Do you amass clothes or not?

Carolyn, you are a lucky lady.

Because of my closeted status, I have not accumulated enough to purge so I don't.  It's manageable for the time being, where I store my things in containers in the basement where she never goes.   I would love to buy more clothes, shoes and jewelry though.  I am a caged bird.

Hi Fiona,

I love your polls.

I am not over run with cloths yet.

However I am to the point when I need to start evaluating cloths purchases.

I purchased a lot of cloths under the excitement of being able to buy feminine cloths and not really taking time to determine if it would really work out in public.

I must admit I like slutty cloths. LOL

So I will start going through things and reevaluating those purchases.

I am in the middle of  move and that doesn't help except I plan to build more closet space and maybe some more girly closet space.

Love Patty

I will never purge due to personal guilt or shame. I've accepted and embraced that I'm gender fluid and that wearing women's clothes is part of me.

I hope I'll never have to purge due to discovery from my immediate family. I'm in secret concerning them. If I am discovered and have to stop, I will donate what I can to my CD/TG support group.

I have a small to medium full wardrobe(half bought by me and other half free from my support group clothes swaps). Last clothes swap I donated a skirt that was a size too big and couldn't be returned due to final clearance. I'm always shopping and adding to my wardrobe. I don't go on large sprees(due to budget and to prevent my wardrobe from over-whelming me).

I keep my wardrobe in locked storage boxes in my garage loft. I also keep an inventory catalog, so I know exactly what I have.

I try to keep in mind my budget, though I do love to window shop.

Michelle

I had a mad and slightly desperate purge of everything except one bag of items I couldn't bear to be without when we moved house 6 years ago.

I'm trying to adopt more of a Marlene Dietrich attitude, but I regretted that for ages - I had some amazing items, but the thought of it all being discovered, and the potential awful outcome was too much.

Since my first talk with my SO, I have been keeping most of my garments in the drawers next to my bed - and am rapidly running out of space!

Yes, I amass clothing, almost unashamedly.

I still don't like the somewhat guilty feeling I get when a package arrives on the wrong day. Worse when it's more than one, and my wife hands them too me silently.

I need thicker skin!

I'm going to trim down my drawer contents by moving the summer stuff to bags for cupboard storage until next summer, and review them in the spring, and as summer goes on.

There are items that can go to charity shops.

But I will never purge again, as in simply throw clothes away - ridiculous waste of good clothing.

I amassed a nice little collection over the last week - two beautiful pairs of shoes, two skirts, 6 tops, a pair of trousers, 4 bras, 2 bags, a coat and 9 dresses - and an incredible silky jumpsuit -  for around £150.

I should do a fashion show - they're all lovely items that I have fallen in love with!

Finding drawer space has been a real challenge...

Love Laura

If I had the space I would probably would amass too much stuff. However I have a limited amount of space to store my 'secret stash' of clothes in, so it requires careful management.

I usually keep about 4 skirts, 10 tops, a cardigan and a dress (or two) plus a selection of bra/tights/panties.  I have one handbag. I tend to cycle out clothes as the seasons change; so as we are going into Autumn I'll be donating a few items to charity to make space for some new purchases. I like shopping, but have to keep what I buy to a minimum - so I try and focus on what I  need 🙂

Shoes take up loads of space so I wear gender neutral flats, that way I can wear them in man mode too.

Coats use a lot of space, I have a selection of unisex style anoraks (lightweight up to parka).

Yes I am prone to buying too much femme attire, especially lingerie.

At home I have dresser drawers containing almost all of my collection of the above. Plus my breast forms. (As mentioned in this forum before my beloved and I sleep in separate rooms, so I do have some "latitude".)

The rest, make up jewellery shoes wigs etc is stored in a  storage unit about half an hour from home. All my dresses, tops, skirts etc are hung on a double rung "retail dress rack".

I have the only key!!!

Memo to Laura Lovett. Surely "up" where you live service has self service parcel post lockers??

We have them "down here" and that's how I have all my Caty stuff delivered.

Keeps "prying eyes" away from my purchases.... But then I get enough wine delivered to the house to keep those "eyes" happy.

Happy dressing everyone

Caty

Hi Cary,

Not in my immediate vicinity - I live out in the sticks.

I used to use click and collect services, but the places offering them have been stopping, seemingly on an ever-widening radius of where I live.... is it co-incidences?? /grin

As far as I'm concerned, it shouldn't be a problem. I'm simply observing the uncomfortable situation, and will strive to improve it.

A few items of clothing do not deserve icy silence - I wouldn't do that to anyone else, so I don't deserve it.

Karma will sort it.

Que sera sera.

Love Laura

Years ago, when I was confused and guilty about the CD thing, I purged several times.  That's more than 30 years ago - maybe 35!  When I came to grips with this proclivity, I have been at peace with who I am and have no need to get rid of the stuff.  I believe that quality reading - even some of the early Virginia  Prince stuff - helped me understand that I'm a pretty good person with an unusual hoppy.  When the internet hit us full-bore, I knew that it was not as unusual as I'd thought.

Which brings us to today.  I am overrun with women's cloths, shoes, underwear, and foundation garments.  When skinny-jeans and tights became the thing, I must have gone nuts.  I have so many variation of jeans that I'm afraid to count.  I've sorted them several times by color, rise, and leg opening.  While I prefer really skinny, I frequently wear straight leg or flare, when I'm going out and want to take the focus off my feminine footwear.  You can hide some nicely heeled sandals and booties under a gentle flare.  Now, I may have only one pair of men's jeans that I never wear.  My Old Navy women's jeans fool almost everyone.

But, I need to clean house.  I've sold several hundreds of dollars of stuff on ebay and now Poshmark.  But that takes time to stage, photo, upload, package and send.  And . . . I don't have the space for staging.  I think I'm just going to have to bite-the-bullet and send some of it off to the thrift store.  The problem is, when I start going through the storage containers, I find old item that I love and can't part with.  I've never thought of myself as a hoarder, but I certainly am in my feminine wardrobe!

I hang my clothes up in their own wardrobe.....my SO complains that I take up too much space with all my dresses, tops and skirts.

As for the bathroom......my makeup everywhere....lol

What a great poll! Thanks Fiona;

I really don't like to use the word Purge, and when I've done that it's close to everything.. Never Again!.

Now I occasionally "Prune" the collection, but it's still mostly in a growth phase.

-Molly.

I have one small closet in the back bedroom that I keep the few drab clothes in that I still have and a small dresser that was mine when I was a kid for some drab things.

All of the other closets have my true wardrobe.  Now it sounds like I am a clothes horse, but I'm not really over run, yet.  One closet has my summer things, another my winter clothes, and another my outdoor clothing for the in-between weather time.  Dressy clothes have their own space too.  The shoes for each season are kept with the clothes, and it's just a matter of transferring them to my main closet at the right time of year.

The day I move them around is usually the day I decide which ones go to Goodwill or to the dumpster as they are worn our or have a tear or some kind of stain I just cannot get out.  That's why I picked that I purge occasionally, but it's needed to make room for new things.

Paula

I like that word "Prune". I think that word is most appropriate

🙂