Do you have a need or a want to go out in public as a woman?

Hi Holly,  you know, I would like to, but circumstances and my own innate fears have kept me from doing that except for once.  Late in the evening some years ago (before minicams and in the infancy of the internet) I drove some miles to a post office where I had rented a box so that I could buy a few items here and there.  I was mostly fully dressed, including make-up etc. I parked, screwed up my courage, walked in, got my package and as I was walking back out, a worker from behind the wall of boxes, walked out and watched me leave.  Only time I've ever been in a post office and a worker has come out.  I've never had the courage do go out in public again...although I still think about it.

Hugs, ChloëC

Yes. I don't like to go to all the trouble of getting dressed with no place to go. If I dress around the house I don't bother with anything above the neck. Not only does it take time for something I can't see, but it upsets my SO. To go further, I don't go out by myself, without plans to meet up with someone or accompany someone when out. Going out in public and engaging with people is affirming to me. Pretty dresses and all the refinements- jewelry, heels, makeup, stockings, etc. are made to be seen.

I feel exactly the same way, staying home and just looking at myself in the mirror or taking pictures is NOT enough, I Need to present myself as a ‘woman’ and be treated as such since I pass perfectly and it completes me! It’s the perfect high, getting ready, going out for 3-4 hours and impersonating a real GG. Been doing it for 55* years.

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During my evolution I had that 'All dressed up and no where to go' feeling. That image in the mirror looked quite acceptable so I did the after dark walk. That drove me further in needing to do it the daytime and I did so at a very quiet area. That then leads to a more public areas and all the nerves started to dissolve and the coming out, this girl was getting out with friends and on her own and my word where was it going? Well over that long period I am now very much out and even working. Who'd have thought!

Hi Girls,

I'm laughing as I type this 🙂

I need to go to work everyday, I take public transit and I'm a trans woman, so yes, there is a definite need to go out in public as a woman.
Like Angela, I do everything as a woman, legally I am one now.
Tonight I'm going to a Christmas concert with a girlfriend.

Big hugs,

Ms. Lauren M

I used to be satisfied with dressing up and staying in the house.  Then I realized I wanted to go out in public. At first it was just driving around in my car. Then I started going into stores, the mall, gas stations. I had a couple bad experiences with people, but most people are too busy with their own lives to notice or care.  I think any CD should go out in public and have their own experiences.

Hi Holly,

Good question.I voted yes, but  I’m not sure where I fit in, I am mostly satisfied at home but every now and then I get the urge to get out. It’s not such a simple undertaking since I’m not out to the world,  so the desire needs to be strong enough to get me moving. That seems to happen about 3-4 times a year!

Kate

I have a need to go out because that’s what people do.  My gender isn’t a factor.

I enjoy going out but I don’t need to go out everywhere all the time.  I recently spent all day at Disneyland, went out to dinner, went to a play, went to a Renaissance fair and went to an outdoor craft fair.  I greatly enjoyed those activities.  But I don’t have to go out everywhere all the time.

Yes, Meghan, getting dressed, and just taking pictures is not enough for me too, the need to be out and about presenting myself as a woman is the “Holy Grail” of a CD… I had the chance to be out just once but I am hooked on the need to be out in public,    Leonara

I'm afraid I put "other", as I'm not sure I fit with the other options.  After a lot of thought I've decided I need to affirm that inside I am a woman. Dressing as I see myself really helps with that but it's only one way of affirming my belief.  Mixing and being accepted or even just blending in as a woman would be wonderfully affirming: but it's complete unacceptable as yet to my wife: so my only options are to try to affirm my own belief as much as I can: and to dress at home on my own. I would love to get out one day....

Thea

just DO IT! and feel confident, no one is looking at you, so don't be self-conscience

Holly,

I definitely have a need to go out in public. For me, passing in public is validation that all the efforts I put into clothes, wigs, makeup, walking correctly, making the right gestures ...etc are worth the time, effort and $$$ I put into it. And I like watching the reactions of both men & women as they check me out or interact with me. It makes life very interesting indeed!

OTHER
I said other because I would love to spend every moment of every day as a woman but sadly at this point in my life (73) no amount of pills, hormones or surgeries are going to allow this to happen in this life time for me and Sara.