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I am one of the very Lucky ones here on CDH that have such a wife. We've been doing it together for over 40 years until she became disabled, and wheelchair-bound, and it would draw too much attention if someone we knew approached us while I'm dressed and wondered who the 'other woman with her' was.
We've been everywhere over a hundred times. shopping, trying on clothes, restaurants, movies, plays, drag shows and symphony concerts. I cherish and respect those memories.
Any others want to share their 'Out as Girls story?'
Currently single so I chose 'Never'. My last relationship was a DADT, so 'Not Interested' would've been the best choice 2+ years ago. Every relationship before that would've been 'Never' except for a GF I had at university that was very supportive. She was decades ahead of her time.
The gals that have supportive SOs are very fortunate.
/EA
@meghan47 I answered No only because it hasn’t come up yet as far as going out. But my wife did my makeup, took pictures and dressed me too!
@meghan47 My wife met Patty a couple of weeks after we met. I had been going out dressed for three years. I was at a party and got home late. I got undressed and figured I would put my clothes away in the morning. My new girlfriend decided to surprise me, showing up at my place. I was happy to see her, but I forgot about he clothes I left out. She noticed them and was not happy. She apologized about just showing up. She was going to leave and wouldn't bother me anymore. She thought I lived with a woman.
I decided to come clean. I told her the clothes were mine. I enjoyed wearing them and I had been out at a party the night before. I didn't have a chance to put them away. She seemed suspicious. Then she asked me to how her.
I took the clothes in the bedroom and put them on with makeup and everything. When I waked out, she was shocked and stunned. She could not believe how pretty and sexy I was and how different I looked. That same day we went out shopping as girlfriends. Then we began going out often. She would often take me to places I would not have gone to just going out on my own.
Sorry, I didn't answer your poll,,I fall in an 'other ' category. As I have mentioned here before I am divorced, but the EX and I still live in the same house. She is upstairs and me downstairs. She knows I am a full time CD. She will go from calling me weird saying you were born male you shouldn't be dressing like a woman. To asking me to take her to a nearby outlet mall. EVEN THOUGH she knows I will be presenting as female. We have gone to numerous shopping events and family events over the last 18 months this way..
Cassie
@meghan47 I wasn't planning on such a reaction and response. I became her girlfriend and boyfriend.
@harriette Yes, it was a surprise at how she reacted, and how she thought it would be fun if we were girlfriends. There was a time where We we were girlfriends most of the time when we were together.
@meghan47 I thought when she saw the clothes and assumed I lived with a woman she was going to leave and we were done. So I figured I might as well tell her the truth. I was very surprised it went that well.
@meghan47 Sadly, we haven't gone out with me en femme, except last year's Pride Parade. We do go out sometimes together with me dressed ambiguously.
It is what it is.
I voted Never because I have not been out in public. My wive is very supportive, but I have not approached her on the idea of going out while dressed.
Davina
Never going to happen - no matter how much I wish it would... Meghan; you have been lucky - I just wish your wife could have been able to carry on as before - she sounds like a remarkably lovely lady. Holly XXX
I am very lucky as well. My wife has helped me more and more as she has gotten to feel better about me being a girl inside. We are still doing couples therapy together via video and I am able to dress for the visits. Over the past months I have gotten up early each day and to the full on dress up and my wife has been excited to see what I put on for my morning time as Mickie Rose.
My wife has helped me from the beginning when I first expressed my desire for dressing. Together, she has helped me buy clothes (including panties), shoes and taught me about make up. Whenever I dress, I always do a "presentation" for her so that I can get a constructive critique.
As for going out in public as "girlfriends", it will probably never happen. Not unless we are in another location. Where I live is pretty conservative and too many people know me. It would cause too many problems. However, she has stated that if we went somewhere on vacation and I wanted to bring Karla's things along, she would have no problem with us stepping out together in public.
My wife is accepting and fine with my dressing, but says I probably shouldn't go out in public, so that is off the table, at least together. Whe I agree I probably shouldn't, I still do, but only solo.
If I asked her to go out with me, and we were away from home, I rhink she would, reluctantly. Someday I may ask her, but I prefer dressing fully when she is not home, and only dress partially when she is home (but have fully dressed in front of her as well.)
Hi
well again I am very lucky to have a very supportive wife in that she helps me a lot , at first she was surprised and couldn’t understand it, not that she was objecting just didn’t know how to deal with it, but as time went by she gradually came to terms with her feelings and doesn’t object to me dressing, but to be fair she like for me just to keep it in house as it were, though my feelings are to get out and meet others, though we have gone for drives together whilst I have been dressed and once we stopped in a quit place and she let me walk up an down the road,thing is where I live just do seem to find others though I know there are many,oh well
WENDY
My GF of ~10yrs is quite happy to go out with me. However, she's a bit more introverted and I'm a bit more....ok, ok fine a lot more extroverted. So I go out a few times/month. I'd say she goes out with me maybe once every other month - mainly to the bigger events. However she did attend Keystone with me this year! 🙂
I realize now that I am one of the very lucky people who has an understanding spouse, but saying that, I need to do some explaining.
I am one of those who knew at a very young age that I was supposed to be a girl, and had to live with that knowledge, growing up as a very feminine boy in a time and culture where that was simply not allowed! Years went by and I would escape into my feminine world by dressing in "my clothes", which was called being a transvestite, and later a crossdresser. I always knew I was more than that, and came to an understanding that I was transgender. I came out to my spouse that I needed to transition and her response was tentatively supportive, but after some consideration, suggested that I should find my own place for awhile so she could think about things. She helped me find a new place, helped me move, and actually helped me with clothing and makeup. We remained in contact with each other for a year but didn't get together.
So I transitioned where I work and started living and working as a woman two years ago. This past year I developed a medical condition that required a visit to the ER. I was told I had something relatively unique to women, and waited to see a doctor. The lady doctor who saw me, after asking many questions and telling me things about myself I was never aware of, told me the my chromosomes are XXY and my hormone balance is high in estrogen, she placed her hand on my knee and said, "Lauren, you are intersex, you are a woman!"
I told my spouse the news and suggested we should see each other for the first time. She said it would be okay as I do pass as a woman and speak in a feminine voice. We met for dinner and she was totally fine seeing me as the woman I am, saying I can't be blamed for who I was born as. We now get together as a couple of girls several times a week, going shopping, out to eat, and many other things. If we are to live together again, it will be her call as I won't push that on her.
I do know that I am extremely fortunate and have to say that it truly is marvelous having an understanding spouse!
Hugs girls,
Ms. Lauren M
I am on the unlucky side. Sometimes it sucks, but I won't give up on that. So I am on the way to make my own chances. Best company is the best, but maybe it is better to walk alone than in bad company. I'm having more fun lately. Here at CDH I feel supported and you have become an essential part of my life. If I think about it better, I think I can also feel on the lucky side.
Gisela
My wife has been part of my crossdressing journey for the entire time we have been married, which will be for 50 years in another two years.
Not only have we been out together as two women and assisted each other with clothing purchases, but over the years she has been involved along with me in support groups. She has worked with the SOs, spouses, and GFs of crossdressers to help them better understand why their man wants to wear female clothing. Here in Atlanta we served together on the administrative board of the local TRIESS group until that group was taken over by a negative power person, at which time we resigned.
Later, we assisted a local therapist establish a better equipped facility for counseling and assisting transgender persons and crossdressers.
Peggy Sue and I were both on the Board..me for six years and leaving for similar reasons. My SO served on the Board also. I had hoped Peggy Sue and her wife would succeed me but the Board decided to change their stance from requiring one third of the board be gg to not permitting couples to serve, effectively vetoing ggs. My SO not only goes out with me but buys fem clothes for me without my asking. I'd much rather shop together but haven't been able to get out much and we plan to go on a cruise with many other CDs and she thinks there is nothing in my two huge closets that will be suitable for going to Alaska so insists on upgrading me as well as ensuring I have fresh makeup. I have mixed feelings about her choices. She thinks the one pair of women's slacks I find adequate won't do, for instance, so dresses appear limited to evenings. But that's a small price to pay for such support. Our relationship is rocky, and she doesn't encourage my dressing at home as much as I'd prefer, but I can't complain about her tolerance for my dressing. She at one point told me I should wear a bra but now says I shouldn't unless in public as Rhonda... A bit backwards thinking it seems to me, but in that case I haven't given in since a bra is to me essential, however dressed.
I replied never as I don't go out in public with or without my wife. Keeping my dressing in the hosue is one of the rules we agreed to.
That being said over the years she has become more accepting of my dressing. We go for mani-pedi's together and I get color on my toes (recently got color on my fingers), she helped me buy make up and helps me put it on ( I put it on and she fixes it), we go shopping together (once she had me try on heels in the shoe store which surprised me), occasionally I will spend the day dressed with her being present, she suggested and took me to get my ears pierced, as well as other things I am not remebering at the moment. There have been a couple occasions where I have worn a pair of black ankle boots when dressed in drab. She helped me buy them and said they look like male cowboy boots and would be okay to wear out.
I seriously doubt that going out dressed will ever happen but I'm not giving up hope of that happening. I am happy with what I am able to do as before coming out to her a few years ago I didn't dress at all even though the desire was there.
XOXO
Suzanne
I'm one of the lucky ones. my wife is super supportive, we shop, get our monthly pedi's, and go out together, she even plans some of our outings. Yesterday she said she wanted to go out with Emily this coming Friday.
I reveal Lisa to my wife for the first time this past September. I wasn’t sure how she would accept what I needed to tell her. I say needed because I was getting so depressed I wasn’t sure what to do next. I am one of those that put other people in front of myself. How would she feel about Lisa, what would she do, who would she tell, could I should I tell her? I needed the right moment. I thought we might have a DADT relationship since I would dress up in panties and stockings sometimes for those moments. But not always, needed to feel the temperature in the room first to see if was acceptable. Long story short she asked if I wanted one of her bras one night and I told her “no, I have my own.” That opened the can of worms up. As it turns out she was disappointed that I wasn’t wearing panties and stockings more and was delighted when I put MY bra on. We talked that night for 3-4 hours, both of us dressed in our own set of lingerie. She renamed me Mia, as Lisa was the name of a few former girl friends. She loves having me back, no more depression. She now knew what had been bothering me now for so long. No more depression. As she said that night “I have 100% of you now. My husband, my best friend and now my BFF Mia!” Ever since than we have built a new wardrobe around the two of us. She’s a retired high school math teacher of 45 years, and has nothing but teachers clothing. So we spent some bucks at TJ’s, Torrid, Ross’s and other places and both were happy with our new attire we picked out. A few items we both liked and so we bought two. Found out we were the same size 16 in jeans and trousers. Within a week I had everything, from clothing to make-up to jewelry. Yes everything a woman would want to have, including a loving wife. My hair is now down around my shoulders and my ears are pierced, I love the feeling of dangling ear rings on my lobes. I’m Lisa/Mia 24/7 at home and only drab now when traveling. We live in the county so going outside dressed isn’t a problem, but I’m still careful. We are planing a summer trip from VA to Nebraska and back. Stopping a visiting minor league ballparks and catching a game or two along the way. We are checking safe areas where we could have a hassle free girls night out for drinks, dinner and a movie. It would be my coming out in public party, but away from those that know me.
my wife has been super supportive and very accepting of me. She lets me know what I do right or wrong. I’ve taught her a few eye make up tips and she has taught me blush placement and usage. At times we are like two women having a great time together. She was worried at first if this made her “a lesbian?” I don’t think so, but you never know! She does like playing with my lingerie! It’s been over 7 months now, she is still thrilled to with shopping, dressing, cooking, chatting and being with Mia (and drab me as well at times).
My wife doesn't mind me dressing at home but she would never go out with me as Lacy. She'll tolerate me going out occasionally but is very scared someone we know will see me and recognize me. We live in a very small and conservative community. That being said ,today Iwent out as Lacy and went to the drive up window and got take out for our dinner I also went to the lake and walked out on the docks.
