For all the girls that still work

Would love to...unfortunatley not possible. Must be exhilirating...

I haven't come out at work. The parent company supports the LGBTQ community but we were an acquisition in 2018 and the employees would not accept it. The one person I would confide in had a problem with pronouns (He, Him, She, Her, They). That would be the very least someone could do to show acceptance.

Seems like if the company accepts it and some decide to come out looks like the others can accept it or can find another job.  Way I see it if don't cause a safety factor for job duties all good.

Timely subject I think about often.

I plan to start HRT sometime this year.  Obviously the changes will become noticeable at some point.  When they do I'll tell HR.

The culture at my work is pretty conservative.  I expect I'll lose the respect of most people I work with.  They won't want to work with me, and that will make my job very difficult.

Fortunately, I'm 2.5 years from retirement.  And I'm not worried about losing my job.  California law is on my side.  But it could be a miserable 1-2 years once I'm out.  I really hope I'm wrong about that.

Hello Donna....

I'm not out at work....we only have 8 staff and apart from the owners husband , we are all girls haha.

......I think a few  of the staff may have some idea, but it's never been pushed. I'm not sure the owners would go for it, they are quite old fashioned in their thinking. .....and I love my job so much, I couldn't bear to cause friction....I'm sure it may come out eventually......I could even have a W.T.F. moment and reveal all......ooooeeer. .....it's been close a few times before....lol.....but as I only work 6 hours a day, 5 days a week...Gracie gets all the rest!!!!!

Grace ❤️

Sadly no, the company I work for is really finicky and the store manager isn't fond of LGBTQ individuals. Even if I would come out as a crossdresser, there's a good chance I'd lose my job as the manager would schedule me less and less until I would either leave or be let go.
So since I need my job, I decided to just keep this part of myself hidden.

Hi Donna, I'm out at work . I work for a major fast food restaurant in the UK so both companies policy and UK law protect me, not that I have any issues. There are multiple LGBTQ people at work and we've always been accepted. The manager, in fact most the management Aside from one,who treats me neutrally,  have been amazing. I came out to her first at work she's been so supportive.

Its odd I'm treated like one of the girls mentally, if that makes sense and asked to do jobs associated with men as I still have the physical strength and height.

Love Trisha

Hi Donna

I’m in uniform and only minimal make up allowed, so no real option in my daily routine.

I have put my name down for the Christmas night out for the first time in many years. Need some post Covid dance therapy.  I am seriously thinking about it being time for Bianca to come out of the shadows, maybe, even just once.

❤️Bianca

Been retired now for 7 years,  worked most of my life as a international truck driver, so always on my own so it wasn't necessary to tell any one. But the company I worked for had 1 transgender and 1 cross dresser working for them , I used to talk to them and ask them about their lives but never ever mentioned I was a cross dresser also,  perhaps I should have done, I live alone now and can dress whenever I like,

Yes. No. Maybe. I did tick no.

We own a little 100 acre farm. I'm often out an about femm doing bits and pieces. But - gotta wear protective clothing when welding, chainsawing, building etal. Same when I work off farm.

There are times i can work in a skirt at home. I love my painting skirt. (Denim skirt with paint stains.)

Hey Donna

The company I work for is very inclusive. We are often required to do online training sessions about understanding what it means to be inclusive in the workplace and how to accept diversity. However my Wife would never let me come out in the workplace and to be honest as much as I would like to be able to wear these wonderful clothes more often I do not think I am mentally ready for such a move.

Work is pretty much the reason why I'm not full time.

I am not out at work.  My boss mentioned to me the other day about the diversity training that he took, and how it included how to treat and recognize transgender individuals.   One of my co-workers told me a about a Bi-gender freind and explained what that mean, little does he know.  He also once asked me if I would wear a skirt?  I told him if it would be accepted by everyone I would as I have the legs for it.

I think I would be accepted, but I love the image I have at work.  The man in black.  I always wear a black dress shirt and black dress pants.

My nails are about 5 mm long with clear polish, my brows are shaped, and I talk to all the girls about fashion and shoes, so it would not take much for people to connect the dots. I feel no need to come out, as I have no intention to go to work dressed in any thing other than my black on black uniform.  I don't wish to identify as a woman, I don't want to change the washroom I use or the pronouns I use, so I don't think there is a need to come out.

If I see someone I know out while dressed I won't hide from them, but I am also not going to go up to them and start taling either.

Paula

Love and hugs

Donna,

Tough topic, at least for me and my situation….because it is the last source of guilt in my life regarding my crossdressing.

My work is overtly and explicitly “supportive” via their policies, promotions and public statements, so you’d think it would be easy to come out, but the culture amoungst co-workers is somewhere between derisive and hostile to anything ‘trans.’  Management would be fine because they ‘have’ to be, it’s the rest of the workforce that is challenging.  Easier to come out as a gay man than a crossdressing one, and therein is the source of guilt.  At least at my workplace, nobody cares if a man is gay, but a part-time crossdresser?  That is something that I think scares them, because they don’t understand it, and, because, IMO, that they can’t predict it (their ‘gay-dar’ protects them from being surprised much of the time, but they don’t have any ‘CD-dar’ senses so when one of those individuals pops up in front of them it’s a big shock).  My co-workers and managers would be absolutely dumbfounded to learn that I was a crossdresser and it would so change how they interact with me that even thought there is zero chance that I’d actually lose my job, my job would become so different and so stressful that I choose to stay locked away in my current work closet.

And the guilt here is that I am, I believe, well-respected at my work, and if they could understand that everything about me that makes me that person that they so respect includes, and has always included, crossdressing, then perhaps a few of them wouldn’t be so afraid of it, would seek to understand it, and resultantly, remove some of their preconceptions and judgements about it - which would be a beautiful thing, and a step in the ‘public acceptance’ direction for all of us……….if the courage existed to do it, and the strength existed to suffer the consequences.  Ashamedly, I don’t have it in me…

Marcellette