhere.

I voted no, My wife has been extremely supportive, and I think Prefers Regi to him. If anything, I am the abuser, as she is super sensitive emotionally, and "he" has always been quite gruff, hence the preference for Regi, she is much softer and more emotional.
Regi

My (now) ex for a while would blackmail me by threatening to out me to my kids (they were teenagers at the time) whenever she was losing an argument or fight on a topic other than my crossdressing.

I voted yes after some deep thought. When my X found out she threatened to tell my brothers and mother. After listening to this for a couple of months I started to come out to my family. So far I've told 3 of my 4 brothers and 3 nieces. One niece is a mtf trans girl.
So far I have had no negative reactions from anyone, and I am happier and more relaxed about my own cross dressing.
Sandy

My X wife hit me regularly over our 14 year marriage. That’s why she is my X.

Caroline

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ABUSE: From the 1st wife,  a nurse, big girl.

She was daughter of a psychiatrist, mother committed suicide, as did a sister and step - brother. People who at dinner would through plates of food to the wall if mad.

She liked her wine, liked to slam doors & draws, and throw objects. She pounded on me, physically and mentally. After 14 years I filed for divorce. She still gets a third of my Army retirement. Never knew about CDing.

2 n d Wife, a totally beautiful sweetheart. Has become very much accepting of my CDing. Life is good.

Dr.T.J.

I answered yes because I realised that I had been mentally abused for many years. It took a bit of time to get it into my thick head what was going on, trying to keep the peace by giving in all the time. I had been married for 33 years before it twigged that I was being repressed AND it had nothing whatever to do with crossdressing, I hadn't even started that then. Living alone, then married a 2nd time made it perfectly clear that I had suffered for years, thinking that I  was at fault even though I was trying my best.

She has never abused me. I was subject to discipline during my 'training' period but it was never harsh or cruel. She was always firm but gentle.