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Hi Girls,
Love the poll, I have chosen number 3, the only time I have even been out en femme was to my wife’s crossdress birthday party! Over and above that my wife doesn’t approve of me getting all dressed up!
Hopefully one day I’ll be able to go out in full en femme mode!
Happy 2019! Let’s see what the year is going to bring us!
Huggs Connie
I have only been out a few times at nite just walking the side walks, but a thrilling experience for sure ! Each time i would venture a bit further. That first step out on the walk and the sound of the shoes is terrifying but once you get going , it is one of the most exhilarating experiences i have ever had.
Lisa
I've never been out to any sort of venue dressed up I've been out in my car a few times dressed up late at night which has been very nice to actually get out en femm,, I'm hoping to get out a bit more this year i would love to have a proper photo shoot while being fully dressed and made up, to be able to see what it feels to actually look and feel like a real woman would be great i will keep you all posted on how things go for me xxxxx hugs Rozalyne x i hope everyone has a great new year xxxxx
Been out a few times now, almost all since joining this wonderful site!
First time out as Laura was my wife's costume party 3 years ago.
I had to collect 2 friends of my wife's from the station, and their train got in 15 mins before the party started. Hence I had to go out in costume (as per my profile page).
They didn't know what my car looked like so I had to go into the station to find them.
Given that order from my wife, how could I possibly refuse :0)
Even though the female friend had seen me en femme before, at a Halloween party at her house, my outfit caught her a bit by surprise - and her new boyfriend was visibly shocked hehehe. Especially as the dress had a slight tendency to rise up and show a little more than was decent - but then, I was a pop star, and pop stars in short dresses do that (I'm thinking Agnetha from ABBA in the early days).
Every time we meet up with them he makes some humourous comment like "No dress this time?", and I come back with "Maybe next time, darling!". It could actually be next time if I get my way...
Um... so my answer is sometimes :0)
Love
Laura
I sadly don't have the ability to amass a full-on femme outfit. My wife is not supportive, and we have a small house with limited hiding spots! Also I feel like there is literally no way I would pass, even from a distance, and I wouldn't have the confidence to go out. Maybe one day I'll just screw up the courage and say 'Fuck it' (can we swear here? I swear an awful lot in real life...) and just go out. But not anytime in the foreseeable future.
Even though I've been dressing at home for many years I've never done much with makeup and only one cheap wig. I'd like to get some professional help with both first, practice at home, then maybe venture out, but far away from the small town I live in now.
I have gone out a few times fully dressed wig make up. I go out wearing female jeans, tights, leggings and tops all the time. Friends and family know,I very rarely get negative comments from strangers. Why because I just don't care about what others think and neither should you. Your Family should stand by your side. Friends shouldn't care either. If they do then they where never your friend to start with. Remember it's not the clothes that make the person but the person that makes the person. If we are not free to express ourselves then life would be boring.
I’m not per say, scared, but I would like someone with experience to help me get dressed and made up because I have never fully dressed before. If I had someone to help me, I’d love to go out.
I haven't gone out because I do not have enough clothes to go out yet. I can't drive and I live a few minutes out of town, the only way to town is the highway and I don't feel like walking along the highway. I can't get a ride either because I'm still closeted. Still trying to think of a way around it.
Before I signed up here and subsequently had "the talk" with my SO, I was petrified of going out dressed in case anyone saw me - unless I was either with my SO, or had "permission", as in the episode I described previously.
Then, about a year ago, my massage therapist took on a Trans assistant to her growing staff. Her establishment offers "fun" therapies as well as "proper" therapies - I go for the latter as I have a diagnosed back condition, which affects the whole sciatic nerve system. The reason I have chosen this establishment over high street ones is that she offers therapies which include the butt area - which high street ones avoid. The butt is a major part of the nerve system which affects my lower back pain, so missing it out leaves me in concentrated pain.
When the new assistant started, my therapist recommended her to me, but I could not accept, being repelled by the thought of being touched by a genetic man, even if he had transitioned. Judge me as you will, it is just my feeling.
Each time I made a booking, she would try to get me to try this assistant until I said that I'd rather wear a dress myself than be massaged by a guy in a dress. This tickled her - she has a great sense of humour and I've been going to her for nearly 10 years.
Shetold me that if I wore a dress to my session, I could have a 10% discount.
What further encouragement did I need?
I made myself up, dressed, and drove over excitedly. When I got there, I had a short walk from where my car was parked to her shop.
She saw me on the CCTV and phoned me instantly, excitedly telling me how gorgeous I looked. The duty therapist let me in, and was so conplimentary, making me feel instantly relaxed.
I have been going there fully dressed ever since, enjoying the drive, but with a packed bag of male clothing just in case!
Now I've talked to my SO, who it transpires is not bothered about anyone except her parents and our children seeing me, I no longer need permission from others.
But I did need my wife's. If only I'd recognised that earlier in life!
I envy people who do not feel like they need permission - and now I'm much freer, I wonder why I thought I did - what, exactly does one stand to lose realistically?
Before, I remained in the closet, essentially cutting myself off from the world like a self-imposed prison sentence, for which I'd committed no crime (thanks, Freddie Mercury!).
Now I feel a bit more like a champion. I just need to knock down the final barriers one at a time. There is more work to do, to bring understanding to others and obtain the widest possible acceptance.
Maybe there's still something inside that's stopping me - I need my wife's understanding on a much wider scale. But that is something to work on this year!
I hope 2019 brings you lovely ladies more acceptance - and please do go out. It's the ultimate feeling of liberation.
Love
Laura
Hi Fiona great poll :), I have selected no the whole idea of going out scares me. Although I am able to stand in my doorway at home which looks out to a busy main road dressed femme and have a cigarette! I am starting to get to a point where I actually don't care what people will think of me and they can keep their opinions to themselves! I am who I am so deal with it :).
Love Samantha x
Fear not, I am woman but not yet presentable as such, with a little help from my friends I will vey soon be with you.
Love you
Rami
I underdress a lot, wearing panties underneath my "guy clothes" at least 50% of the time. As for going out fully femme, I'm scared of doing it yet for several reasons. First, there is the fear of being recognized by a co-worker, or in my case as a college lecturer, a student. I know most of them would be accepting, but still. Second, while most of the people in the city where I live are fairly liberal, it's still in a very conservative area of the South, so not passing may cause some issues. Plus, I'm very shy, so the idea of strangers staring at me scares the bejeezus out of me. Last, I don't feel ready yet in my journey to step out. My voice is baritone and my posture/mannerisms just aren't to a place yet where I can feel comfortable being outside. I worry the whole experience would be ruined because I'd give the vibe of being "some weird dude in women's clothing".
wow, this thing got long. Thanks for reading!
Cate
I have not gone out, I'm shy-ish by nature, but it's something I think about doing. I'd love to find a couple of girls in my area to do a make-over day over a glass of wine or two, then we just walk around a park or something, go shopping maybe, chit-chat, get a drink somewhere. No plans, just being out and about as a woman. I fear running into someone that'd recognize me. As big as my city is, it can be a small world sometimes. Carrying patience with it!
I went out fully en femme over fifteen years ago on Halloween and had a great time (it was Halloween - I wasn't worried about being outed since I was wearing a "costume" as far as anybody else was concerned). Since then, I have only driven around a couple times after dark without stopping anywhere (did stop and get gas once) or have gone outside and stayed near my house at night. That's it. I'm still fully closeted and the only people that know of me are the ladies here at CDH.
Maybe someday it will change, but I am not optimistic.
Tricia